Loneliness

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  1. JonahFalcon

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    Anyone lonely?
     
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    I get lonely at times, but right now I'm okay. I'm cool during the night hours. It's during the day when all of the other commotion is going on in the world when I really see those moments when I don't have anyone to talk to.
     
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    Not now, no, although I am alone at the moment. I do have my lonely times though, especially as the winter drags on - hope springs eternal.
     
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    Yes.
    Many of us probably are.
    I think it is easier to deal with in solitude.
    When many people are around and you are all alone.
    The interactions seem empty.
    That is the hardest.
    Because it doen't seem right.
    Doesn't seem fair.

    And yes, I am often.
    But I deal with it.
     
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    Oh man, how many of us are single?
     
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    I get lonely sometimes but life goes on. Why are you so down?
     
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    Very lonely. All the time. :(
     
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    I am lonly 90% of the time, I am not really an extrovert so do not have any friends so I work a lot, just easier to deal with it.I had a bad childhood so always have a guard up, got married two grown sons, I knew I was gay when I was younger but being born in the 50s everyone was to get married and have a family so I am stuck in the middle and dont know what to do or how to change it at least at this time when cash is tight.
     
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    I'm always lonely.
     
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    No actually...

    Call someone, go out, make an effort - dont mope.
     
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    Yes. gf is not here. Won't see here for a month. So I am literally alone.
     
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    I have had only a few periods of feeling alone in my life, mostly after the death of a loved one. Once however I was working and living in Milan and did not speak Italian very well and did not know anyone other than a few people that I worked with. In time I found my place there with friends and activities that I enjoyed.
    The first step is getting out of your rut and going outside and looking for what fills the void in your life. The funny thing is I have come to enjoy the quiet time I have in my life...but I like spending time on my own.
     
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    Yes, but by choice. I'm married but my work requires travel. In the 90s wifey would travel with me sometimes, she discovered I'm not on vacation and actually working. Her loneliness has her with a young boyfriend now, but then I've had a couple of younger GFs along the way so it all evens out I suppose.
     
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    Oh my, yes; I will forever be single and alone and lonely. I wonder if life's worth carrying on in such a state. Most people aren't like me, though.

    Surely the owner of the world's largest penis is better off than I. Have you not got throngs of potential suitors? Is there not a suitable one among them? That'd be rather unlikely, I should think. . ..
     
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    Oh yeah, and my favorite line from Raising Arizona movie. When the furniture man asked Tex Cobb what his name was. " My friends call me Lenny, but I got no friends." :)
     
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    Sometimes I think it is worse when you are in a relationship(I am married) and feel alone. There right now.
     
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    Yes. Why do you ask?
     
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    Americans and their need to feel that they have so many friends at their side! Our culture indeed has an aversion to solitude and "keeping to one's self" as opposed to Asian cultures, where being healthily solace carries a sense of deep respect. Sadly, North Americans look hopelessly clueless as to how such a lifestyle could dare to be normal, let alone salubrious. And so the perceived loner continues to live with the fervent scold, "Get out there and make some friends!"

    When a man commits an awful crime, the first thing the media likes to point out -if they can - is how isolated of a life he has lived, or his "lack of friends". But I must say that the Desert Dwellers were anything but psychopaths!

    I'm not opposed to making friends because having one can be a beautiful thing. But the more important or fundamental question here is, "What is a friend?" And from that comes a series of questions: Are they really that common? Are the words friend and acquaintance used synonymously in this culture? Do we not make a distinction between the two?

    Finally, any Buddhist or Catholic monk will tell you that it's necessary to be lonely and really feel it and accept it while on a path to enlightenment.

    A word from the wise: "Many an acquaintance and I know myself not.":eek:

    Peace and love to you "lonely folk.":smile:
     
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    No.
     
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