SassySpy
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First off, Congratulations, SassySpy! My best wishes for a long and happy marriage together.
Thanks, Gilly! Took me a long time to make my choice, but I am sure its the right one. Doesn't mean I don't have nervous flutters in my tummy........ its scary even when one is sure of their decision-
I think prenuptual agreements do unfortunately suggest that the marriage will end but they are not an indication that it will. I don't think you need to have much wealth to want one either. If you so much as own your own home it's an intelligent thing to do. I'm going to go so far and say that I would be concerned that a man who wasn't aware of the importance of a prenup would be similarly lacking of caution in other areas. Conducting business on a handshake is a noble idea but it won't hold up in court.
I completely agree with the fidelity issue. I can't wrap my head around the concept of sharing your partner and I don't wish to. Nor would I be happy if my partner was comfortable sharing me with another.
I guess its exactly that part I have a problem with when it comes to pre-nups... that 'safety net' in the event the marriage does not last, on one hand says to me "I dont have faith in a lifetime commitment here" but on the other hand it says to me " I believe we have a lifetime together before us, but there are no 100% guarantees that I am right"
I'm glad I'm not wealthy or marrying wealth- one less decision to consider and discuss.
I hope for and expect 100% fidelity, but count on 100% honesty regardless.