I have a question, and this is directed to the ladies and the men... So my gf and i are in college, and we are in differnt states, and we make an effort to see eachother about every month or two, (its hard when we are both broke college students) but the problem is this. She is a little girl, 5'2, 110 lbs, (she is a totally gorgeous, little package, perfect tits, and a tight round ass, her being a dancer doesnt hurt either) but she is very tight down there, like very tight. I on the other hand am 6'2, 245 lbs, i am a big muscualr broad shouldered guy, i am also large down under, (maybe eight inches long, and six inches around) and sex with us is tough. I saw her recently for a weekend, and the first day we had sex, she strattled me and sat on it, gave it all her weight and might and it wouldnt budge, so i got on top and after ten minutes of trying i got half of it in. (and yess, i had made sure she was wett, and lubed up and i fingered her also) and after the sex she is in soo much pain, she took advil and held an ice pack on herself to numb the pain. the next day we tried again, and it was a tiny bit easier, but i still had to pound it in, and it was only a little bit pleasureable for her, but it was also painful, and again, the advil and ice afterwards. same story on the third day, and on the fourth day, my last day, we did it and it was awesome, she could get it in, and had earth shaddering orgasms, and i had to leave that night. but she still was in pain after that weekend, for the next whole week. i have asked people this before, and no one can relate, my close friends who i could ask about this, are not as "large" as i, and have never had this problem, they say "try lube" or just "go slow" but i have and we both are very patient but it still sometimes doesnt fit, and if it does its painful for her. So by the end of that weekend she was loosened up to my size, where if i would have stayed that week the sex would have been great, but i only see her every month or two, so over that time she loses that looseness, and tightens up again. She doesnt like dildos, so that is not going to happen, the only time she masturbates is a with a little vibrator on her clit. I am going to see her for thanksgiving and we both want to have sex, but i hate putting her through all that pain. i am asking all the men on this site who have had a similar experience for some advise, and the women i need your help too. Is there anything that I/we can do to make sex easier? We are in love and want to be together so breaking up and finding a looser girl is not an option. I appreciate any advise. Thanks again.