LPSG bullying.

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by yngjock20, Feb 5, 2008.

  1. yngjock20

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    Something that I've been a little afraid to talk about because there's quite a bit of ganging up that can happen when you oppose the general thought process here, but I've decided to ask it anyway.

    Are there straight men in here that have felt pressured to become more accepting of the same sex's advances on this site?

    There are alot of guys who do wish to show off, but not to men; however since this site is 98% male, it's more than likely that the only people who want to see their cock is another male.

    When the guy gets angred by the constant and often irritatingly redundant PM's like "I like you big dick. Pleez show me now" and voices his complaint, he's called a "homophobe" and a "troll" who got what he asked for by posting his pics.

    I'm not defending those who have given more than enough evidence to be called a basher, but those who have become tired of the constant emails and soliciting regardless of your rejection.

    Even moreso, do you feel now that you have to "join 'em" since you can't beat them?
     
  2. Osiris

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    You speak very truthfully and heartfelt.

    I have seen this time and again and it is also one reason I do not post pictures. It isn't the gay men who appreciate the straight men I think as much as it is the ones who become predatory. They ask and may be politely rejected for a cam show or something of that nature and then suddenly the refuser becomes a homophobe.

    The women go through this from the straight men on some levels, they are just a little more diplomatic in their handling I'd say.

    Good post yngjock.
     
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    I'm not going to jump all over you, yngjock. I get unflattering/annoying PMs from people all the time. Regardless of what your sexual orientation, I find that the best thing to do is, either ignore the PM or politely say thanks/I appreciate the compliment but I am not interested. If they keep bugging you, tell them to piss off.
     
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    I've had pictures up for over a year now and I have never been bothered by unsolicited PM's. I have had some problem with trolls, but not anything out of the ordinary... people pretty much leave me alone here, it's a great place to me to "hide out" on the internets.
     
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    That's strange, I would NEVER consider pm'ing a guy who lists himself as mostly straight.....what would be the point?(even stranger, I have been pm'd and asked to cam by guys who identified as 100&#37; straight)
     
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    It's a tough existence for us str8 bois here in LPSG land. Every day we have to deal with this dilemma...we've made it perfectly clear we aren't gay, so why do all these homosexuals keep sucking my cock?
     
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    see, i don't get that. there's a place to post comments in the gallery, so i have no idea why people would harass others through PM's. and i can see what you mean by having to conform to other guys ogling your junk instead of the ladies you intended to, because of the backlash you can experience by speaking out against it. like Jeff said, i guess you can fix that by the way you handle it. if you come out screaming, then yeah, you're labeled a homophobe, asshole, troll, etc. but if you handle it differently, you're more likely to come out unscathed.

    btw, don't ever be worried about being bashed for something. you have an opinion, and you're allowed to voice it in these forums. you've struck on an interesting topic, imo.
     
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    They aren't really 100% straight they are bi.:rolleyes::cool:
     
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    I just ignore them. If you don't give a response, I find they quickly give up, but if you provoke them, that might lead to the cries of "Homophobe!" and so forth.
     
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    If you're inundated with PM's or IM's like this, you should report them to a moderator and, if I were you, i'd post them on the forum. If people see that you will post idiotic and harassing PM's, they're less likely to send you more.
     
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    And you know what? That's completely fair of you to do. Personally, I tend to respond based on the fact they put an effort out. They only get ignored if they say incredibly retarded things. :smile:
     
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    Isn't more pc to refer to them as MENTALLY CHALLENGED? :cool:
     
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    Sorry for cutting your post down so much, but I suppose this is the core of the matter. I understand anyone who gets annoyed after being asked the same question over and over again, full and complete understanding. But some guys have to learn that there's another way of reacting to annoying requests, especially if they come in a written form: Ignoring, or refusing curtly. Doesn't hurt and saves your nerves.


    You have two options here:

    (a) These guys are secretly gay and don't want to scare off other guys with the sexual preference of 100 % gay, or

    (b) These guys are so envious of your body and dick (understandably :wink:) that they want to see it in all its glory and imagine its theirs, and they are screwing women in it.
     
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    and whenever has LPSG been pc? :tongue:
     
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    I don't spend much time on the site, therefore, I am not familiar with the technical issues regarding the site's features, options, operations, etc.
    My question: Isn't there a feature to block unwanted e-mails? If not, the moderaters should create one.

    I also agree with yngjock20 about the "group think" mentality on the site. If you post something disagreeable to the group that spends much of the day on the site you are attacked within seconds. Defenders will be silent!
     
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    You are right. It was definitely a poor choice of words... I meant to say...
    I only ignore them if they disgust me, or say things that are ridiculous.:smile:
     
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    Now, I'm gonna argue with that for one second, if you don't mind. I find that there are SOME posters who do exactly as you describe. However, there are others here... ones who will defend if the person has said something that is intelligent. Most of the time, the 'disagreeable' post is offensive.
     
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    I think what we're talking about is the difference between being retarded and being a retard. But yes, mentally challenged is the more polite term and the one I use.
     
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    Originally Posted by jeff black http://www.lpsg.org/images36/buttons/viewpost.gif
    And you know what? That's completely fair of you to do. Personally, I tend to respond based on the fact they put an effort out. They only get ignored if they say incredibly retarded things. :smile:



    Please note that he applied the adjective to the things said and not the persons. I have no problem with the use of the word in that context.
     
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    I get a lot more comments about my pics from guys than I do gals, and even though I'm straight, it's never particularly bothered me. A compliment is a compliment as far as I'm concerned. I've never had rude or threatening PMs on here.
     
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