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Do you have aesthetic standards (either facially or physique) when dating and/or hooking up or is their cock and/or ass more important?

Yeah, I love good looking guys and have dated and hooked up with my fair share, but I've also been involved with plenty of guys who aren't conventionally attractive in the face and/or on the overweight side bc they have really big cocks and HANDS DOWN the best sex I've ever had was with a short, pot-bellied Sicilian with a cock that DID NOT belong attached to his body, despite not being attracted to him initially and the ex I miss the most isn't exactly a heart throb either (until his pants are down). I don't necessarily believe in the whole "unattractive people have to try harder, so the sex is better" thing, but they're definitely overlooked in society and DAMN are there some gems out there who a lot of people wouldn't look twice at if they saw them in public
 
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When I am dating or getting a hookup for the night what the mans penis looks like means absolutely nothing to me as long as it is shaved. If I am not attracted to your face and body then I am going turn you down. One of biggest pet peeves when looking for a date or hookup is only getting a body/dick picture without a face.
 

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Well if its women we are talking about, you have to add money/ career to the list. And that wins most of the time.

Don't forget credit score. <end sarcasm>

Seriously? You're lumping all women into being so material? If so, then you're traveling in wrong circles, and if you happen to land a partner who uses that gauge then you deserve what you get.

I agree that the initial look will normally attract me, but it's going to be your actions that keep me interested. And I'm not talking about your pickup line. I'm talking about your interactions with people around you. How much do you smile? How much do you laugh? I can tell within a few minutes generally what type of person you are. Are you kind? Are you a smartass? Are you polite, friendly, and how do people react to you?

I would write the equation, but being a woman my math is inscrutable.
 

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It really depends, but imagine you’re perfect guy, tall, buff, handsome, muscles, or whatever it is that you consider “perfect” ... but he has a 5 incher..... that would be a fail in my book. People, especially gays are so obsessed with having a set of abs, but I alway say and the end of the day abs don’t make me Cum!
 
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It really depends, but imagine you’re perfect guy, tall, buff, handsome, muscles, or whatever it is that you consider “perfect” ... but he has a 5 incher..... that would be a fail in my book. People, especially gays are so obsessed with having a set of abs, but I alway say and the end of the day abs don’t make me Cum!
If you meet that guy and he has a witty, down to earth personality, send him my way immediately!

Lol... I guess it's more about the "total package" than penis or looks alone.

The cool thing is everyone has their own "total package" of physical, personality, socioeconomic and other traits that make up "them." And even cooler, some of those can be adjusted to their liking!
 

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Well if its women we are talking about, you have to add money/ career to the list. And that wins most of the time.
Not saying this is you, but in my experience, men who complain about this tend to be broke and unemployed. I’m not going to apologize for wanting a man who can support himself - if I wanted to support somebody, I’d have kids (been there, done that).

But for me, as long as a guy doesn’t need me to support him financially and he’s happy with his career, then I’m good with it. He doesn’t need to be rich or ambitious. He just has to be a good human being.
 
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Not saying this is you, but in my experience, men who complain about this tend to be broke and unemployed.

That, or they flash money/stuff that they spent a lot of money on to try and attract someone. : unamused:

I demand someone be a functional, self-sufficient adult. That's it. Rich? Nope. Spend money on me? Nope. Show off? Nope. I've been the person that someone mooched off of in the past. Once. Never again. There's a miles wide gap between not wanting someone to mooch off of you/others, versus seeking someone due to their money/career and that being a "win".

In regards to the original post:

I have had flexible aesthetic standards when dating as well as seeking friends with benefits. I had to find them at least a bit physically attractive. I've never picked someone to date or fuck just because of their dick, though. Not once out of the 50+ people I've been intimate with and/or dated. I have dated or fucked people who weren't necessarily my ideal physical look because they were otherwise such attractive individuals, meaning their personality, intellect, etc. Also, how compatible our sexual preferences were. There was someone I tried being FWBs with but they had a low sex drive and liked really slow, really drawn out sex. Neither of which worked for me.

I have found that there were a fair few men who thought that having a big dick was enough. The one man who had a micropenis I was intimate with behaved the same, though. I've experienced a variety of people across a wide spectrum of demographics who were a lousy lay. Main stream attractive, main stream not attractive, male, female, other, etc. All in all, in my anecdotal experiences, being "not as attractive" hasn't shown that they put more effort in.[/QUOTE]
 
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Not saying this is you, but in my experience, men who complain about this tend to be broke and unemployed. I’m not going to apologize for wanting a man who can support himself - if I wanted to support somebody, I’d have kids (been there, done that).

But for me, as long as a guy doesn’t need me to support him financially and he’s happy with his career, then I’m good with it. He doesn’t need to be rich or ambitious. He just has to be a good human being.

Fair enough. Your response shows you aren't in the category I am describing. I also didnt say there was anything particularly wrong with that way of thinking. I get it. I feel you idea of being self supporting at a minimum makes total sense. I'm sure you are used to whining men posting how unfair life is to them but that wasnt my angle
 
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I fell in love with who I thought was a destitute musician. I rearranged my finances to figure out how to support my daughter and me plus him and his avocation.

Money isn't everything. Yes, it's important, but you can always find a way if you're right for each other.
 
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I’m pretty sure a guy who shows a crotch bulge attracts women more than a guy with a bulging wallet.

Joking aside, when I was hanging out in bars and clubs, guys who flashed bling, drove flashy cars, wore splashy clothes always had hot women hanging around them. Maybe all those things put together add up to a guy who is fun or can afford fun.

Not being cynical. And not resentful. I relied on my impecunious good looks and bulge to attract the fairer sex.
 

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neither... in today's age and with my past experience, neither looks or package will do it anymore. i need to have a socially mental connection otherwise it's a no-go. besides, there's too much "crazy" out there. i don't care how good looking a person is cause if he/she is crazy or psycho, they get ugly fast... same goes if they got a big dick or nice titties... crazy is not worth any physical piece of ass...

every time i see someone attractive, i have to wonder how they are as a person. unless you've encountered "crazy" in your life, you won't know what i'm talking about. to me, it's not worth it anymore to judge on looks or package anymore. i'm willing to give everyone a chance however i'm mindful of mental capacity and the crazy-factor.
 
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I love a big beautiful cock but attractiveness wins out with me. Don't mean to sound superficial, it's just the truth. I have always said the guy makes his cock hot. I couldn't do a micro penis but a hot guy can make a smallish cock awfully hot. I read a story once about a 5'8 160 lb. hot as fuck college boy with a magnetic personality who could pull three times the pussy as his cocky, asshole good looking hung roommate. Have no doubt about it. All sex is good, but when someone's heart gets melted along with getting their eyes rolled I think it's safe to say most will fall in love with whatever their lover has below the belt.
 
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neither... in today's age and with my past experience, neither looks or package will do it anymore. i need to have a socially mental connection otherwise it's a no-go. besides, there's too much "crazy" out there. i don't care how good looking a person is cause if he/she is crazy or psycho, they get ugly fast... same goes if they got a big dick or nice titties... crazy is not worth any physical piece of ass...

every time i see someone attractive, i have to wonder how they are as a person. unless you've encountered "crazy" in your life, you won't know what i'm talking about. to me, it's not worth it anymore to judge on looks or package anymore. i'm willing to give everyone a chance however i'm mindful of mental capacity and the crazy-factor.

Perfectly said.
 

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I go for women that are about my league, problem is they either aren't single or have dozens of men fawning over them at any given moment.

Older I get the more I realize how impossible it is to find a young, fit, educated woman that is sober and doesn't have any kids....and isn't taken.