I don't think either tight or loose is better. What really matters is that my partner is excited to be with me and enjoys the sex as much as I do. I remember (back in the 1980s) having sex with a 18 y.o. girl who had a particularly tight pussy. It wasn't that she was a virgin (she was quite experienced), I think it was just the way she was built. She also had incredibly smooth skin. Fucking her was very good physically, but I don't think we connected mentally so it probably didn't leave a lasting impression for either of us. On the other hand I later had a relationship with an older woman (of about 30) who'd had 4 kids, and her vagina was really accommodating. I found that my hand could go into her pussy almost to the wrist. (I'd never done that before!) She really liked it when I fisted her and licked her clit at the same time. I bought her a huge black dildo form a gay men's sex shop and she went wild for it. Nevetheless, when we fucked it still felt good - despite knowing that I wasn't filling her up - and we'd both had really good orgasms. Despite having an accommodating pussy she could sure grip me with it and that's what feels good to me.
I really have to disagree with you here Calambo (hello mate
). I'm sure toy use won't make him obsolete. Whoever heard of a woman eloping with a dildo?