Like Guys until i orgasm then not into dudes

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  1. 7"24

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    Hey guys title says it all i have some gay attributes but also like girls, but i jack off to gay porn but as soon as I come i cant stand guys or gay porn, i cant imagine having anal sex, and could never swallow cum. Does anyone else out there have the same issues?
     
  2. D_stryhtfg

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    Yes...I feel the same way. The more horny I am, the more I want to do with a guy...but as soon is I cum, I have no desire for them...

    Nice Vette BTW...
     
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    Hi, I had this exact same issue for years. I would wank to gay porn and love the idea of cock but as soon as I had come I would feel almost disgusted with myself, really not like the idea of men at all. Let's just say I waited one day until I was horny and got in touch with a guy online, we met up and now I class myself as bi and still like men even when not horny. I thought all the same things too about not swallowing cum and the idea of anal sex also repulsed me. I think it is some sort of rebelling against the idea of being gay as I was from a small village where stereotypes are strong and I don't like the stereotype queeny gay so I hated the idea of gay sex after I had come and had a clearer head!

    Hope this helps.
     
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    I'm like that with women. :rolleyes: Seriously though, you are not alone. It happens to a lot of guys. This is where a lot of gay-bashing comes in to play. Lots of guys are into it until they nut, then they want to kick some ass to make themselves feel better. There are plenty of gay men who are just the same way. They are so mentally set thinking that being gay or doing any gay act is just wrong. A very good friend of ours who is 46 years old was seeing a therapist up to last year for this very same reason. He's been an out gay man for his whole adult life & always been attracted to men but whenever he acted upon his feelings & desires, he would feel remorseful & guilty. Talking about your feelings is the first step & hopefully you'll be able to work things out & feel better about yourself.
     
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    I'm the same mate. With women I like to carry on fucking after I've cum, but with men as soon as I've cum, that's it for me.
     
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    It sounds to me like you are in conflict with your sexuality.

    For years, due to a strict, fundamentalist Christian upbringing, I believed my submissive and masochistic fantasies were perverted and wrong. Mind you, that didn't stop me from having them. The drive was just too strong.

    However, like you, once I got off and the orgasmic bliss faded, I felt disgusted with myself and whatever I had just fantasized about.

    I would pray to God to forgive me, but eventually I even stopped that because I knew myself well enough to know that the urge would come back, and I would do it again.

    I don't know if your conflict with your feelings stems from your upbringing, or whether the cause is something else, but it is clear you are at the very least a voyeur of homosexuality, because you keep watching (and initially enjoying) gay porn.

    I ask you, if you ultimately turned out to be bisexual, would that really be so bad? Do you have some beliefs that are in conflict with that? Or is it really just that the idea of actually having sex with a man really does turn you off? If so, you can always limit your activities to voyeurism only. There's nothing to say every sexual urge has to be acted out in real life.

    I would encourage you, as much as you can, to examine whether you feel guilty about or afraid of your behaviour. And if you do, why is that? And are the reasons truly logical?

    I know it took years for me to disentangle myself from my upbringing -- even after I had let the religion go, I was still stuck with some of the attitudes, and they were very hard to uproot.

    But when I finally came to a place where I could accept that every human being has a unique sexuality, and that the vast majority of us have no choice in the matter, we just seem hard-wired the way we are, I came to believe that no one has a right to judge another.

    And perhaps even more importantly, no one should judge him or herself.
     
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    I was the same. Now, i still see guys as purely sexual and have no urge for relationships with men, but i can come and still feel like i like it.

    I think you just need to realise that sexuality is fluid and doesnt matter. After that, its easier.
     
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    I understand your feelings. I think it is part of being bisexual, perhaps. But, there are even some gay guys who don't necessarily engage in anal sex, and who don't swallow cum.
     
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    Very well said, Belly Dancer
     
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    I have had such recurring feelings over my lifetime. I believe I have rationalized them as perhaps my not really being gay at the core....just turned on to using/having sex with those gay guys! What a bunch of baloney! If I had it to do over, I would recognize and accept that I am gay and be done with the stupid conflicts and coverups!:cool:
     
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    I know the feeling well. When I was 15 to 18 I had 3 jerk off buddies (mutual and sometime oral). In all cases we were really into it until we came and then there would be a slight awkwardness. It was always a problem because one guy would finish the other off and then when it was his turn to cum, the other guy would have lost interest and be keen to just get it over and then leave! We were all "straight" (probably 70/30 or 80/20) and there were certainly no emotions involved, just sex.

    I sometimes have this same response when I do other "unusual" sexual things like watching gay porn, group sex, anal play, or even phone sex with an ex etc.. I basically lose it when I get really horny and then afterwards I come back down to earth and feel a little guilty.
     
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    This explains some of the creepier encounters I've had. In retrospect, I'd recommend asking not "will you still love me tomorrow?" but "will you turn into a creepy homophobe the second you cum?" Because there is nothing quite as awful as feeling waves of guilt and disgust emanating from a guy you just had sex with. That said, I'm the same way with porn in general-- as soon as I cum I turn it off; all interest is gone.
     
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    I've said this before on lpsg. There's a difference between being attracted to men in a general sense, and then being attracted to specific guys. At least that's my experience. I'm not sexually attracted to most males, but there have been some guys who are very good looking or sexy or who I have some emotional feelings for who I'm really hot for. And it's not just about being horny. I feel the same way about women.
     
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    having the same problem...totally the same..)).
    one guy said to me that this happen probably because it is dirty stuff for us and that's why we are so excited before we cum... but after we just getting the idea how bad it is... and feel really guilty..))

    =((..
     
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    Wow! I'm so glad I came across this thread. This describes how I have felt most of my life. I've never had anything but heterosexual encounters, but I do fantasize A LOT about having sex with attractive guys I've met, seen (at the gym and later nude in the locker room, sauna and shower), and in gay porn. Once I masturbate and ejaculate, I'm no longer interested in men or gay porn at all. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who feels this way! :cool:
     
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    same me... we are not alone..)) lol..
     
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    It's called norephinephrine.

    It's like anti-adrenaline and anti-seratonin. It hits after the ecstasy of the orgasm and is meant to reset things to normal. In some guys the effect is too strong due to too much of the norepinephrine being produced. This brings on a sense of dread, nervousness, and/or regret and guilt.

    Most guys eventually get over it, but yeah it's hormonal. And of course if you have all these negative feelings suddenly after orgasm with a guy, then you'd naturally express that in your mind as 'this is wrong' or 'get away from me' or simply a lack of interest.

    It's not your sexuality or your true likes and dislikes, it's your endocrine system.
     
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    This is actually quite common. As has been said it is partially hormonal and the only hormone left out by a previous poster is believe it or not prolactin. In men, this hormone is used to regulate sexual desire. As we become aroused we build a bolus of this hormone which triggers on ejaculation. A man who has very low prolactin levels will be horny and ready to go again quickly, a man with high prolactin levels will not be inclined towards sex at all. The guy with the worst time in the whole thing is the fellow who operates with a low level and then gets a very high or large dose on ejaculation. This completely kills not only sex drive, but can cause some other psychological things as well.

    There are many who direct all their sex fantasies and "adventures" to same sex encounters and then have problems once the ejaculation is over.

    In some people this is crippling and has many bad effects destroying relationships of every kind. An example of this being out of control would be a situation where you are with a sex partner and are unable to satisfy that partner in any manner if you ejaculate first. You're only way out on this one is to deliberately delay your own enjoyment as a method of control to try and satisfy your partner.

    In all cases some counseling would be helpful and if there are any tendencies towards violence felt to the other individual after orgasm, then counseling and help should be very important to you.
     
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    Shit...now I have hormone problems.......:biggrin1:

    But I guess that would explain the "dread, nervousness, and/or regret" after the few times I have cammed with another guy online...but those feelings would last for days...

    Damn the body is complicated.
     
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    I'm the same way- When I'm really horny, I want to do everything with a guy, suck dick, swallow cum, fuck a guy, etc... But, after I cum, I'm 100% done and want absolutely nothing to do with guys at all! I start telling myself that I shouldn't have done what I did, wtf did I do that for, etc... Definitely not the same when I'm with a chick- I could fuck her after I cum for a long time and not be repulsed by her at all.

    Crazy, I know...
     
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