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I unfortunately am a pornography viewing veteran. (I’m 23) and am completely convinced by not only professional but amateur videos that you absolutely need to be above average to get anyone (I know that’s the porn talking) and to legitimately “please” them. I’d call myself an Incel but I don’t hate women??? Losing the genetic lottery is really a psychological curse man (typed excitedly on my iPad if it isn’t clear enough, sorry and thanks)

How do i get over this baby dick mental mountain?
 
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I unfortunately am a pornography viewing veteran. (I’m 23) and am completely convinced by not only professional but amateur videos that you absolutely need to be above average to get anyone (I know that’s the porn talking) and to legitimately “please” them. I’d call myself an Incel but I don’t hate women??? Losing the genetic lottery is really a psychological curse man (typed excitedly on my iPad if it isn’t clear enough, sorry and thanks)

How do i get over this baby dick mental mountain?
Maybe stop trolling on here and go out and date and find someone who likes you and doesn’t care about your dick.
 

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to the extent that you can, you should consider making some effort to view less pornography, at least for a temporary period.

virtually every grown, proud owner of a penis has some level of preoccupation with its size. it would seem, though, that you realize that the extent of your fixation (or "mental mountain") is well beyond your bounds of rationality. as silly as it could sound at first, it may be worth talking it out with a professional if it truly is a psychological burden on you, which it very well may be. i promise it won't be the most absurd thing a therapist has encountered, and in all likelihood they will have already discussed that exact same source of insecurity with other clients.
 

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First, there's absolutely nothing wrong with your dick that prevents you from satisfying a woman. Work on stamina and staying power. Meaning you make her orgasm before or at least at the same time you do. On those occasions that you nut before her, stay with it until she gets off. I've definitely seen smaller. None of us had a say in the size of our dicks.

Second, be confident in yourself and your ability to please a woman. There are other ways to make a woman orgasm than with your dick.

Porn always uses well hung men. That makes it slanted to the real world and people's perception of dick size. Be confident in yourself.

It's how you use what you've got and the confidence that you know what you're doing that really matters. Be self assured that you can perform the task at hand. Besides most women are going to be drawn to you based on how you look, act, and treat others. Not what you have in the dick department.
 

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I just looked at your pics. I think you cock is very nice. If you know how to oraly please and then use your cock right, you will be ok. Learn to use what you have realky good. There are guy with huge cocks that dont satisfy every person they are with. Some dont know how to use it right.
Has anyone complained aboit not being well satified?
 
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There are a lot of folks who get the same impression as you about penises from porn. You are not alone in that respect.

First: while porn is enjoyable, NEVER accept it as fact. Ever. Period. It is based on fantasy and idealized versions of people. Even amateur porn tends to use above average models.

Second: popular movies/culture makes penis size the end all, be all of finding a mate. The reality is, most women place dick size fairly far down on their list of priorities in a man. The ones that place utmost importance on it are size queens and you don't want to hook up with someone like that anyway.

Third: there are PLENTY of others in the same boat as you on this site. Despite the name, all sizes, great and small can be found here. I myself am a little below average, so I've learned various techniques to pleasure my wife. A lot of women treasure a guy who knows how to use his mouth and fingers. And not all vaginas are the same: you may find what's too small for one woman may work great with another.

Don't be too hard on yourself, in other words.
 

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There are a lot of folks who get the same impression as you about penises from porn. You are not alone in that respect.

First: while porn is enjoyable, NEVER accept it as fact. Ever. Period. It is based on fantasy and idealized versions of people. Even amateur porn tends to use above average models.

Second: popular movies/culture makes penis size the end all, be all of finding a mate. The reality is, most women place dick size fairly far down on their list of priorities in a man. The ones that place utmost importance on it are size queens and you don't want to hook up with someone like that anyway.

Third: there are PLENTY of others in the same boat as you on this site. Despite the name, all sizes, great and small can be found here. I myself am a little below average, so I've learned various techniques to pleasure my wife. A lot of women treasure a guy who knows how to use his mouth and fingers. And not all vaginas are the same: you may find what's too small for one woman may work great with another.

Don't be too hard on yourself, in other words.
Great words .. I’m 6 inches and always felt inadequate
 

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I just looked at your pics. I think you cock is very nice. If you know how to oraly please and then use your cock right, you will be ok. Learn to use what you have realky good. There are guy with huge cocks that dont satisfy every person they are with. Some dont know how to use it right.
Has anyone complained aboit not being well satified?
I think his cock looks great
 

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Losing the genetic lottery? How about some hypotheticals. Imagine for a second that the whole true love thing is real. 100% accurate toward how we human beings find partners. One thing that doesn't really get discussed all that much is women and men rejecting a guy over his large or larger penis size. Basically it not being able to work not only in sex because of that but also because that hinders the relationship. Now imagine having that be the case in a true love story. Wouldn't that be more of a losing the genetic lottery?

I mean aren't there other factors to genetics than just penis size?
 

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It's almost always futile trying to change someone's psychological makeup. Whatever that problem may be. "Don't be afraid of snakes! (or water, crowded spaces, heights, etc.)" "Don't feel you're too short (too fat, too dumb. . . too small)." "Don't be timid (or aggressive, sensitive, paranoid, etc.)"

Who you are is a result of a lot of things, both hereditary (genetic: small cock) and environmental (experiences that determine how you deal with that). The mix is different for all of us.

I'm hung like a chipmunk. I've had a killer love life. I credit that to several counter-balancing genetic factors (like good looks and athleticism) and a supportive environment (loving parents, success in sports and social success). In high school and college I was a really good athlete (mainly football). BMOC. I credit this as the basis for a lot of my confidence. Long before I hit puberty I already felt good about myself. This helped me deal with a lot of the insecurities that later came with having a small dick. Also being great at eating pussy helps!

I've also developed a philosophy. I feel we each determine how things affect us. I myself choose whether to let something bother me or to let it roll off my shoulders like water. Now that isn't something which comes to us instantly. It takes a lot of practice. And I find myself slipping occasionally. But, usually, I catch myself after a bit and say, "You're just making yourself miserable. Move on."

So, first off, you can start working on how you deal with things in your life. Find ways to bolster your confidence. As Johnny Mercer said, "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative." I know I'm good at many things, good-looking, and people like me. (Plus, I've got a gorgeous wife!) I'm sure you can find similar positive things about yourself. Concentrate on those and not the size of your cock. (BTW, you have a good-looking cock!)

You can also put a positive spin on things. I'm not saying to go full-blown SPH, but being turned on by having a small cock puts things in a whole new light. It's hot having other guys see me naked at the gym and seeing how women react to my size during sex. Frankly, even though I admit a small cock isn't the greatest in sex and (secretly) think big cocks are the epitome of masculinity, I wouldn't change my small one for anything in the world. It's just too much a part of who I am and how I enjoy sex.
 

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It's almost always futile trying to change someone's psychological makeup. Whatever that problem may be. "Don't be afraid of snakes! (or water, crowded spaces, heights, etc.)" "Don't feel you're too short (too fat, too dumb. . . too small)." "Don't be timid (or aggressive, sensitive, paranoid, etc.)"

Who you are is a result of a lot of things, both hereditary (genetic: small cock) and environmental (experiences that determine how you deal with that). The mix is different for all of us.

I'm hung like a chipmunk. I've had a killer love life. I credit that to several counter-balancing genetic factors (like good looks and athleticism) and a supportive environment (loving parents, success in sports and social success). In high school and college I was a really good athlete (mainly football). BMOC. I credit this as the basis for a lot of my confidence. Long before I hit puberty I already felt good about myself. This helped me deal with a lot of the insecurities that later came with having a small dick. Also being great at eating pussy helps!

I've also developed a philosophy. I feel we each determine how things affect us. I myself choose whether to let something bother me or to let it roll off my shoulders like water. Now that isn't something which comes to us instantly. It takes a lot of practice. And I find myself slipping occasionally. But, usually, I catch myself after a bit and say, "You're just making yourself miserable. Move on."

So, first off, you can start working on how you deal with things in your life. Find ways to bolster your confidence. As Johnny Mercer said, "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative." I know I'm good at many things, good-looking, and people like me. (Plus, I've got a gorgeous wife!) I'm sure you can find similar positive things about yourself. Concentrate on those and not the size of your cock. (BTW, you have a good-looking cock!)

You can also put a positive spin on things. I'm not saying to go full-blown SPH, but being turned on by having a small cock puts things in a whole new light. It's hot having other guys see me naked at the gym and seeing how women react to my size during sex. Frankly, even though I admit a small cock isn't the greatest in sex and (secretly) think big cocks are the epitome of masculinity, I wouldn't change my small one for anything in the world. It's just too much a part of who I am and how I enjoy sex.
Great view on things. Explained very well. I fir one like to see all cocks. All nice and hot in there own ways. I would love to see what you are working with.
 

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I unfortunately am a pornography viewing veteran. (I’m 23) and am completely convinced by not only professional but amateur videos that you absolutely need to be above average to get anyone (I know that’s the porn talking) and to legitimately “please” them. I’d call myself an Incel but I don’t hate women??? Losing the genetic lottery is really a psychological curse man (typed excitedly on my iPad if it isn’t clear enough, sorry and thanks)

How do i get over this baby dick mental mountain?
It’s a struggle I deal with everyday and I don’t think it will ever go away. You look bigger than me so know that you aren’t the smallest out there or that you can’t find someone based solely on dick size. Me and my wife have a decent relationship even though the physical aspect is kind of a train wreck. If you find the right one dick size won’t really matter much. If it matters to the person than it’s a relationship not worth pursuing. I think guys that struggle with their size struggle with it for life, just realize the truth of it and put it in its place. It doesn’t have to own you, this is coming from a guy where it has completely ruined any hope of a sex lite or even enjoyment of things outside of the bedroom. Don’t become that guy.
 

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I talk to women all time and one thing I hear them say about men and how to male them feel good. Now you're asking yourself..Why? Aren't you gay? Yes I am, irrelevant to this story.
First off, you have to understand that your dick is big enough. If a woman is into bigger dicks, then she ain't for you. Pleasing a woman doesn't always need PIV(Penis and Vagina) sex to satisfy a lady. First off, be kind and honest..trust me..honesty is big with women and don't be lame or a jerk. Know what you want and say it. But you have to get some confidence in yourself and stay off the computer for a while. Then be open to going out, like a coffee shop(I see women all the time at Starbucks) or a grocery store. I had so many conversations with women at grocery stores simply by completing their appearance or if find names fascinating. Just say something quick and move on, if she's interested she will let you know..like a laugh or compliment you. Just ask her to coffee or something..nothing extravagant at first, if not, go on and don't make it weird.

I hear a lot of guys hear who say this stuff and it breaks my heart. You seem like a good guy and I bet if you just start loving yourself as you are, your opinion will change, trust me. I love what the others say. Take their advice..