Warning, I think some of this post repeats what I said in my earlier post.
Subgirrl- ultimately I'd prefer to let her choose her own, but I really doubt she'd buy one for herself at the moment. She's pretty shy like that, even though we've been talking about it for months and she's been telling me that she'd really like one. So I think it might be up to me to make that first move and start the ball rolling.
She's so shy that she'd even have trouble looking at online shops?!? Wow!
I realise that her first sex toy won't always be her favourite, but if I can get her something fairly versatile she can learn what she likes most and go from there.
Versatile is good for a first toy! Are you limited much by money? If you can afford to buy several cheapish ones, I would advise doing so. That way she can experiment with a few different sensations. If you can afford it, I would advise getting a clit toy, a g spot toy, and a traditional vaginal toy.
More details:
Clit toys
I have this one:
Berman pomona palm sized massager Femplay
and I love it. It doesn't look much like a vibrator, which could be a good thing if there's a chance she'll feel nervous about a vibe. This is definitely one of my favourite toys I've ever bought (and I'm more into vaginal).
Or you could go with something more bullet like. I have this one:
Ammunition of love Femplay
I enjoy it, but the vibrations are quite strong and it only has one setting. Might be a bit much for a newbie.
Or you could go with something silly and fun like this:
Luv touch lipstick vibe black Femplay
G spot toys
These have funny curved heads to target the g spot. I haven't got one to recommend because I don't do g spot stimulation, but here's the first page of g spot toys from the site I buy from, so you can get an idea of what you're looking for:
Female vibrators g spot Femplay
A more traditionally shaped vaginal toy
The ones I have are unlikely to be appealing. I tend to buy very solid ones that aren't usually very popular with most women (from what I've read on here). I also like my toys long.
Considering some of your other posts, I think your best bet would be to go with a softer material, and of course, not too big. Is there any reason you are looking specifically for something realistic? Looking specifically for realistic narrows your options down somewhat. If the realistic thing doesn't matter TOO much, this one looks like it has potential:
Monique sensual curves vibrator Femplay
It's jelly (soft material - tick), less than 7" (smallish - tick), and a pretty pink (not too scary and sex toy looking - tick).
If realistic matters, something like this might be more suitable:
Guy bartlett 7 inch realistic vibrating penis Femplay
Slim replika vibrating penis Femplay
As noted earlier, I can't give you any recommendations here. These are not the sort of toys I buy and I haven't tried any of these ones. They are just suggestions based on what you've told us so far.
If you are worried about cost, it might be smart to choose according to what you know about her - that she likes clitoral orgasms and g spot stimulation.
Another option if you're worried about cost is to go with the much-raved-about rabbit. As I said, I hate the things, but many women love them. A rabbit would tick the clitoral orgasm box, and give her an opportunity to experiment with vaginal play at the same time. I've also seen a toy or toy out there that are similar to rabbits, but have the curved head to stimulate the g spot.
Don't buy from the site I've been linking to. It's an Aussie site and will cost you a fortune in shipping. I used it because it's my favourite and I know my way around it well.
Good luck! Keep us updated. I want to know what you end up buying!