Hey. I've never had any sexual relationship with a man but it's getting more tempting. If I'm honest I'd love to experience a man kissing me and being in a sexual situation but... the thought of licking a man's bum hole turns me right off. I mean we all know what comes out of there and putting my tongue in there, yuck I don't think I could do it. Obviously anal sex is quite dodgy with STD's and stuff so all that is really putting me off trying even though I fancy a lot of guys. I guess some people would say 'You don't have to do all that - just have oral sex' or something but come on I think most guys who would go to bed with you would expect a bit more than that. Any advice?
I think you may have to just wait until the the time/guy is right and you want to experience certain things. I don't think that anyone realizes they like men and then wants to experience every sexual item on the MM menu overnight.
I recall that I began with just kissing and being on the receiving end of oral. That evolved into cuddling and topping. From there I started giving oral (as it felt right) and, when I was in a relationship with a man that I trusted and loved, I started to experience a little anal play and eventually began to bottom a bit. Later, with a second man, I tried rimming (its not something I do everyday and it is not something I would do with just anyone.
Now-I have tried many of the items on the menu and my hubby and I try new (old) things to keep each other satisfied.
What I am trying to say is-it may take time, the right person(s) and experimentation for you to discern what you really enjoy. My first time bottoming was not my favorite. Now, I can bottom for my hubby and it is an amazing time.
The elephant in the room is that any anal play must be preceded by cleansing and washing the anal canal and rectum thoroughly.