How long have you been together…
You may love the person you're with and sex might still be good or even great…
Do you have urges to be with others? Maybe you act on those urges and maybe you don’t.
How do you deal with those issues and if you partner said go ahead fuck around… would you?
About 13yrs now, married for 5.
I've always been starkly honest and upfront about my propensity to be inundated in women, and the wide horizon of what I deem attractive. But I am also a man that insists on holding up my end of the bargain, and so if I pursue a monogamous relationship, those are the bounds I put upon myself.
Honestly, and this is probably due to the historical context of the poly amorous hypotheticals we have discussed, even if tomorrow my wife were to give the verbal go ahead for me to respectfully open up my options, I don't think I'd ever really feel comfortable about it unless she were involved; I'd constantly think that her love for me and desire to keep me would lead to resentment later.
Though for the record I've given her a free pass to dabble in women, provided it doesn't impact our relationship negatively.