Love my man, penis smaller than mine

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I'm looking for practical advice. I love my man. He's super handsome, so fun, and I'm so in love with him.

For a variety of reasons, I also have become attracted to large penises. Apparently I'm not alone!

He's got a nice penis. Maybe 5 or 6 inches but not too thick.

Most of my previous lovers or sex partners ranged from 7 to 9 inches. Admittedly because that was part of the selection process. Plus I masturbate to big penis videos.

But I want to love my man and get off on him. I think my attraction to big penises is kind of psychological. It doesn't really make sense.

Any advice from someone who can relate? I fear I've made big penis too much of a requirement for me sexually to get off.

But I love this guy! Just am not superficially attracted to his penis.

hmmmmmm? help?
 
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See if you can create an active and very creative sex life. If you find it makes you happy, then go with it.

I love cheesecake. But the last 3 times I went to the Cheesecake Factory, I didn’t order any. I was full and satisfied with my meal. Sometimes, we are happy to admire something from afar and sometimes we just need it in us!
 

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I admit that I am a size queen. I've dated or been fuck buddies with plenty of hung guys. But there is one boyfriend that I had the most fun (both sexual and non-sexual) with. We had a very wild sexual experiences. We regularly visited the local adult bookstores. We would make a roadtrip and visit one of the bathhouses in a nearby city. We had plenty of 3somes, 4somes or orgies. We tried many kinds of kinks. We would fuck outdoors, in a car or in a sling. He always made me laugh and smile. But he is one of the smaller guys I have been with. He was only 6" long. But damn, he knew how to use it! He fucked better than a lot of the hung guys I have been with.

It really is all about the motion in the ocean, and nothing to do with the size of the boat.
 

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The way sexuality is constructed out of objectification of the human body and its parts plays a large role in these issues. Porn, your willingness to indulge your interest as a fetish, and the idea that you are naturally attracted to large penises is placing your current relationship in a bit of a bind with respect to this issue.

Just as your preference was done, it can be undone. If you truly love this man you will take the time to learn how to enjoy him and to please him. One, stop masturbating to big penis videos, this particular interest is causing problems in your real life relationship. Try other kinds of videos, masturbating with him, or no videos at all.

The fact that you say you're attracted to big penises (not a person, not a thing you really touch or live with) is really only habituation. Your attraction to his penis isn't the primary motivator here, you are also responsible for his pleasure, and that responsibility needs to come first. If you truly love him, you will do the work it takes.
 

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If you stop masturbating to porn, you'll probably find that your sexual enjoyment with your partner will improve. It might take a few weeks or so but eventually it will work.

Porn is like a drug to your brain. Over time it needs more and more extreme stimulation to get the same reaction. But if you go cold turkey, your arousal trigger will normalize and you will be more than happy with your partner.
 

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If you stop masturbating to porn, you'll probably find that your sexual enjoyment with your partner will improve. It might take a few weeks or so but eventually it will work.

Porn is like a drug to your brain. Over time it needs more and more extreme stimulation to get the same reaction. But if you go cold turkey, your arousal trigger will normalize and you will be more than happy with your partner.


That's exactly what I've been doing. My porn exposure has minimized and I don't masturbate as much. I'm finding myself loving his cock even more. Actually I think it is a little longer than mine, too, which I like even though mine is probably a little fatter - but he doesn't like to bottom so it really doesn't matter much. He just likes it when I come.
 

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At the end of the day, after everyone's advice, its up to you really! If you truly love your man IN SPITE of his endowment and if not, let him know up front! No need to drag him on n on