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    Long&Thick New Member

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    So today I was talking to a bunch of my friends (guys and girls) at lunch about prom. They were talking about how they all have their dates and dresses (tuxes for guys) all picked out. One girl asked me if I was all ready for prom and I replied no, it was a big shocker at first but then everyone went along with their convorsations. This lead me to a feeling of lonliness. Everyone's going with their girlfriends and boyfriends and yadda yadda. And they're all gonna have a good time. But I don't have anyone who I could ask. And I don't really wanna go alone, because prom is a dance to spend with someone am I right? I guess this was just the last straw that broke the proverbial camels back with me and relationships...I know I'm only 18, but I feel lonely! I'm tired of spending friday nights and stuff alone :( But I have no idea who I could ask out or something like that, all the people I consider seem to be in their own cliques, and I'm not in them..woe is me..I'm so lonely, oh so lonely :*( :*( :(


    I just wanted to post..guys can feel emotional too right?
     
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    I understand where you are coming from. I've never had a date for anything, never had a boyfriend before. I'm 19, I'm not sure if your prom works out as the same thing as the grad parties we have. I was the only one out of a large group that went. People who didn't even have a boyfriend or girlfriend brought their friends instead as dates... girls brought girls and such. I went because they told me to go... I never really wanted to.
    Anyhow, I went, and had an ok time, the music was good, the dinner sucked... the after party sucked even more... sex with my best friend was about the only interesting thing that happened... cause he is gay. Overall it was an alright night. I'm going to encourage you to go anyways, because you only have that one time to make the best of your night. You can say it sucked after, but you may never know how it will turn out. Have the night for yourself, you can't be the only one who might go alone. Go have a good time, and worry about it after.
     
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    I know exactly how you feel. Man, do I ever know. I feel the same way, and I am 27 years older than you. My advice is for you to go on to the prom and enjoy yourself. I am sure you will have a good time. You might even meet the girl of your dreams at the prom. You have plenty of time left in your life to find the right one. Time is running short for me, though.
     
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    Awwwwwwww ! Long and thick let me tell you a little story that might make you feel a bit better. When it was time for me senior prom I wasnt dating any one at the time but I was asked by three guys at school. Because I knew they had roaming hands I decided against either of them. SO I had my cousin take me because I knew I could have a good time and wouldnt have to be bothered with anything. LOL! That is what I thought. Well, My cousin at that age resembled Derrick Jeter so you can imagine the girls lost their minds. One in particular who was my alleged friend and came with a mutual friend who happened to be a stunning guy in his own right . When she saw my escort and he saw her it was insanity. They were inseparable for the rest of the evening. They even had a prom picture together. I didnt mind really for myself but I was angry for her date. They ended up dating for a while. Later that spring we were at an awards tea by an organization which gave us our scholarships. The young man who I was talking to at the moment looked very much like my cousin so she thinking it was another relative tried the same trick. This time it backfired. He ignored her totally. :biggrin1: I am saying all this to say. The Prom is such a hyped job. Get some of your friends together and plan a fun evening go to a movie etc. if you dont want to go to the prom. YOu really arent missing anything but the hype!
     
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    you old enough to be on here guy?
     
  6. Long&Thick

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    Is 18 not old enough to be on here?
     
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    I'm getting alot of pressure to go, but I don't wanna go alone, and so far my friends that are going to go have their girlfriends who are accompanying them. I don't really want to be the odd man out if we go in a group. I was planning on waiting on college so I could have a fresh start and start attempting to see people, but I might be forced sooner, which isnt neccissarily bad. I keep hearing the Journey song "Don't Stop Believen'" when I think about this topic lol :redface:
     
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    ur only 18 and lonely? u should make changes quick. my recommendation... go away to college
     
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    Well that has already been set into place. I will be going to college to play football. However I need to graduate high school first, which is in June.
     
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    I'm only 2 years older than you and will get my Bachelors Degree in June so it's not been that long ago that I faced your situation. Do what you feel is best for you. If you feel a need to go to your prom then go but if not then find another way to celebrate. Do something special for yourself. Prom is a tradition, break tradition and do what is best for you.

    If nothing else cross the bridge into Covington and pick up one of those Kentucky girls and take her to your prom, you might even get lucky!
     
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    i'll bet that when you get to college you'll forget about high school for the most part. if it's that bad, then repress those memories, and get laid as much as you can. u shud be fine
     
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    I'm 18 and lonely, turns out I might have aspergers so I never click with people. It's hard because I want to make the most of my young life and I just can't click with people. I'm still a virgin even though I'm good looking and I've got a big dick but then I'm never sexually attracted to people. I see everyone as having someone else and I don't so I know how you feel. When I left high school (We leave when we're 16 in the UK) I wore a clip on retro tie and trainers, a short sleeved shirt and a backpack. I was the only one not wearing a tux. I had a dance and wondered around by myself then went home, I had two girls ask me out after the party but I lost there numbers and I moved away and well I'm no good at that kind of thing.
     
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    I was a joke in school. I was (and continue to be) nerdy and apparently my sense of humor is too sarcastic for most people. Anyway I went alone, my group of friends were all as pathetic as me though so at least we were alone together. Anyway I didn't get any action, I didn't talk to any girls and I left the party early because I thought I was going to have an anxiety attack if I stayed. We got hotel rooms because we thought it would be fun but in reality I felt so alone that night. As you can probably already tell I didn't much care for my prom but it was a damned if you do damned if you don't situation. If I hadn't gone I would have hated myself because I missed it, but having gone I hate myself for everything I didn't do while I was there. So I know exactly how you feel.
     
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    10 % huh? I will go with you and you can even fuck me AND I will blow you in the limo on the way there :)..and back...and during prom in the bathroom..

    and well..just about anytime you want between getting in the limo and the next morning..:)
     
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    Its okay. I never went to any proms/leaver's do's (as they're called here). I was just uncomfortable in those situations. I would feel out of place there. Not being popular, not liking the music, not being able to dance. When I did go it was just boys stood on one side of the room and girls on the other...

    I would say don't sweat. If you WANT to go to the prom, just go. Date or no.
     
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    I wouldn't worry about it too much. Don't feel pressured to go to your prom. Only go to your prom if you really want to. Graduation is something special. Do something special with your friends to mark the occasion. Always remember that you're not alone. :smile:

    I agree with what has been said-- the prom is a lot of hype.

    Unfortunately, I wasn't able to go to my prom because I broke up with my girlfriend one month before the prom, and no longer felt the need to go to it ( I was a geek back then and not very popular either). Do I feel cheated? Not really. The school administration later organised a big dance for all the graduates in the high school cafeteria. What fond memories I have of that party! Whenever I hear Footloose or Sussudio, I'm back at that party... in 1985! :rolleyes: A week later, there was another party, this time at a friend's house. Ah memories....

    (is humming Sussudio).

     
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    I am 58 years old and have never been on a date, I have never been to a prom and have been with my wife for over 32 years.

    Life, survival, whatever you want to call it, happens. It may sound strange now but prom's are not very high on the list of priorities.

    People, couples can enjoy their prom but those who make the biggest deals out of their prom are usually the social twits.
     
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    Reading the replies has made me feel a little better. It seems going to prom is such a big deal to us (teens) because its the "biggest" social event of the school year. However in the real world (outside of school) those type of events are just miniscule as to what I'll be doing later on in life. I really plan on coming out of my shell in college, meet new people and have a fresh start. I think I will be forced to, and sometimes there is nothing wrong with a little force to get the ball going.
     
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    If having a SO was a prerequisite for attending a dance I wouldn't have gone to many dances at all. At the high school stage of my life I excelled in my studies and didn't have a social life otherwise. I didn't attend the prom, it didn't interest me. When I had friends in college I went to dances and parties because I enjoyed dancing and their company. Go to have fun with your friends Long&Thick . Finding someone to form a relationship with is an entirely different and unrelated matter.
     
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