I am surrounded by people everyday and some days I feel incredibly lonely. I have gay friends but they are mutual friends with my wife. I am not out to them. I have several friends(acquaintances) but I am not out to them either, and most days I am happy, but some days I feel very isolated and down. I am in my mid 50s and don't want to turn my life and my family upside down. I have tried to meet other gays to be friends ...but it is all about the sex; and I guess it hard to be friends with someone in the closet. Do any of you have this feeling of loneliness? And how do you meet other gay men for a friendship?