long distance and no sex

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  1. dcstone88

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    So, I'm frustrated.

    I've been with my partner for 3 years and it became long distance a year ago. Our sex life has dwindled and when it comes to sex, I always have to bottom. We've discussed it but nothing ever comes out of our conversations. I'm getting to the point of cheating and I don't want to do that. How do I remedy this?
     
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    You seem young, its not working out, you are just looking to us to tell the obvious - time for a change. Start looking locally.
     
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    'I always have to bottom'.

    Is the most telling phrase.

    Something's not going right, it's your choice really. Talk to each other properly or end the relationship.
     
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    thanks for the insight
     
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    Long distance relationships are a rip-off, anyway - ripping yourself off. Some temporary situation to get past makes sense, sure - but you can't BE with someone when they are SOMEWHERE ELSE.
     
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    Quite clearly you should have sex with me, since I am versatile.

    Jokes aside (or was I?), you need to do what is fair to you. What is happened is quite unfair to you, and very in the least.
     
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    it's suck to have long distance relationship.
     
  8. slate_australis

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    To be fair, I'm sure it's unfair for both.

    I presume there was discussions about this happening before it became long-distance?
     
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    I would have asked how far but its true when people say that it appears that you cant deal with the distance and time spent apart.
    cut your losses and go hunting once more.
     
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    Sorry... can I be the one here to ask if this has been discussed with your boyfriend?

    It's a pretty scummy thing to go running after sex if you haven't discussed it with him.
     
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    For my two bits on long-distance stuff, it can indeed work, although the cards often seem to be stacked against it. Is the long-distance thing permanent, or is this some type of a temporary situation that you guys will be reunited? Has there been a decent, frank discussion about how "committed" you both are (i.e.: don't get your rocks off in someone else's backyard??). As far as the constant bottoming thing goes, as a versatile guy myself, it should be a two-way street. Did it used to be with you guys? Seems to me it's time for him to put his legs up & put out. :) Assuming that's an important part of your relationship and sex life. Or, if everything else about this relationship seems to be worth holding on to, maybe there's some room for compromise? Seem to me it's far too shallow for people to make comments to dump the guy & find an ass somewhere closer to home. But then I've turned into a bit of a hopeless romantic.
     
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