Just got a call my grandma is in the ER and they want to put her on a ventilator. My aunt refused the vent per grandma's wishes. She is basically in impending respiratory failure, due to phneumonia, COPD, and asthma (she never smoked a day in her life). So, instead of probably losing just one grandparent by the end of the month. I will probably be losing both of them. I'm trying not to be selfish wanting them both here, they are unhappy and in pain. Their quality of life, basically isn't a quality of life either of them want. After 64 years of marriage, 5 children, 6 grandchildren, and two great grandchildren. They have both lived their lives with dignity and respect. I am glad I had the chance to know them a lot better in the past two years. I heard many wonderful stories from both of them. I just wish for them to be at peace and not in pain. I guess it comes down to, if it were me I would rather go about the same time as my significant other so you don't have to deal with the grief of losing your partner for such a long time. I just still hate the thought of losing them.