Hello All,
I am writing because of something that is sort of bothering me and I wanted a few opinions. My wife has put a little weight on and I really want her to slim down to a weight she knows would be better for her in many ways:
1.) Better for her health
2.) Better for her self esteem
3.) Better for our sex life.
I lov\e my wife and will be with her no matter what, but I really am losing some attraction to her lately. She by no means has a porn star type body or is super slim or anything like that. She is a bit thicker, with a larger frame......big muscular legs, wide shoulders and probably about 5'4". But that is fine, I love her body.....well, would love her body more if she would lose some weight and tone up. It is affecting our sex life because I am not attracted as much.....I am even strting to find myself fantasizing about other women! Which is a no-no....or at least should be. I should be fantasizing about my wife!
Anyway, my problem is she has put a little more weight on and now has basically flabby arms and some rolls in her gut. I don't mind the arms, but the gut she is sporting is a bit.....well, disgusting.
We both have gym memberships and I have done some perosnal training. The problem is she, like most people, wants the results but just doesn't know how to work at them. Whenever I try to push her she gives up!......it is so frustrating.....she gets mad at me when I try to push her.
Anyway, I think there is a way to be a spin doctor and take this current situation that is not desireable (her weight gain) and turn it into a positive in our marraige.
So, in oyour opinion, what is the b est way to approach this situation?
I want my wife to lose 20 lbs and tone up........for her, for me, for us
I am writing because of something that is sort of bothering me and I wanted a few opinions. My wife has put a little weight on and I really want her to slim down to a weight she knows would be better for her in many ways:
1.) Better for her health
2.) Better for her self esteem
3.) Better for our sex life.
I lov\e my wife and will be with her no matter what, but I really am losing some attraction to her lately. She by no means has a porn star type body or is super slim or anything like that. She is a bit thicker, with a larger frame......big muscular legs, wide shoulders and probably about 5'4". But that is fine, I love her body.....well, would love her body more if she would lose some weight and tone up. It is affecting our sex life because I am not attracted as much.....I am even strting to find myself fantasizing about other women! Which is a no-no....or at least should be. I should be fantasizing about my wife!
Anyway, my problem is she has put a little more weight on and now has basically flabby arms and some rolls in her gut. I don't mind the arms, but the gut she is sporting is a bit.....well, disgusting.
We both have gym memberships and I have done some perosnal training. The problem is she, like most people, wants the results but just doesn't know how to work at them. Whenever I try to push her she gives up!......it is so frustrating.....she gets mad at me when I try to push her.
Anyway, I think there is a way to be a spin doctor and take this current situation that is not desireable (her weight gain) and turn it into a positive in our marraige.
So, in oyour opinion, what is the b est way to approach this situation?
I want my wife to lose 20 lbs and tone up........for her, for me, for us