Looking for advice

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_i_am_short, Jun 21, 2010.

  1. B_i_am_short

    B_i_am_short New Member

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    HI GUYS:

    Here goes it. I am a little shy around men. I was raised in a single parent home by, yes mom. I live in South and in the bible belt. In school we dress for PE but do not take showers here. So I have never been around many naked men. The most I have seen is here on the internet watchin secret porn alone with my right hand. Once when I was 17 I had intercourse with a cousin, yes a cousin. We both just wanted to know what it was like. All I knew was the missionary position. I get turned on by men and think alot, and I mean alot about cocks. What it would be like to suck one, lay with a man, and what would you do? Is hugging and kissing ok? Or is it just sucking and getting it up you rear end? I don't know how to find or approach any guy about this. Al my friends just talk about getting pussy and act like the rest is bad. Al they do is talk about the fags out there. Where can I look for a guy to teach me without running his mouth or puting me dow or BEATING the hell out of me for being "that Way"? I hope for some good sound advise from both the gay and homosexual communities. I know I an nieve, but mom kept her thumb on me, and I just graduated this month from high school. I pray this is the right place to find sound advice. Thanks guys.:mad:
     
  2. crescendo69

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    Kissing, hugging, hand-holding, nipple play, massages, ass-fingering, frottage (dick-to-dick), sex toys, bondage, ass-licking, mutual masturbation - it's all good if you and your partner like it.

    Perhaps you will eventually move from home and find some partner(s) to help you explore your feelings. I'm not sure coming out at this point to friends and family is a good idea, as they sound pretty homophobic. You need the support of like-minded people to help you grow. Good luck. I hope others here can help you find resources to aide in your life journey.
     
  3. Dave NoCal

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    Many young gay men, especially in the South and rural areas in other parts of the country have needed a geographic solution. That is, to move elsewhere preferably a major city. Atlanta is FULL of such men. Is going to college in your near future? Can you make going to college part of your near future? That, especially one in a major city might be your best solution. If you are an outstanding student, many prestigious colleges offer very generous financial aid. The key question is whether thye accept students "need blind." What this means is that if they accept you they will find the resources to allow you to attend. University of Rochester is one such institution. Or you could move to Atlanta, find a flexible job such as waiting tables (you'd meet LOTS OF GUYS) and attend Georgia State University after you have been there a year and attained residency status.
    Life as a gay man in a small southern town really doesn't get it and my best suggestion that is you begin working on your plan for getting out. Good luck!
    Dave
     
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