life can be unfair

Discussion in 'New Member Introductions' started by treetruck, Mar 29, 2010.

  1. treetruck

    treetruck New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2010
    Messages:
    135
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    hawaii
    I was walking down the street there was a couple in front of me they looked to be upward of seventy, both white haired with lined faces, but obviously healthy and in excellent condition. And I noted a twinge of jealousy, openly affectionate toward one another. they walked with there intertwined, exchanging frequent smiles and glances full of love and heat. It was a heartwarming sight, but it filled me sadness. Greg and I could never do something as holding hands in public without first assessing the situation-the environment, the people, the prevailing attitude toward gays. I envied straight couples the easy openness of their relationship. At that moment, I would've given anything to know what it was liketo take my lover's hand without a second's consideration for what anyone else might think, or do. I've been with my partner for 26 years.. Its just sad!!!!
     
    #1 treetruck, Mar 29, 2010
    Last edited: Mar 29, 2010
  2. invisibleman

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Oct 10, 2005
    Messages:
    9,976
    Likes Received:
    39
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    North Carolina

    Well, count your blessings.

    There are many men who would like to be with a partner for 26 years or more. I only had a partner for six years. It took me a looonnng time to find a guy that even stayed with me for that long.

    Life is unfair for many folks.




     
    #2 invisibleman, Mar 29, 2010
    Last edited: Mar 29, 2010
  3. B_ILIW

    B_ILIW New Member

    Joined:
    Sep 25, 2009
    Messages:
    1,448
    Likes Received:
    3
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Birmingham, UK
    we cannot control others' thoughts or feelings.

    And who are these people to you? if they're not family/friends, then why does it matter?

    Do you live in a homophobic area?

    welcome to the forum! :biggrin1:
     
  4. ferfed

    ferfed <img border="0" src="/images/badges/member.gif" wi
    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 26, 2010
    Messages:
    1,134
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    5
    tis the life...
     
  5. treetruck

    treetruck New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2010
    Messages:
    135
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    hawaii
    thank you for responce
     
  6. TheRob

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 23, 2007
    Messages:
    5,011
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    642
    I'm straight but I'm single and I have been for a very long time
    even if you can't show it in public, at least you arn't alone
    believe me there are a lot of people who have it worse

    I'm not saying it isn't worth being sad over, just that being straight isn't like "better" really
    besides if they were both really in thier 70's, when they were younger the societial restrictions would have limited them from showing that kind of affection in public as well
    things change
    society included
     
  7. ferfed

    ferfed <img border="0" src="/images/badges/member.gif" wi
    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 26, 2010
    Messages:
    1,134
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    5
    yeah true ^
     
  8. Countryguy63

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jun 29, 2006
    Messages:
    14,488
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    1,448
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    near Monterey, Calif.
    Verified:
    Photo
    Although I'm not so sure that I would even be interested in doing that yet, I do feel bad for those that want to, but are afraid of the ignorance that they might encounter. :mad:
     
  9. meanestpenis

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 20, 2010
    Messages:
    68
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    newark, nj
    Verified:
    Photo
    But does the old geezer have a BIG PENIS?!?!?!
     
  10. crescendo69

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 27, 2006
    Messages:
    8,142
    Likes Received:
    20
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Knoxville, TN
    Everything is relative, my son. But when I did have a partner, we were careful, too. Once, in NYC, he was mad at me, and as "punishment", he said he would forgive me only if I danced with him (we were in I straight dance bar on the top of a hotel; very ritzy). I did, and fortunately, nobody seemed to care. I'm not sure that would have happened back in Tennessee.
     
  11. TheRob

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 23, 2007
    Messages:
    5,011
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    642
    that's sort of bitchy of him
     
  12. crescendo69

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 27, 2006
    Messages:
    8,142
    Likes Received:
    20
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Knoxville, TN
    I know, but we actually loved it. May he rest in peace.
     
  13. invisibleman

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Oct 10, 2005
    Messages:
    9,976
    Likes Received:
    39
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    North Carolina

    That is the sign of true love though.
    :smile:
     
  14. DV8

    DV8
    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jun 1, 2006
    Messages:
    1,071
    Albums:
    5
    Likes Received:
    152
    Gender:
    Male
  15. Darkriff

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jul 12, 2009
    Messages:
    391
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    24
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Kentucky
    Verified:
    Photo
    I'm sorry to hear that my surfin buddy, I'm jealous of you tho, I wish I could have a partner for 26 years :(
     
  16. invisibleman

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Oct 10, 2005
    Messages:
    9,976
    Likes Received:
    39
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    North Carolina
    Yep. I agree.

    If a man can put up with me (and I with him) for 26 years...that has to be some love.
    Not too many get that kinda man. I was lucky to get a man to stay with me for six.

    So. Life is unfair in some situations but it all balances out in other areas. So really it is in how you look at things.
     
  17. conntom

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Feb 23, 2008
    Messages:
    2,176
    Likes Received:
    147
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Boston (MA, US)
    Grass is always greener on the other side. Stop wallowing.
     
  18. treetruck

    treetruck New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2010
    Messages:
    135
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    hawaii
    Grass is always greener on the other side. Stop wallowing. not sure I get this, there are no sides theres only a sadness that love cant show it self for eveyone!
     
  19. treetruck

    treetruck New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2010
    Messages:
    135
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    hawaii
    invisibleman, I'm sure you sell yourself short, for you to take the time to responed to something like this means to me you have love, in you therefor I belive you can be loved
     
  20. onewatcher

    onewatcher Active Member

    Joined:
    Sep 6, 2008
    Messages:
    474
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    61
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    So. Calif, Sicily
    It has to begin sometime!!!! Take your partners hand!!!! Most likely people will assume you are from Europe where it is the norm, as it is in the Middle East. I worked there for 8 yrs and learned it's the way of life for men to hold hands and even kiss each other on both cheeks when they meet.
    Things are changing rapidly. Who ever thought you'd ever see two macho actors kiss each other at the Academy Awards?
     
Draft saved Draft deleted