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I am surrounded by people everyday and some days I feel incredibly lonely. I have gay friends but they are mutual friends with my wife. I am not out to them. I have several friends(acquaintances) but I am not out to them either, and most days I am happy, but some days I feel very isolated and down. I am in my mid 50s and don't want to turn my life and my family upside down. I have tried to meet other gays to be friends ...but it is all about the sex; and I guess it hard to be friends with someone in the closet. Do any of you have this feeling of loneliness? And how do you meet other gay men for a friendship?
 

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Big problem with me to went to an adult theater in town been meeting some there but cost like 9 dollars each day so kind of expensive wanting to meet someone too do feel lonely too like I'm the only one that likes guys and alot are real picky too..
 

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without writing a novel, you're best bet is to try and find someone who is in the same situation as you are now and around the same age (unless age isn't a factor with you or the other person). because you're situation is so complex (hence your hesitation to turn your life/family upside down), the only one who will understand your situation is someone who is also in your situation.

i'm sure there are many out there who are in the same situation so if you are patient and vigilant, i'm sure you will find someone. it's just many in your situation has given up and just "accepted their fate" and are living out their life as it is whether in misery or whatever.

lastly, loneliness is a dangerous thing and i would implore you to seek out help if this is something that you are truly struggling with. being around people doesn't make you un-lonely. loneliness is a state-of-mind like depression. it can and will affect you in ways you may or may not be able to control.

good luck.
 
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You shouldn't feel lonely if you're married. Wife and I are best friends, love going places together. We belong to a gym and have a lot of friends. Now, if you're looking for a guy for sex...that's not gonna cure your loneliness. In fact it may make it worse.