Lost my Virginity today!!!Some questions though!!!

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  1. the123

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    Firstly this is my first post so hi, iv been browsing a while but always wanted to have sex before commenting (weird right-probally so i knew what i was on about).

    Anyway today i had sex with a girl for the first time and i have a few questions regarding.

    It took ages for her to get me hard when she did i just couldnt come and would just get soft again. Few mins later hard again fuck a bit and soft again. This went on for like 2 hours!!!!!!! And eventually we gave up. So my first question is- Is this normal has this happened to anyone before?
    TBH i wasnt really attracted to her it was more of a get it over and done with thing. When im watching porn i can get hard and come easily.

    Secondly I sort of had a pain in my balls? (Weird know right?)

    So overall im not sure after this experience i have to say so far i think sex was a little overrated- but i would def wanna hear peoples views and advice on this issue. Thanks for reading.
     
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    Hey,
    firstly, welcome.
    secondly, the first time is usually a bit rubbish, trust me, with practice things will get much better, just give it some time. If you weren't attracted to her, that probably wouldn't help things, then I would assume you were quite nervous with it being your 1st time, this is also likely to affect performance.

    As for the ball pain... what sort of pain? Do you often get it? Did anything in particular cause it?
     
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    It was probably your expectations that let you down, and nervousness, etc. I am sure you'll be able to cum in due time with practice.

    When you masturbate do you cum timely?
     
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    Thanks,
    Honestly i wasnt nervous tbh honest i felt as if i knew what i was doing and i was pleasing her for the little amounts of time i was hard.

    I never get ball pain and the fact i couldnt cum sorta worried me.

    Yeh its soo easy for me to cum when i masturbating i can control it most of the time dont know what happened today though.
     
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    Congrats dude!

    Except for the part about you were not that into her. The prevailing opinion is that sex deserves a VERY high rating.

    As to not staying hard, etc. it’s much more common, I suspect, than we guys like to admit. There’s a big spectrum out there. Some guys get so excited they experience premature ejaculation before they can even get it in; others experience what you describe the first time.

    Maybe you were being very self conscious. The first time is a big deal. You can be thinking, “I’m doing it; I can’t believe I’m doing it.” Well, it is exciting, but thinking about yourself can’t be all that exciting. Does anybody think about themselves when they are wanking? Uck.

    Another thought, if you are not real young and have been jerking many years, you may have developed a really fixed way of getting off. Find the right girl, she might not complain if you take time, they usually don’t, you’ll discover that it’s easy and fun to learn variety.

    Pain in the balls, I don’t know, but you didn’t cum and you were going at it a long time. Maybe that’s the explanation; also, how long had it been since you last came?
     
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    Hey 123,
    You just had a case of the nerves. It's happened to me a couple of times through the years.
    Next time relax, breathe deep and let things progress in natural way. :smile:
     
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    the123,
    Welcome and congratulations on losing your virginity. As you'll probably hear here, first time experiences are across the board from similarly anticlimactic ones like yours to mind-blowing estatic (sp) memorable times. First error might have been that you weren't really into her. There is this magical thing called sexual polarity of attraction that can make all the difference. That was obviously absent for you. Sounded like a very mechanical, check-it-off the list act. Trust me, it will be a different and better experience when you have sex with someone you really like, if not love, who really is into you and you're really turned on by the prospect of fucking. Better luck next time. Write it off to first time experience and better luck with #2 and do let us know.
     
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    performance stress
     
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    That's actually a good theory.
     
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    Yeh next time wont be rushed hopefully ill be attracted to her. I cummed a few days ago (2 i think).

    Will do. Im just gonna make sure i dont wait another 18 years lol.:biggrin1:
     
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    Welcome to the site
    The pain in your balls was most likly a case of the blue balls
    And testecular cancer(just kidding about the cancer or am I) bust seriously congratz and just keep trying
    Try and have fun

    Alistair
     
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    yeah as people said it's a 3 way combo.

    1.) you weren't that attracted to the girl
    2.) you were probably nervous as heck and your anxiety prob got the best of you
    3.) the pain in your balls was blue balls
     
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    As someone who has almost always had natural (condom-free) sex, and only sometimes worn condoms, I think this may be part of your problem. While I don't condone unsafe sex or unplanned pregnancies, condoms significantly numb the sensations of vaginal intercourse, especially if your point of reference is masturbation. Possibly because of the lack of sensation and nerves, you weren't able to stay hard nor come. Vaginal intercourse is a light caress compared to how men usually masturbate, and add the numbing effect of latex and sex feels, well, numb. Possibly, if you had natural sex such as I enjoy with my wife, then you may have had more success.

    This is one area where a long-term monogamous relationship with an alternative form of birth control is a big advantage.
     
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    Yeh i agree speaking with a few guys today all said wearing a condom is the best way of having sex it feels soo much better i hear. But as you said the risk is high. However next time if the person has been tested i will def try it/:biggrin1:
     
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    I agree ... we always called this "blue balls," from being turned on for a long time and not cumming. Having a quick wank will solve it.
     
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    well done mate. first time for me was not great either, but you would not expect to win a 100 yd race the first time you did it.

    almost certainly you had expectations, were nervous, and you did not really fancy the girl.

    get a bird you fancy, find somewhere that is cosy and quiet, and where you can take your time.

    as for the pain in your balls, its simply blue balls, you were trying to have sex for a couple of hours. have a good wank over your favourite porn, but be careful, the result might just be very messy.
     
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    well the fact that u didnt really want to fuck her wouldnt have helped....i would blame it on that!

    And second..were u drunk? or had been drinking?

    otherwise i recon it might be time to try guys lol
     
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    Can wanking do that to your penis id like to know as well?

    Yeh after reading and listening to peoples responses im sure that was the reason. We didnt drink anything before-not for my first time wanted to get it over and done with lol sorta achieved that.

    Thats the joke all my mates made. Heard almost everything.:tongue:
     
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    I would guess it was because you were nervous because it was your first time. I've taken a few guy's virginity, and that almost same situation happened with two of them.

    As far as the pain, I don't know.. Could it of been "blue balls"? Maybe the getting hard then going back down over and over caused it? My X would have that problem when he was drinking cause he couldn't really stay hard drunk.

    Sorry your first time wasn't so awesome. But if it makes you feel any better, most peoples aren't.
     
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    Drugs or alcohol?Either of those can cause the up down and not getting off.I do agree with the others.If I am not attracted to a gurl in one way or another,I can't get hard or get off,unless I am extremely horny.If I find something attractive about a gurl, and it's just a fuck,I concentrate on the part of her that I am attracted to.I had one gurl that I could not stand but I loved he eyes.So I told her that I liked a moaner that locked eyes with me and didn't say anything.Just let our bodies talk.Crazy crap like that can work.I much prefer nice tits or ass.
     
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