Loss Of Sexual Functions Following Surgery

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I write this to share my thoughts. In recent times it was discovered that I had a large tumour consuming the base of my spine and following amazing surgery and wonderful skills performed by my medical team no one looking at me is aware that anything was actually wrong with me. I could have landed up as a cripple, I could have in fact died during surgery, I am extremely fortunate. The “unseen” outcome of the surgery apart from removal of the tumour is that I have no feelings internally and externally from hip level to top of the legs. I have to be catheterised to pass water and I technically have no control over bowel functions. I am able however to manage everything well and life is good.

You will of course realise from what I have said that I have no sexual functions or feelings. A small price to pay for survival but as time goes on I miss what I can’t do and feel any more. My mind is becoming more and more active thinking back to the past. I look at my penis and it seems to small having shrunk back into my body. I long to feel a strong hard cock in my hand, I long to feel the sensation of a climax building up throughout my body and for the release of semen as it pulses out.

I used to enjoy going for massages and the extras that went with them. I have not been bold enough to venture there again. Embarrassment, fear of making a mess, problems of explaining myself…. so I don’t go.

I have spoken with a counsellor about my feelings and he suggests that I am experiencing grief about what I no longer have, about what I can no longer do.

I know that I am doing extremely well and incredibly fortunate and there are many other men who are in situations far worse than I am. There are also many men of my age who have the same problems brought about by physical deterioration of their bodies.

I have written this wondering if there are others who have a story to share about loss of bodily and sexual functions and the games that their minds play as a result.

Thanks for reading this.
 

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I'm sorry that you've had to ho through this ordeal. But happy too that you survived and are able to carry on a somewhat normal life.

I'm wondering how long it has been since your surgery and if over time any of the feelings will eventually come back?
 
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I'm sorry that you've had to ho through this ordeal. But happy too that you survived and are able to carry on a somewhat normal life.

I'm wondering how long it has been since your surgery and if over time any of the feelings will eventually come back?
It is now 14 months. The "arousal areas" can never come back because the nerves servicing that region were lost when part of my spine was removed. Areas in my body where nerves were just shocked or damaged have had some healing and feeling returned.
I have not met anyone who has had a similar type of thing happen to them and just wondering if there are others on this site who may want to share their story. Thanks for your interest.
 
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I write this to share my thoughts. In recent times it was discovered that I had a large tumour consuming the base of my spine and following amazing surgery and wonderful skills performed by my medical team no one looking at me is aware that anything was actually wrong with me. I could have landed up as a cripple, I could have in fact died during surgery, I am extremely fortunate. The “unseen” outcome of the surgery apart from removal of the tumour is that I have no feelings internally and externally from hip level to top of the legs. I have to be catheterised to pass water and I technically have no control over bowel functions. I am able however to manage everything well and life is good.

You will of course realise from what I have said that I have no sexual functions or feelings. A small price to pay for survival but as time goes on I miss what I can’t do and feel any more. My mind is becoming more and more active thinking back to the past. I look at my penis and it seems to small having shrunk back into my body. I long to feel a strong hard cock in my hand, I long to feel the sensation of a climax building up throughout my body and for the release of semen as it pulses out.

I used to enjoy going for massages and the extras that went with them. I have not been bold enough to venture there again. Embarrassment, fear of making a mess, problems of explaining myself…. so I don’t go.

I have spoken with a counsellor about my feelings and he suggests that I am experiencing grief about what I no longer have, about what I can no longer do.

I know that I am doing extremely well and incredibly fortunate and there are many other men who are in situations far worse than I am. There are also many men of my age who have the same problems brought about by physical deterioration of their bodies.

I have written this wondering if there are others who have a story to share about loss of bodily and sexual functions and the games that their minds play as a result.

Thanks for reading this.
Stay strong, my friend. May your guardian angel always be around you. Take care of yourself.
 
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

Are you still able to walk?
Yes I can walk. That was a question that everyone was wanting answered following the surgery. My walking duration is a little compromised and initially I used to have to stop frequently as muscles just said "no". But recently I have had amazing improvement.
I still have sacrum vertebra one where leg movement nerves come from. I have lost half of sacrum two and everything below that and that is where the nerves to penis, bowel and that area come from. There is also slight compromise to the surface feelings on the legs but that is a very small price to pay.
I am incredibly fortunate at having a very good neuro surgeon for the spinal part of the operation and a top plastic surgeon to reconstruct enough bottom to sit on and generally look good down there.
 
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Yes I can walk. That was a question that everyone was wanting answered following the surgery. My walking duration is a little compromised and initially I used to have to stop frequently as muscles just said "no". But recently I have had amazing improvement.
I still have sacrum vertebra one where leg movement nerves come from. I have lost half of sacrum two and everything below that and that is where the nerves to penis, bowel and that area come from. There is also slight compromise to the surface feelings on the legs but that is a very small price to pay.
I am incredibly fortunate at having a very good neuro surgeon for the spinal part of the operation and a top plastic surgeon to reconstruct enough bottom to sit on and generally look good down there.
I have had the same thing happen to me I used to get very hard erections instantly and cum a good load then I had a accident and after 9 months in hospital and 22 surgeries late I can’t get hard anymore and when I do orgasm I’m just about dry! It’s very hard to get your head around and wish I could get it back! Stay strong your not the only one out there.
 
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I have had the same thing happen to me I used to get very hard erections instantly and cum a good load then I had a accident and after 9 months in hospital and 22 surgeries late I can’t get hard anymore and when I do orgasm I’m just about dry! It’s very hard to get your head around and wish I could get it back! Stay strong your not the only one out there.
Hi Diver6. Thanks for your encouragement. Anyway that I can communicate/chat privately with you? Thanks
 

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You are being very strong in face of what has happened ! Great
has anyone mentioned Sildenafil (Viagra) or similar. They were (are) indicated for those who have had pelvic surgery, ie damage to pelvis nerves
 
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You are being very strong in face of what has happened ! Great
has anyone mentioned Sildenafil (Viagra) or similar. They were (are) indicated for those who have had pelvic surgery, ie damage to pelvis nerves
Not all of those work, I've tried them and Cialis with no success. The only thing that has worked for me was Trimix injections. I think surgery for an implant would be last resort!
 
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No but you could pleasure someone else and get erotic feelings on other parts of your body
I like your comment about giving pleasure to someone. Of course when we do pleasure someone else we also get pleasure ourselves. My life is a little more complicated. I do not have full control on by bowel and would be so embarrassed if I made a mess will playing with someone. Most of the time I am reliable and have to gain confidence again. I do have anal plugs that can be used to help unplanned problems. But, as I have said before, I have life and a good mind and I can walk. Many expected me to to survive the surgery and then the next thing was to discover whether I could even walk. If you met me in the street you would not know that I have had such massive surgery and missing a significant part of my spine. Thanks for your interest
 
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