As several have said upthread, we're all damaged. I guess it depends on the type of damage we're talking about.
It's like going around looking at houses (and/or apartments or condos--you get the picture) and thinking, "Could this be my home?"
Are there some make-or-break attributes about the living space? No dishwasher, so no rental agreement? Too much painting needed, so no purchase contract? Too expensive to fix the foundation, so run screaming?
To me, it's the same way with people.
If there's no hope, or if the person is literally endangering himself or others by his behavior, then yes, I'd run screaming. And have.
But if the person is at heart a good person but needs therapy (from someone else, mind you) to get into a healthier, more balanced place, then I'd wait for the change. And have.
NCbear (who knows my man has been and continues to be patient with me :wry smile
It's like going around looking at houses (and/or apartments or condos--you get the picture) and thinking, "Could this be my home?"
Are there some make-or-break attributes about the living space? No dishwasher, so no rental agreement? Too much painting needed, so no purchase contract? Too expensive to fix the foundation, so run screaming?
To me, it's the same way with people.
If there's no hope, or if the person is literally endangering himself or others by his behavior, then yes, I'd run screaming. And have.
But if the person is at heart a good person but needs therapy (from someone else, mind you) to get into a healthier, more balanced place, then I'd wait for the change. And have.
NCbear (who knows my man has been and continues to be patient with me :wry smile