locker room: ever call anyone out?

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  1. mplsingleguy

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    Ok so there's been plenty of discussion of bad behavior in the locker rooms- any guys ever call a dude out on his lame-ass trolling?

    After my workout today I went to sit in the sauna and steam room for a bit (in the locker room, so towels are all that is worn) and there was this one dude on me like flies on stink. It got really old. I guess I should feel somewhat flattered- because he kept following me from room to room- but you'd think after a bit of me getting up and leaving *the second* that he comes in that he'd get the clue.

    I get soooo mad, expecially if there's other guys who wanna hang out a bit and whenever he comes in to troll one of us has to get up and leave.

    I went to my locker to dress, and down from me was this other cool dude who, when in the steamroom, was making lots of eye contact with me and leaving his towel open just a bit... as I passed him I said "It's kind of a zoo here today!" to which he smiled and agreed- and suddenly the TROLL is over in the corner to watch us dress! I totally wanted to go up to him and demand to see his locker key. I went back to the steam room to give him time to dress- suddenly he's coming back in there, too!

    So how do you guys deal with TROLLS who have no clue how to act appropriate? Anyone ever seriously got in another guy's face?
     
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    exactly. That's pretty much my point.

    It seems like you have to go to a new gym 3 or 4 times at the same day/time of the week before you are going to meet some new buddies- because of the aspect of "risk" and "trust" that comes with this kind of exhibitionistic public behavior.

    So how does one shake off the trolls that stick to you like glue so that you're free to meet the kind of guys that you want to?
     
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    Yes. I had to tell a guy to leave me alone. He seemed stunned! Totally clueless. This was at a University gym I belonged to as a neighborhood member, because it has a pool. All ages.

    He was later banned from it.

    Onan
     
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    One time I went to a steam room and I too noticed this person staring at me. This person was seeing if I was going to drop my towel, but I did not...intend to.

    On my way out of the sauna, my towel accidently fell to the floor and I was forced to pick it up. I was pissed, especially as that troll had afront seat view of "everything".
     
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    In what way do you mean "meet"?
     
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    Maybe we can start a gay-only version of the thread...heehee!

    My theory is that trolls are not clueless but instead have long lost their self-respect, let alone their fear of rejection.

    To them you are free, available and almost risk-free entertainment, especially when they think you are gay, which is why that other thread about some kind of straight victimization so pissed me off.
     
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    gyms are social environments - it's always nice to meet new friends there- either on the equipment floor or sitting in the steamroom. Much nicer to hang balls out with buddies you can trust....
     
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    OK I'm a bit confused in this thread:
    http://www.lpsg.org/66178-need-suggestions-humble-locker-room.html

    you are concerned about not appearing "big enough" when guys look at you in the locker room...you end your post with:
    "Any one have any good mental tricks that I can play, or suggestions, that might help me be able to retrain myself to be a bit bigger/fluffed up when I'm seen by the other guys in the gym?'..


    So, do you want guys to check you out or not?
     
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    yeah - i was being stared at by this dude in the showers, and i looked back at him and got winked and smiled at. i just smiled back at him and said "thanks... but no thanks". I didn't embarrass him, but he got the point without me having to a prick.
     
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    I'm sure you get lots of looks by guys and ladies.......but I LIKE YOUR SYLE...that's the mature way to handle unwanted attention.....
     
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    Agreed. As with self-defense, you should only use verbal violence as a last resort.

    To most guys who masturbate behind the barely-frosted glass partitions, I usually start with "Would you stop, please" and they do in 90&#37; of the cases and the next time they use a stall farther away from me too.
     
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    Maybe it's cause I'm on the staff at a co-ed gym, and I'm sure to be flamed for saying it, but as I've said before: Report the troll to management. We've actually had incidents where we've escorted women to their cars because some troll won't take no for an answer. Not your every day occurence, but it does happen as well as banning certain individuals.
     
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    I hate to quote myself, but am I the only one who noticed that the OP wants guys to look at him and wants guys NOT to look at him.......:cool:
     
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    He wants the right guys to look at him, and the wrong guys to only briefly glance in admiration.

    Same with the straight dudes I assume.
     
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    can't see that happening with guys in Texas ,,, upper Mid-West, NorthEast, Md-DC, Florida, definitely california, ... not here!
     
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    To me I can stare at another man's dick because I know that it does not attract me at all. But I wouldn't because I am considerate of people's privacy.
     
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    Thanks, Domisoldo, I don't think I could have said it any better.

    Yes- I did post another thread saying that, after an intense workout, I feel like I remain rather "small" in the showers... after working out my body regularly gets cold or hot (one or the other) and so I don't "fluff" out down there because the blood flow is used in other places.

    So, regardless of my will or my choice, if I *am* seen, I'd at least want to not be shortchanged, as the pool-going George Costanza was on Seinfeld.

    I will also say that it's a major cock block to be regularly chased around the locker room by some clueless dude who wants a peek under my towel. When that's going on, it's easy for me to want to keep my towel wrapped as tight as I can around my waist- which is really a shame because I find that casual semi nudity among guys my age in NORMAL AND APPROPRIATE circumstances (like locker rooms, skinny dipping, camping in the woods, ....) is a great thing.

    So no, Industrialsize, I don't feel like I am being inconsistant or being confused. Are there times where you'd rather not be feeling like the prey in a game of cat and mouse? Are there not other times where you know that you're the center of attention, and you don't mind those appreciating you, (or you enjoy the ego stroke) and so you go ahead and allow some indulgent behavior? These two ideas aren't mutually exclusive.

    Beyond that, I guess I am human, and a little choosy about who I am allowing myself to be seen by. This is partly because I don't wish to be indiscriminate, (i don't get a rise out of pure exhibitionism to whomever wishes to look) and partly, I guess, because I am human and I have the right to have personal choice and make simple connections with whom I choose, in whatever way I see fit.

    The point of my posting is more so that I don't come off like being a prick for developing an attitude that betrays the frustration that I feel when I am chased around, and my resulting negative behavior makes me look sour, mean spirited, or some uber prude.

    Thanks, Industrialsize, for asking for clarification among postings that are almost 3 months apart- I guess it shows how much you monitor the board looking for consistant behavior among the posters. What would we do without you :)
     
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    I don't think that was a compliment.
    :rolleyes:
     
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    I have had to tell the same guy twice to stop following me around, stop leering when i step out of the shower and stop showing up at my locker when I'm changing. I actually had to explain to him that I did not appreciate his comments or admiring gazes and that he made me uncomfortable.

    BTW, I have never seen him on the gym floor.
     
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