Lonely penis related discussion

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Nrets, Sep 25, 2008.

  1. Nrets

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    I will try to write this in a way that will not bait people into telling me I need therapy.
    Because I have heard it all before...and I don't have the money or the insurance to do it...and I am not that bad off...except that I am still pretty sexless.
    Basically I have avoided sexual encounters forever because of various sexual insecurities.
    I questioned my sexuality pretty hardcore for years...never coming to a firm conclusion.
    That was one reason.
    I have moobs, pretty hardcore. Another reason.
    And my dick is shorter than I would like. That might have been a subconcious lesser reason.
    With sexuality, I have come to realize, that I want to hook up with women.
    I have feelings towards men now and again, some are emotional and some are just glancing at dicks in this site and having some sort of reaction. But it is not something I feel I need to act out, although I am not closed to future possibilites.

    But the thing about dicks, is that the feeling that goes deeper than the slightly turned on because a big dick just drips sex feeling is the intense feeling of sadness I get when I look at a big attractive cock and think about a particular girl.

    I have had several sexual encounters in the past year or so.

    No one said anything bad about my penis, and one even said something positive..

    But there was one other that by all logical means should have dissapeared from my life long ago...but she calls now and then.

    And now I am tormented.

    I want her close to me so badly.

    Her soft little body.

    But I feel I would need a big one to keep her next to me.

    So I avoid her.

    She knows almost everything about me...but she doesn't know about my penis.

    I am tall and attractive, and occasionally have a sort of arrogance that may be mistaken for big dick swagger.

    I am afraid she has done this.

    I didn't mind showing my dick to other girls...or whoever for that matter.
    I even whipped it out in traffic when someone mooned me the other day...but with this girl it is different...I really care what she thinks.

    Two weeks ago she called out of nowhere...first time in months.

    We were talking about how I am half a foot taller than my Dad, and he is half a foot taller than his Dad was.

    I jokingly said my kids are going to be 9 feet tall.

    She laughed and said "go big or go home"

    That sort of triggered this whole feeling of inadequacy.

    On the other hand...she called me again after I told her about lots of other things.

    Maybe it is time I just take a real risk and really pursue her...and if she rejects me...I can move on...whaddya all think?
     
  2. B_dxjnorto

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    You have a "normal" American cut dick from what I can see. It's a bit girthy. If she's an American girl, I don't see how she can see anything weird about it. Instead of tormenting yourself, show it to her and find out. It's not some big secret. It's your dick.
     
  3. CALAMBO

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    hey guy...nothing ventured nothing gained...you are nearly normal from your post...just a bit un-secure...you can rise above this feeling of no confidence....if she bolts her loss...your gain..get her in the sack and let her decide if she is into you as much as you are to her...GO FOR IT
     
  4. Nrets

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    Thanks guys. you know part of it is I feel there is nothing average about her. I find her very attractive. Also I wanted to clarify that we haven't been talking...it was just the one random call that got me thinking how can she still be thinking about me after all this time? I thought I was the only one who did that.

    So yeah...I'll suck it up.
    Which do you think is a better atmosphere to get closer to someone.... party or movie?
     
  5. CALAMBO

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    dinner/movie/drinks at a club..dancing is always fun...loosens up the tentions/inhibitions..go for it...she may be waiting for you to make the first real move...i hope you take the chance
     
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    Hey Nrets
    Your cock is a real nice one with a great fuckin' head....
    It must be at least 6" which is average (the new ratings
    now suggest that today's 6" man is slightly above average),
    and you have good girth.

    Unless she is a size queen, she should be more than satisfied
    with you have to offer her....a nice, thick cock!
    If not, it will be her loss...not yours. I'm sure there are plenty
    of other nice looking women who would be happy to have you
    give them the time of their life.....
    The first time is the hardest.....just jump in and the rest will
    be history. Wine her, dine her, do some romantic...close up...
    dancing....and see where it leads...I bet you will be surprised!

    By the way, you should change your user name to:
    "Noregrets"

    GO FOR IT, man.....what can you lose?
    As the old saying goes....
    "If you first don't succeed, try, try again!!!"

    Good Luck
     
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  7. MarkLondon

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    There is nothing wrong with your cock and you have no reason whatsoever to feel inadequate about it. The size is fine and it's better-looking than most.

    I'm beginning to think straight guys suffer from only really seeing erect cocks in porn, and they have distorted ideas about size and prowess as a result.

    Cocks vary enormously in size and appearance. The only important thing, for most people, is do they work?
     
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    Ain't nothing wrong with you Nrets, except the fact that you are judging how much she will like you based on your penis instead of yourself first. First off, if it reaches sex with her, and she complains about the size of your dick, she is a size queen, ain't nothing wrong with that member of yours!! And if she complains about it, I hope you think highly enough of yourself to know you are better than that and deserve better than that!

    You'll never know if ya don't try though.
     
  9. Nrets

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    No Regrets...haha good stuff.
    Those last three posts were uplifting. And not in some punny way. Thanks guys.
     
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