Like Guys until i orgasm then not into dudes

[sdbg]

Very thought provoking thread. I just read all of the posts to this topic. I know that I'm gay, attracted to men in every way that one person can be attracted to another person, and have no issue with that part of the topic. I would like to have a relationship with a guy if the right one comes along.

What is interesting to me about the entries in this thread is the mood swing after we blow our load and how it affects each of us in different ways. I have some great photos on my PC of hot, athletic guys in Speedos, wresting singlets, etc. that I look at for J/O. Once I blow, I'm done with it and close the file right away and move on. I get really horny and want to blow myself sometimes. I have to contort myself into an awkward position to get the tip of my dick in my mouth. I get all worked up, shoot it into my mouth, and then wonder why I wanted to do it in the first place. I love to blow other guys and never get repulsed by blowing and swallowing them - just myself. It's like a switch gets flipped the second I shoot. Strange.

I once picked up a cute, young, blond, athletic guy hitchiking in AZ when I was in my late 20s. It was late at night and I knew he probably would have a tough time getting a ride. He was friendly and lived in the apartment complex just past where I lived. I told him that I'd drop him off at his place. I had just escaped being jumped outside of a gay bar and had some battle scars. The hitchiker asked me what happened as it was obvious that I had been involved in a fight. I was really buffed at the time and was wearing a tank top that showed off my physique and super hairy chest (before we started manscaping). When I told him that I just fought off 2 guys that jumped me outside of a gay bar, he invited me to "have a drink" with him. Once inside his place, he said he wanted to try sex with a guy and asked if I were into it. He blew me, wanted me to fuck him, and then asked if I would blow him. He was rock hard and really turned on. I obliged and he got off really well in short order. The minute he shot his load, he ordered me out of his place. He repeated "Leave now!" I told him to let me at least get my clothes on. I snagged his white briefs as a trophy. I wasn't worried about him hurting me, but he was almost hysterical after he blew his load. Guilt much?! I saw him a week or so later hitchiking near ASU. We looked right at each other. He recognized me and my car, but I didn't bother to stop. I wrote him off as a closet case. I understand his reaction better now.

 

[maxcok]

See I'm the same way. I'm not attracted to guys which is why I know I'm not gay.. A little bi never hurt anyone. I'm more attracted to the sight of a penis than the guy attached to it. I'd never do anything more than bj/hj because the rest of the stuff I just think is kinda gross (no offense) but I'm more attracted to women and their womenly wonders than anything so that's why I know I'm not gay (hence the 10% on my profile). But if I'm swimming in hormones and extremely horny, then damn I could give a shit who/what's going on but I'm still not gonna do the rest of the stuff that gay guys do

I'm gonna assume that by "the rest of the stuff that gay guys do" you mean buttfucking. Feel free to elaborate further if you like. You'd be surprised at the number of self-identified "gay guys" who don't engage in buttfucky sex at all, but only partake in "bj/hj" like yourself. Sexual orientation is not determined by the specific activities you engage in, but by the gender of the person you're engaging with, and the degree to which you engage and how much you enjoy it. That said, and all other things being equal, a guy who likes sucking cock seems to me to exhibit a higher gay quotient than a guy who just likes getting blown by another guy. Higher than 10% imho.

 

[brooklynjackp]

Maxcok, you are genius - to the point, and funny.

I must be a freak, or a lucky man. When I blow, I usually take a few minutes to recover - and I like to rest a bit, thank the man who just blew me (specially if he swallowed), find out if he needs to get off (if he hasnt already). Same with fucking. I certainly still have the "fear of intimacy" (shudder - cliche alert) that I find many men, gay AND straight, feel about easy sex, but that doesnt mean I dont appreciate the efforts that were just expended.
And I get really pissed off when someone else turns off like a cheap radio after they shoot - save that guilt for gawking at your PC, buddy.

 

[bigunzippedstudent9]

With respect to the "DONE with whoever (man or woman)" after cumming, I couldn't agree more. Some buddies of mine say they're ready to go at it again after blowing 1 load, but usually after I blow I don't want anything to do with sex. Its my "quiet time" haha (I'm sure the gf hates that).

Also, personally other than bj/hj/solos I use to find the "rest of he stuff" gay guys do in porn really gross as well. But after watching more gay porn you get use to it and find it hot eventually. At least I did. Even the real extreme stuff like fisting I use to think was really disgusting, but have to admit its interesting. I'm not interested enough to try it, but interested enough to watch. I guess looking back, I tried to convince myself a bit to that I didn't like the "rest of the stuff" so I wouldn't label myself as gay.

 

[maxcok]

Maxcok, you are genius - to the point, and funny.

Thanks, you're very kind to say that, ya big bruiser. :wink:

It's been a while since I visited this thread, so I don't remember if this was mentioned. Male sexual response post orgasm is not just psychological, but physiological, induced at least in part by the body's natural release and/or suppression of certain hormones that contribute to the sense of relaxation, contentment, even fatique most guys experience to varying degrees. During this "refractory period" most guys lose interest in sex entirely. Some guys may also experience feelings of depression, irratibility and anxiety, a phenomenon termed "tritesse", which for some can be quite severe. It's entirely possible these feelings could be further exacerbated by underlying feelings of guilt.

Just so you y'all know, some of these feelings are typical and normal, so it may not all be in your head.

 

[B_Hung Jon]

Thanks, you're very kind to say that, ya big bruiser. :wink:

It's been a while since I visited this thread, so I don't remember if this was mentioned. Male sexual response post orgasm is not just psychological, but physiological, induced at least in part by the body's natural release and/or suppression of certain hormones that contribute to the sense of relaxation, contentment, even fatique most guys experience to varying degrees. During this "refractory period" most guys lose interest in sex entirely. Some guys may also experience feelings of depression, irratibility and anxiety, a phenomenon termed "tritesse", which for some can be quite severe. It's entirely possible these feelings could be further exacerbated by underlying feelings of guilt.

Just so you y'all know, some of these feelings are typical and normal, so it may not all be in your head.

I have felt just the opposite with most of the people, girls or guys, I've had sex with. What I mean by that is that if I didn't think they were attractive and sexy, I wouldn't have been intimate with them in the first place. I like the way they look: face, upper and lower body, arms and hands, legs and feet. I like all of them, and looking at them and being physically close to them gets me horny. It's not as if they're aliens who turn into monsters after we've had an orgasm together. I've never had the impulse to "run away" or have never felt disgusted or guilty after having sex with any guy I've been with. In fact I'd want to hang out with him, maybe cuddle and talk some. I also really enjoy exploring another person's body when we're not having sex. It's super liberating to touch them, listen to their breath and their heart beating, feeling their body all over mine, kissing each other. Sort of bask in their beauty and our connection. Maybe I've been lucky in having sexual partners who are expressive or open-minded. I'm not sure, but after reading all these posts, I'm feeling that I might be the weird one in the bunch. Maybe I'm too much of a romantic. :smile:

 

[maxcok]

I have felt just the opposite with most of the people, girls or guys, I've had sex with. What I mean by that is that if I didn't think they were attractive and sexy, I wouldn't have been intimate with them in the first place. I like the way they look: face, upper and lower body, arms and hands, legs and feet. I like all of them, and looking at them and being physically close to them gets me horny. It's not as if they're aliens who turn into monsters after we've had an orgasm together. I've never had the impulse to "run away" or have never felt disgusted or guilty after having sex with any guy I've been with. In fact I'd want to hang out with him, maybe cuddle and talk some. I also really enjoy exploring another person's body when we're not having sex. It's super liberating to touch them, listen to their breath and their heart beating, feeling their body all over mine, kissing each other. Sort of bask in their beauty and our connection. Maybe I've been lucky in having sexual partners who are expressive or open-minded. I'm not sure, but after reading all these posts, I'm feeling that I might be the weird one in the bunch. Maybe I'm too much of a romantic. :smile:

Not weird at all. In fact, it couldn't be more normal, which is not to say it's necessarily the norm. What you described is the difference between having sex on a purely physical plane vs. sharing affection and sexual intimacy. Did you miss this part?

Male sexual response post orgasm is not just psychological, but physiological, induced at least in part by the body's natural release and/or suppression of certain hormones that contribute to the sense of relaxation, contentment, even fatique most guys experience to varying degrees. . .

It's the physical and emotional connection in tune with your own physiology at that moment, the integration of mind, body and spirit. Sadly, not enough people experience that nearly enough. You are the normal one Jon, and once again you are a shining light on this board.

 

[phillyhangin]

I'm like that with women.

That's me too. It's taken me over eight years to get comfortable with admitting that I might - just might, mind you - be somewhat bi. I tend to go through phases where I'm highly focused on men and then highly focused on women. But even at the extremes, there's usually an element of the other present (meaning that I never seem to hit "100% gay" or "100% str8," even in my fantasies). All of which was quite confusing because up until my first str8-sex fantasy, I'd been exclusively gay with no interest in women beyond friendship.

With regards to porn, just like Bbucko, a lot of what I watch now is straight (with some bi and gay thrown in for variety). My favorites are actually the straight-for-pay shoots - gay porn stars (who are gay in real life) who do straight scenes for the money (or at least that's the marketing campaign!).

Sexuality is often more complicated than neat labels and categories would lead us to believe, so a certain amount of confusion is bound to happen. Also, many people have internalized negative attitudes toward same-sex encounters and this can lead to feelings of regret once the initial rush of lust is gone (as opposed to a simple lack of interest which is hormonal). Just realize that the same-sex attraction you have is a part of who you are and then pay attention to your self-talk after watching gay porn - you'll probably be hearing lots of comments to the effect of "that was dirty," "that was wrong," "I'm a bad person for have done that," etc. For me, I would always come down hard on myself after getting off to straight porn; it was only after I started changing my viewpoint that there was something wrong with me for being attracted to women (and ignoring some of my gay friends who called me a "traitor" for "switching teams") that I started being less judgmental and more open to exploring that emerging side of my sexuality.

 

[haulthat]

response censored-ban prevented

 

[nashboy]

I have felt just the opposite with most of the people, girls or guys, I've had sex with. What I mean by that is that if I didn't think they were attractive and sexy, I wouldn't have been intimate with them in the first place. I like the way they look: face, upper and lower body, arms and hands, legs and feet. I like all of them, and looking at them and being physically close to them gets me horny. It's not as if they're aliens who turn into monsters after we've had an orgasm together. I've never had the impulse to "run away" or have never felt disgusted or guilty after having sex with any guy I've been with. In fact I'd want to hang out with him, maybe cuddle and talk some. I also really enjoy exploring another person's body when we're not having sex. It's super liberating to touch them, listen to their breath and their heart beating, feeling their body all over mine, kissing each other. Sort of bask in their beauty and our connection. Maybe I've been lucky in having sexual partners who are expressive or open-minded. I'm not sure, but after reading all these posts, I'm feeling that I might be the weird one in the bunch. Maybe I'm too much of a romantic. :smile:

not at all its about time someone like you showed up here...its great to read this...esp from a guy

 

[B_jeepguy2]

Most of the guys here with this problem of male attraction/disgust seem to be from the states; a few are from England. Is there a cultural pattern developing here? Perhaps the macho values of male/male non-intimacy that have been instilled in the states and England are messing with our natural feelings toward the same sex.

Anyway, I am not a licensed therapist.:biggrin1:

I think you might be onto something. When I was in Europe I slept with a number of European guys and they were way more affectionate than most American guys I have been with. It amazes me how many gay/bi men here in the USA will suck a guy's dick but will not kiss because they think kissing another man is "too gay".

 

[sexplease]

stick with masturbation and seeing a psychiatrist.

 

[tracjam]

I like looking at cock pictures and videos of women sucking multiple cocks. I jack off and imagine all those cocks sliding in and out of my mouth. I haven't tried it but I think if I ever had a cock in my mouth, I wouldn't stop till he came in my mouth.

 

[nettere007]

Please dont' take this as an insult or an attack, as its not.

This is some bullshit. Society (American) says what subgirrl feels is 100% a ok. If a man expresses this same sentiment, he is ostricized by society in general. The straight men (and to a lesser extent women) want nothing to do with a man who occasionally fantisizes about another man. He is labeled (forgive me for being graphic) to be a faggot, and the heterosexuals (in general) want nothing to do with him. The homosexual men (and women) tell the man that he is in fact gay, get out of the closet, and stop fooling himself. Fact of the matter is the man is not homosexual and he's not heterosexual. He is himself and instead of society celebrating his individuality and freedom to explore (or not) what makes him happy, they try to force him into being something that he's not.

Not everyone is the same. Thats what makes us unique. Stop trying to force someone into categorizing themselves into something they are not.



As a side note, I have been labeled by my peers all of my life as being gay. There's nothing wrong with being gay, and I support anyone who may be gay (or not). It gets really fucking old being told what I am or what I'm not. Fact of the matter is I've never fooled around with another man(aside from being sexually abused by my grandfather as a child), and its highly doubtful that I ever will...not because there's something wrong with it, rather, because I'm not that person. Also, I am not like the seemingly vast majority of straight men. I don't go out and try to fuck as many women as I possibly can, nor do I have sex in a short term relationship. I am old fashioned about sex. I think it is a very special bond between two people who are truly in love with one another. It is the ultimate showing of love for one another.

Yeah i totally agree with you, why everything should be labeled?

 

[daftman]

well, I might grant you that --- all i know is, perhaps there should be a section for bi -- as that is what I am..