listening to warning bells and noting red flags.

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  1. dolfette

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    how adept are you?
     
  2. ManlyBanisters

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    Oh I hear them all right - but I often choose to ignore them anyway.

    My record for that was 11.5 years :rolleyes:
     
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    Pretty adept. But I've also been told I'm too harsh so I've tried to give benefit of the doubt if there's a reasonable explanation. Oddly enough when I have given said benefit of doubt my initial instincts prove to have been accurate anyway so I'm just going to accept the "harsh" label and act in accordance with my spidey sense.

    When food smells off we don't eat it just to see if it will make us sick after all, we discard it. Why should we do differently with situations that are "off"?
     
  4. dolfette

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    you & me both.
     
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    I think I'm pretty adept at it, except that I too am probably too harsh. But I've had a few crazies so I think I've earned that right.
     
  6. Principessa

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    When I listen to my inner voice I do quite well,. That is of course when I listen to it. :redface:

     
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    I used to get beat up, in the figurative sense, for having foresight and wanting to do something about it.

    These days I keep my mouth shut and simply say, I've changed my mind. I've noticed a lot of people avoid problems like that with the same methods.
     
  8. dolfette

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    true. unless it's a long term, committed relationship then you don't owe them an explanation.

    ''i've changed my mind'' is quite enough.
     
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    I try to listen to my guy feelings and signals, but I over analyse most things, so sometimes I think it's just my anxiety.

    Generally if something doesn't sit right with me, I call them out on it and/or walk away.
     
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    I have mastered it but its not always a good thing because when I see and feel it, I tend to shut down and move on elsewhere. Not waste anymore of my energy. :eek:(
     
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    Mine intuition is pretty acute. Sometimes though, I see danger headed my way and still walk right up too it for grins & giggles.
     
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    The older I have gotten, the better at it I have become.
     
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    I ok for my lack of experience. My head tells me do this or don't do that while emotional urges are pulling me the other way. Mostly with me trying to hard and being somewhat smothering although I haven't been with this new relationship.
     
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    Sometimes my intuition sends me the signal in Morse Code and by the time I look up all the dashes and dots to decipher the code, it's already been written on the wall.
     
  15. Principessa

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    Yup! Or sometimes the powers that be will send me a sign; but if it's not bright, flashing neon. I don't usually notice those signs. :redface:
     
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    I see the red flags now because i recognize a pattern. I seem to attract the psychos. lol
     
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    ^^ I 2nd that.
     
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    I am very good at this at railroad crossings.
     
  19. Principessa

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    I used to be highly offended when people said, "you attract what you are." Cause I was ending up with some 'batshitcrazy fucks.' Then I realized they were wrong. :smile: You attract, or are attracted to, what you lack. Apparently, subconciously I disliked my calm, orderly life and wanted some 'excitement' for lack of a better term. Once I realized that, I started to explore hobbies and interests outside my comfort zone. I still attract the occassional whack-a-doo, but for the most part no total looney tunes. :cool:
     
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    Oh, JESUS! Mine was 12 years!

    And my best friend from college? Hers was 12 as well. She said to me, "Why didn't you tell me [Jackass] (her ex-hubby) wouldn't treat me well? Why didn't you stop me from marrying him?" My response: "I tried, but you weren't listening."

    It's true. We always want what's not good for us. :frown1:

    NCbear (who's now much more adept at hearing the chime of those little warning bells and seeing those red flags go up :tongue:)
     
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