For twenty years now I've been sober in A.A., but I have been really challenged by my sex and love addiction. For years I thought I was just a "wild guy", and for a lot of those years I was in a monogamous realationship, but I'd jerk off all the time, even when we were having sex every day. I got into internet porn, got on CUCME (Online jerking off on camera), and had lots of flirtation and close encounters. A couple of timmes over the years I've gone to Sex and Love Addicts meetings, but the idea of setting a "bottom line" and curtailing my activities is horrifying to me. Plus, I ended hooking up with a guy at the meeting. It didn't give me a lot of faith in the program. What I want to know is, are there any of you out there who have had the same experiences? Is there a middle ground? This all came up because my current bf has really challenged me on this.