Hello LPSG. So glad I found this great forum. Look forward to chatting with you all. :smile: Here's the deal: Last summer, I had an internship in an office in Brooklyn. While there, I met a hot guy in his early 50's (I'm 18) who I was INSTANTLY attracted to. I would later find out that he's gay which was like a dream come true to me. However, I was still closeted at the time and I never even hinted to him that I was interested, nor did I make the slightest move. Fast forward to this summer (I've come out since then). I happened to bump into him last month at a cafe near where we worked. I was just coming from the beach with a lady friend of mine and I was sunburned and my hair was going in 9 different directions, so I felt stupid that I had to bump into him looking like that :tongue:. We chatted for two minutes on line together and he told me I looked good! My brain froze and I should have said "you too" :wink: in response to let him know I was interested. But I didn't. We then went our separate ways. I eventually summoned up the courage to add him as a facebook friend, and then send him a private message. I just laid everything out there for him, telling him that I'm gay and I've been attracted to him for a while. The next day, he responded. He told me how touched he was that I felt comfortable to reach out to him. Also, he said "the attraction is mutual" but he has a partner of eight years (dammit). But he told me he'd love to be friends and that he wanted to meet up. We set up a date for this past Thursday. I met him in the Village at a cool Mexican joint for burritos and margaritas, etc. The "date" (if that's what you want to call it) went really well. I was nervous going in, but after the first 15 minutes, that faded away. We had good chemistry and got to know each other much better, since we had never even talked for more than a few minutes previously. We stayed in the restaurant for an hour and a half just talking and then we walked around lower Manhattan for a while. I had dropped a few more hints throughout the night that I liked him, but he didn't return any of them verbally. Although I think he did like me. At certain points throughout the night, we'd make eye contact, and it would just click. I felt it. And later as we walked, he'd put his hand on me softly and gently pat or rub my back or shoulder. I started to get hard just from that. I had so many thoughts going through my head and I had a ton of questions for him about sex and whatnot since a lot of this is new to me. I asked him if his partner knew we were out together and he said yes. He told me that he read him the facebook message I'd originally sent him. I then asked if his partner minded that we were together for the night and he said no. He told me that he's (his partner, that is) extremely cool and laid-back, and that WHEN I meet him, I'll see why. :biggrin1: As we were walking, I wanted to kiss him, but we didn't get the opportunity to sit down alone somewhere. We did get ice cream though and then went our separate ways. Both of us enjoyed the night very much, and we agreed to make time again before I leave for Philly for college (in seven days). At this point, I know what I want. I'm interested in this guy sexually and would be willing to do something with him (even if it's just a kiss, although I do want more). But he's in a committed relationship. He did tell me about how he and his partner had a foursome with a couple in their 30's a few years back, so that tells me that it's definitely a possibility. He's flirty and uses winky faces in our text message exchanges, but I don't know if he genuinely wants me or if he's just being a big flirt and a tease. I guess things will be a lot more clear after we meet up a second time. He did text me today telling me he wanted to see me soon. What do you guys think? P.S.: The age difference between us might freak some of you out. But it's what I'm comfortable with. I'm attracted almost exclusively to older guys (40+), and I feel right around this guy. Thanks in advance for your opinions and input.