locker rooms/ saunas

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  1. iggy

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    guys, i just want to know ur thoughts/reactions/feelings if this happens to you:

    in a nudity permitted place (e.i. sauna, steam room), how would you react if a person, completely unknown to you had an erection/ is aroused...


    thanks guys..

    iggy
     
  2. blackwood

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    iggy,

    I was in a sauna in the Holiday Inn, Duluth, MN the week before Christmas several years ago. The fire alarm had sounded everyone had to get out and be counted. So in bathrobe only I was at the front door freezing everything. When we were allowed back in to the rooms, I could not get warm. I went to the sauna which was a clothing optional area, removed my towel and bathrobe. I did not cover my lap.

    As I said in the earlier posting, a guy about my age and two kids (15 -17) came in. They maintained their jockstraps. The usual greetings were made, and I continued to get "steamed". The guy took the bench across from me while his boys took a seat on either side of me.

    It was not long before they were knee to knee with me. No good reason for them to be that close, and I was unnerved as heck. The guy (dad) looked at me quite disapproving, and while I was getting up to get out, he told me I should have at least worn a jock. I left talking to myself and saying what I should have said to him.

    Personally their presence did not bother me. Their closeness did.

    blackwood
     
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    This has happened to me before. Sometimes I think that because I go to gyms in San franciso, that men are more comfortable with exhibitionism. Open sexuality here is not uncommon.

    Of course, there are gyms that are more cruisy than others. I often see guys sporting wood in the showers, steam rooms and saunas. Some are actively seeking play partners, some are not.

    At first, I was a little surprised but intruiged. I was like, Whoa! what's going on in here? Well, it took about a minute to figure it out. I eventually joined the game and had a few "encounters" which were mostly a friendly squeeze or a discreet hand job in the steam room.

    That game got old quick for me. Now I just enjoy the view. I actually like to catch a glimps of guys discreetly grabbing a handful.

    If I walk in to the steam room and see a bunch of guys covering their cocks, I usually give mine a nice tug to let everybody know that I'm not going to run and tell.
     
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    At the sauna and steam room that I go to, if a guy gets a boner he'll usually cover his lap with his towel regardless of his age.
     
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    It wouldn't bother me unless it was some perv cruising and drooling at the same time
     
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    ebviking:

    When nude guys are together, one doesn't have to be in SF for exhibitionism, although certainly not as comfortable. The local Memphis, tn. YMCA has its share of guys getting erections, touching and mutual jacking. I'm sure it's not as blatant and common as that in SF, but it happens even in conservative areas of the country, we just have to be more secretive and watchful of authorities.
     
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    Ya know, it's funny. Another guy with a boner doesn't bother me a bit. It only bothers me when it's ME that's got the woody. :blush: Truth told, I've been hit on by gay guys a few times, and I take it as a compliment rather than being upset by it. Guess that's my 1% kicking in.

    B-man
     
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    Erections are fine, but public sex crosses the line.
     
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    Depends on the locker room/sauna, jonb. :evilgrin:
     
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    I am a member of a very large chain of gyms (24 Hour Fitness). I belong to them because they have great facilities, they are located almost world-wide and are growing in number, and my membership is now just $99 a year...lol.

    But even so, I hate conversations trying to "pickup" or "curious" or whatever at the gym. I go to the gym to work out...so I usually come dressed in workout clothes, almost never shower there, and only use the sauna when I am in the mood for that and I am relatively alone. Even in a swimsuit my size is apparent, so I avoid circumstances in business public settings (and a gym is a business) that
    could cause problems. Familys use the gym too. I often work out very early in the morning or very late in the evening when the crowds are less and the weights and other facilities are not so busy. I have been approached, and I am pretty sure it had something to do with my endowement, but I don't like it in that setting.
    For a while, once-upon-a-time, I noticed that some guys seem to almost follow me in and out of the locker room. I varied my hours and that does not happen with regularity now, but it still does occassionally. When I go in more busy times, women are more discreet...they seem to always move to stairmaster, treadmills, or eliptic trainer machines behind me...lol. I have often just stopped and turned around and it is kind of amusing to watch the darting eyes and somewhat uncomfortable expressions.
    I am not sure I would like Pamela Anderson approaching me while I am in the middle of reps...lol...but I might make an exception for her...lol. Who am I kidding...of course I would talk to her! LOL
    However, when I have changed there, I know some have noticed though I have tried to be discreet and quick in changing. I can't recall ever seeing anyone "hard" there, but I haven't really been checking it out...I am just "doing my thing".
    From my experiences, most women are funny about seeing and approaching me if they "know" or "suspect" how large I am. They may be curious or interested, but they are still largely not going to approach, especially without knowing me in that setting. Which I suppose is a very good thing.
     
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    Bath houses? That's so early 80s. I thought the new thing was rest areas, or as the perves call them, tea rooms.
     
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    I don't think it would bother me if someone got an erection in the sauna...It would only bother me or make me uncomfortable if the guy was somewhat of a perv and making some sort of pass at me...Other than that it is none of my business or concern...Personally I would cover up if I got an erection in the sauna...
     
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    i am afraid that I would stare, stare, and then stare some more.
     
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    I'm more of a naturalist than an exhibitionist when it comes to public nudity. So if I'd see someone aroused in public I'd likely just view it as 'natural' and not read a lot of sinister sexuality into it. Perhaps I'm naive, but it's part of my old live-and-let-live ex-hippie philosophy. Of course, I agree that an overt, public, sexual display would be out of line and uncomfortable to witness.

    mr sparkle
     
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    Now thats WEIRD!
    I wonder what on earth Dad was thinking? That you and his kids would have a hot wild and wonton time with you? Thats really crazy, I would of got the hell out of there too.
    This has to be one of the strangest situations I think I ever read in my life.....wow :wow:
     
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    last year when i went on a cruise with most a my family me an my otha guy cuzins who i kno r as big as me or bigger we all went in the suana naked an got hard on purpose it was funny as hell guys kept commin in an walkin rite out
     
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    A hard on is a natural occurance. It's like if they sneezed. For the vast majority of situations I would suspect that who ever is hard would much prefer that they weren't. If they are rubbing one out and trying to get attention then act accordingly. There are all kinds of approaches. A simple no thanks works well, as would an "I really don't appreciate this" or take it further, a statement made with a loud voice would get their attention. If your interested or indifferent respond in a fitting way. I have no problem with nudity and being oppertunistic, but there's a time and place. If it's an adult only area then I would be a lot less concerned that if a kid could walk in. No one has a right to make a child grow up faster than they need to. I think that if there is a chance (even the slightest) of a kid seeing something sexual, then you need another venue. Ultimately, a boner is just a function of the body (a personal favorite), and shouldn't be made into a big deal. Every single person in that locker room has them (hopefully!).
     
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    My first post on this thread responded to ebviking, rather than to yours, iggy, so this one responds to yours. My reaction would be dependant on the guy's cock. If it were large and attractive, I would tell him so. If it were minus these characteristics, I would ignore it.
     
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    This happened to me today after my workout. Went downstairs to shower and caught a guy checking out my crotch and following me around. Hit the showers, caught him strokin it a few times...but then some other guys came into shower. I left, b/c it was creeping me out slightly, and hit the sauna. No more than 2 minutes later he comes in, after searching around (for me, presumably). He sits down...there are 4 of us in there...and slowly starts jerkin off. After about 2 minutes, I just got up and left. He was smiling at me the whole time.

    While it's your business to do whatever, I'm not paying all this money to see you jerk off. I'm there to work out, shower, and get to work. If I happen to see a few big dicks along the way, great...but the last time I checked, the lockerroom wasn't a gay bar.
     
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