loving male-female relationship...without sex?

[chill4d]

I'm trying to figure out if this will even work, a mature an loving relationship between two adults of the opposite sex, without actual sex. Some friends tell me it's impossible, some say thats what we just call a "friend", but either way this is what I'm looking for, and having difficulty finding.

I'm outgoing and friendly, but I don't feel sexually comfortable around girls. I've played around with guys, and learned I'm definitely not gay either. I'm just looking for a caring, sweet girl to love and spend time with, without getting to that point of feeling inappropriate or uncomfortable. I'm not having a very easy time finding a girl of similar perspectives however...and I hoped someone here could share some tips or opinions.

 

[AlteredEgo]

These weird women- the ones who will love you, support you emotionally, have fun with you, and not demand sex are called friends.

 

[jack65]

Hello

Yes i think you can find some one to suit you, but it may take a while, and remember just like you have your reasons for wanting this type of relationship they to will have a reason, weather medical or emotional.

Thank You.

 

[chill4d]

why is it that anything MORE than just friends always means sex? Everything is always on the physical side, I'm looking for more of a relationship on the emotional side. I have had plenty of "just friends", the problem for me is she's free to run off to get fucked by someone else. i dont have a problem with that concept, but it always complicates things and leaves me feeling bad.

 

[jack65]

Hello

One of my sister in laws just does not like sex, she says theres no reason but i would think there would be even if it was a hormone in balance any way,( her husband does like sex so it is hard for them but thats anther story) that is why i say the above, but its fine if that is what you need, have you tried to go to one of those online dating places, i haven't been to one but I'm sure you could say what your looking for and see what happens.

Thank You.

 

[cyberczar]

It's very easy for me to form these types of relationships with women.

Relationships with strong, powerful bonds.

Then again… I'm gay.

 

[Tristessa]

My closest friend loves sex but is married to a man that's just not interested. They've been together 10 years. She loves him enough, in fact, that she's learned to get by with a boxful of toys and a few gigs of porn. They have sex very occasionally, but it's not often . . once a month or less. They are very close emotionally, but just aren't very intimate. So yes these relationships exist, they just aren't that common.

One other possibility to consider is to find someone willing to act as a sexual surrogate for you . . to play by your rules and get used to physical intimacy step by step, with no other attachments. Almost a clinical study of intimacy. A friend of mine did this (as the surrogate, not the avoidant) and it helped the guy a lot. He wasn't asexual though (not sure if you are?), just had issues with intimate contact.