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Mostly for the ones with significant others, but when you're in your own sessions, pleasing yourself, who do you usually think of? Do you imagine your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife? Or do you think of someone else? Or is it a mix or does it depend on what/how you're feeling?
 

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I'm curious about this as well as expanding it - Do you still jerk off when you have a significant other?

I know I still do. :redface:

Before the bf, I went through certain phases/periods of not jacking off, and times where I did it regularly. I do the same still while I'm with him, but at first I was going through some of those periods of not doing so.

As for who I think about, every time since we've been together, I only really think about him. If I have thought of someone else, it only lasts a few seconds and it turns into my bf, haha.
 

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When I'm in a relationship, I think of the guy I'm with - unless the relationship is on the rocks, then I think about someone else.

When I'm single, I generally think about guys I desire in my personal life. Sometimes I think about celebrities. Sometimes I don't think about anyone. I just think about someone doing certain things to me - no real face to put to the body.
 

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I fap pretty regularly even being in a relationship. As for my wanking material I would say about 48% of the time it's to my husband. 30% of the time it's to memories of other partners. 20% it's to Liam Neeson. 2% of the time it's to my LPSG crush.
 
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LOl I think most people will admit when Jerking off each day something else turns you on. One day it can be your current partner, one day it can be thinking about a past hookup or person, one day it can be something you have done in the past with yoru partner, one day it can be from watching straight frat guy porn ( did I say that out loud?). Basically when you JO its your own private thoughts.. dont sweat it.

On a funny side note, I asked a married straight buddy once ( who knows I am bi) if he ever thought of another person when he was having sex with his wife "Jennie". His classic response was " shit I cant remember the last time I had sex with Jennie." That could be a line in a Judd Apatow movie
 

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Because of my current relationship I haven't done the dirty deed in awhile. But before my boyfriend one of my favorite repeat fantasies was to imagine that I was in a mysterious sexual relationship with a very wealthy tall muscular man. He'd send me expensive sexy clothes to wear for our encounters, almost always black silk lingerie items that I would wear under a little black dress. I also wore a black velvet mask (lone ranger style) and a thin black leather choker with a small silver ring on the front.

A limo would arrive and inside he'd be dressed in a expensive suite and also wearing a mask. They'd be no words exchanged. We'd then be driven to a unknown location far from the city. Along the way he may place his hand on my thigh or softly kiss my neck but nothing more. We'd pull up in front of an enormous mansion and it was at this time he'd put on black leather gloves and take from his jacket pocket a thin leather leash and attach it to the silver ring on my choker. He would lead me from the limo up the steps where two well dressed men wearing masks would open the giant doors to the main entrance. Once inside there were several men/women in expensive suits/dresses, all masked. A luxurious and exclusive sex club. From this point I could take the fantasy anywhere I wanted. Which was one of the great things about it. It was like Eyes Wide Shut. Probably where I got whole fantasy. Sometimes he would have sex with me in an opulent private room. Sometimes he'd share me with other members of the club as groups watched and or participated. There were many rooms and fantasies playing out. I was a submissive to his will and lust. And of course in my fantasy, very popular among the men, who were all hungry for my attention and body.

I have never acted on anything close to this fantasy in my real life, never been with more than one man at a time. But I must have replayed this particular fantasy dozens of times in my head and come even more than that to it.

If I'm going to masturbate I see no pointing in doing it to someone I've already had sex with. I almost always place myself with a mysterious handsome stranger who sexually desires and dominates me. He's usually a large powerful man who ends up ravishing me. Most times I never imagine his face and he'll remain anonymous. I think that's why I like the above fantasy because it provide for masks.
 

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I don't really jack off (Haven't done so in roughly 8 months). Whenever I do, it's usually about one of my FWBs, or someone from TV. Usually Mariska Hargitay, Olivia Munn, or Rosario Dawson.

Mmmmmmm.... Rosariooooooo
 

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Because of my current relationship I haven't done the dirty deed in awhile. But before my boyfriend one of my favorite repeat fantasies was to imagine that I was in a mysterious sexual relationship with a very wealthy tall muscular man. He'd send me expensive sexy clothes to wear for our encounters, almost always black silk lingerie items that I would wear under a little black dress. I also wore a black velvet mask (lone ranger style) and a thin black leather choker with a small silver ring on the front.

A limo would arrive and inside he'd be dressed in a expensive suite and also wearing a mask. They'd be no words exchanged. We'd then be driven to a unknown location far from the city. Along the way he may place his hand on my thigh or softly kiss my neck but nothing more. We'd pull up in front of an enormous mansion and it was at this time he'd put on black leather gloves and take from his jacket pocket a thin leather leash and attach it to the silver ring on my choker. He would lead me from the limo up the steps where two well dressed men wearing masks would open the giant doors to the main entrance. Once inside there were several men/women in expensive suits/dresses, all masked. A luxurious and exclusive sex club. From this point I could take the fantasy anywhere I wanted. Which was one of the great things about it. It was like Eyes Wide Shut. Probably where I got whole fantasy. Sometimes he would have sex with me in an opulent private room. Sometimes he'd share me with other members of the club as groups watched and or participated. There were many rooms and fantasies playing out. I was a submissive to his will and lust. And of course in my fantasy, very popular among the men, who were all hungry for my attention and body.

I have never acted on anything close to this fantasy in my real life, never been with more than one man at a time. But I must have replayed this particular fantasy dozens of times in my head and come even more than that to it.

If I'm going to masturbate I see no pointing in doing it to someone I've already had sex with. I almost always place myself with a mysterious handsome stranger who sexually desires and dominates me. He's usually a large powerful man who ends up ravishing me. Most times I never imagine his face and he'll remain anonymous. I think that's why I like the above fantasy because it provide for masks.

That's pretty damn hot, Mercury.
 

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I'm in a relationship (married) and I still jack off. In fact, I probably do more of that than I get sex with my wife, but that's another story and more complicated than this question wants. However, if I'm honest, I mostly think about myself when I masturbate. I'm more into the immediate feelings rather than imagined encounters. On occasion a memory of a past encounter will pop up in the mental stream, but mostly I concentrate on how my cock, balls, nips, abs, or whatever are feeling.

If I'm trying to keep my hands off my cock (Aneros style) and concentrate on other areas, then I'm more prone to let my mind wander, but I don't have time for that kind of "pleasuring" session very often. Usually, unfortunately, it's a quick wank before I fall asleep or when I'm in the shower just to relieve sexual tension and blue balls. It's not what I'd prefer, but, hey, lots of people have lots bigger problems in their lives than mediocre masturbation sessions. LOL