Whats it like for you living with Genital Herpes? I have GH and my wife has it, she was exposed by an ex. who did not tell her that he had it. Consequently I was exposed. I hold nothing against my wife for my exposure as she had told me prior to engaging in sex. As much as we tried to be careful I got it, kind of relief actually, that was some 27 years ago. Anyway I am finally having the courage to asking this question as it is not something openly discussed seems like anywhere. For us when either of us have an outbreak, we tell each other our friend is visiting. I for one do not want to make her feel any guilt or remorse what so ever so I never use it against her or make it seem that way. that is my personal vow, for example when we have an extreme disagreement I do not use that as a "by the way thanks a lot for __________" as the last word, not my style and never will. We can usually tell when either of us might be visited: when we have a lack of sleep, catching a cold, stress. All the conditions that may cause an outbreak we are careful to be aware of. Of course that burning sensation is already a sign and many times is the begining of an outbreak. Just got to locate that bugger either on my shaft or pubic area. Pretty consistent locations. Anyway I ask this question because a few times when I think about my situation I would wonder how would I handle it lets say if for some reason I lost my wife for whatever reason. Would I seek another partner, or just have a sexless life. My wife is strong with having known that she gave me GH. But if I should meet another or have a casual encounter and find out that that person got GH from me I don't know how I would feel knowing I was responsible for giving this incureable disease to that person. The guilt may be overwhelming. Have other members with GH thought about this? How have you lived with GH wheather as one who has it or have a partner, spouse with it? or like us where both have it? I know I would disclose the fact that I have GH before any serious relationship or encounter occur, wear condoms, and never engage in sex knowing a symptom has appeared. But more importantly I would need to know that should that person get it how they would feel, I personally do not want a relationship that is fearful of GH, nor one that will not have sex. Interesting it seems that GH are rarely discussed as openly as I would think it could be here. Most of the time it is in reference on prevention, that's all good and I hope people listen to that. But for those of us who are living with it sometimes our stories can do more good in prevention. So here I am sharing how I live with it together with my wife and son (who we were afraid of conceiving for fear of exposure when he was born, but the doctors where quite aware and all went well, otherwise a C section was in order). Seriously if you have any facts or questions about GH I would be more than interested in hearing about or sharing what I know. can I give GH by me giving giving head? Can I give GH by having anal sex-me being a bottom (not into it but ask anyway.) I recently read in a thread onLPSG that Nitric Oxide can cause an outbreak. Well that was news to me. I have been taking NO for weight training. Quickly I went on line and confirmed that this was fact. Consequently I will limit the use of NO or Arganine. and take lysine (sp) to to prevent outbreaks.