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DC_DEEP

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Something that I've been a little afraid to talk about because there's quite a bit of ganging up that can happen when you oppose the general thought process here, but I've decided to ask it anyway.
The "ganging up" only happens to idiots, yngjock20. Opposing the general thought process here is not an issue. People, well-respected people, do it all the time. A lot of it has to do with how you oppose. Do it intelligently, and with respect, and you will receive the same in return. Come across as a jerk, and again, you will receive the same in return.
Are there straight men in here that have felt pressured to become more accepting of the same sex's advances on this site?
... building up to the big question(s):
There are alot of guys who do wish to show off, but not to men; however since this site is 98% male, it's more than likely that the only people who want to see their cock is another male.
I will try to be nice, and not gang up on you.

See, the problem with your post above, is that you are comingling several issues here. Looking at your pictures, and coming on to you, are absolutely unrelated. Personally, I'm not a "gallery-hound." Far less than one percent of my LPSG time is spent in the galleries. And if I posted dik-pix, I would not really care who looked at them. If a guy looks at your pix, but does not try to contact you, what damage is done? Is your hesitation really that you don't want guys looking at your pix, or that you don't want guys making offers to you?
When the guy gets angred by the constant and often irritatingly redundant PM's like "I like you big dick. Pleez show me now" and voices his complaint, he's called a "homophobe" and a "troll" who got what he asked for by posting his pics.
It's been my experience on LPSG that the trolls are the ones that get ganged up on, and labelled, not those who get tired of trolls.

Ha, now you know how the poor ladies feel when the straight guys send them the "rate-my-dick" PMs repeatedly, despite requests to the contrary.

It's always easy to put a "no solicitations from guys, please" in your profile or your sig line. Those who ignore such polite requests should be outed and publicly humiliated.
I'm not defending those who have given more than enough evidence to be called a basher, but those who have become tired of the constant emails and soliciting regardless of your rejection.

Even moreso, do you feel now that you have to "join 'em" since you can't beat them?
And the converse is true... no need for you to cast aspersions on those of us who have NOT been trolling the straight guys.
 

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The women go through this from the straight men on some levels, they are just a little more diplomatic in their handling I'd say.

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But there's a double standard Osiris, when we whine about the pm's we usually get support, when men do it they get told what do you expect.
No one should have to put up with unwanted communications but the net being what it is it's never going to be like that.

I just saw DC's post and I agree fully with that, some people make ridiculous posts, or disagree in an inflammatory way that is bound to get a harsh response. If you're an idiot you've only yourself to blame when people call you an idiot.
 

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I think you misunderstand or misperceive when you refer to a 'gang' mentality. What upsets people is the lack of a live and let live attitude, not the evidence of one. There is very little tolerance of prejudice here and people will call you out on it. But part of the beauty of this place is the frank and open dialogue. Even when it gets, um, sticky.

Yngjock, there's not a person on this site who wouldn't defend your right to firmly but politely set your bounderies. Its all in how you do it. You can't control who looks at your pictures or who gives you unsolicited comments and frankly I don't see why you'd care. You can use the ignore feature to avoid anyone whose attention is unwanted or annoying. Just as in life.

It's all good. You'll see.
 

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I get PMs from 100% straight dudes also, its probably that they just haven't accepted the fact that they may be bisexual or gay, in either case its a compliment to me. Id never say piss off to them, I politely say yes or no!
 

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yngjock20, I only just now noticed your "80% gay 20% straight" in your profile.

Now I'm really confused.

It has never, ever been "unpopular" to ask that people don't proposition you, regardless of your gender or orientation.

And yes, there have been a few whom I had to tell a couple of times, "I'm not a dildo with a man attached. If all you are looking for is a cock to suck, look elsewhere."
 

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The women go through this from the straight men on some levels, they are just a little more diplomatic in their handling I'd say.

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But there's a double standard Osiris, when we whine about the pm's we usually get support, when men do it they get told what do you expect.
No one should have to put up with unwanted communications but the net being what it is it's never going to be like that.

I just saw DC's post and I agree fully with that, some people make ridiculous posts, or disagree in an inflammatory way that is bound to get a harsh response. If you're an idiot you've only yourself to blame when people call you an idiot.

I think the difference is that women don't get those kinds of aggressive PM's from other women on this site. I know I don't.
 

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Well, this post had nothing to do with me, personally, because I'm pretty much gay...I was just questioning those who'd experienced it. Not people who felt indifferent because, obviously, you feel indifferent.

DC DEEP: "Personally, I'm not a "gallery-hound." Far less than one percent of my LPSG time is spent in the galleries. And if I posted dik-pix, I would not really care who looked at them. If a guy looks at your pix, but does not try to contact you, what damage is done? Is your hesitation really that you don't want guys looking at your pix, or that you don't want guys making offers to you?"

More specifically, I mean men who have been PM'ed for pics who don't have them posted; or if they do have them posted, are constantly solicited by other men dispite the fact that they are hetero.

I've basically gotten my answer from the many of you that have posted.

Block guys who are crossing their boundaries, other than that, take the compliment and keep it moving.
 

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I'm 100% straight, and yes i get comments from men, i'll take any kind words i can get because i'm comfortable in my own skin, in other words i'm not living a lie.
I'm never insulted because someone who is gay finds me attractive, if i did find it insulting the reason being is that i would have to be secretly gay and defensive in my ways to hide the truth.
I believe the ones who hate gays the most are the gayest, they are just in denial and afraid to come out, so they put on this big front.
chris
 

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It's a tough existence for us str8 bois here in LPSG land. Every day we have to deal with this dilemma...we've made it perfectly clear we aren't gay, so why do all these homosexuals keep sucking my cock?


I agree that sometimes men bother other other men who are clearly not interested, and they need to be told to hit the road for once and for all. But, for cryin' out loud, straight men, you don't have to let those homosexuals suck your cock? JUST SAY NO (that is, if you're really really sure you don't want it sucked ).:biggrin1:
 

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Well, this post had nothing to do with me, personally, because I'm pretty much gay...I was just questioning those who'd experienced it. Not people who felt indifferent because, obviously, you feel indifferent.
Ah, thank you for clearing that up. The opening post confused me just a bit... :biggrin1:
 

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I believe the ones who hate gays the most are the gayest, they are just in denial and afraid to come out, so they put on this big front.

Truer words have never been spoken!
 

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i posted a couple of pics a couple of weeks ago when i joined. they've been viewed 150-200 times and i'm willing to bet that most of the time it was guys looking......i'm straight and as such don't want to have sex with guys but if a PERSON looks at my dick and says 'nice one' i'm going to take that as a compliment and smile.

and if a PERSON who i don't want to have sex with asks i'll say 'no thanks'. if they keep asking its a weirdout but no more so for gay guys or straight women.
 

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I see straight guys and I like their pic then I'll give them a compliment about it but nothing I write refers to what I might like to do with that person or their dick. I think that would be rude.

It is difficult to tell who is really straight and who is on the down low here. I know one very cute guy who posts as 100&#37; straight is nothing of the sort as are a whole host of people in the chat room. That's not to odd though and I understand being closeted. I sympathize with it. So unless I'm approached first, I'll just give my compliment and move on with the discussion.
 

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That's strange, I would NEVER consider pm'ing a guy who lists himself as mostly straight.....what would be the point?(even stranger, I have been pm'd and asked to cam by guys who identified as 100% straight)

You are very comfortable in who you are my friend and very open about that. I think the men that are being reffered to here are looking for other men not comfortable in their skin like they are. You are not only comfy in your skin, you wear it well. :wink:

see, i don't get that. there's a place to post comments in the gallery, so i have no idea why people would harass others through PM's. and i can see what you mean by having to conform to other guys ogling your junk instead of the ladies you intended to, because of the backlash you can experience by speaking out against it. like Jeff said, i guess you can fix that by the way you handle it. if you come out screaming, then yeah, you're labeled a homophobe, asshole, troll, etc. but if you handle it differently, you're more likely to come out unscathed.

btw, don't ever be worried about being bashed for something. you have an opinion, and you're allowed to voice it in these forums. you've struck on an interesting topic, imo.

Claire nailed this one...

You have two options here:

(a) These guys are secretly gay and don't want to scare off other guys with the sexual preference of 100 % gay, or

(b) These guys are so envious of your body and dick (understandably :wink:) that they want to see it in all its glory and imagine its theirs, and they are screwing women in it.

NAILED IT! I think observation A is probably the most accurate, but both are 100% on the money.

The women go through this from the straight men on some levels, they are just a little more diplomatic in their handling I'd say.

But there's a double standard Osiris, when we whine about the pm's we usually get support, when men do it they get told what do you expect.
No one should have to put up with unwanted communications but the net being what it is it's never going to be like that.

I just saw DC's post and I agree fully with that, some people make ridiculous posts, or disagree in an inflammatory way that is bound to get a harsh response. If you're an idiot you've only yourself to blame when people call you an idiot.

You are right, but why the double standard? I guess I just can't understand it.

I get PMs from 100% straight dudes also, its probably that they just haven't accepted the fact that they may be bisexual or gay, in either case its a compliment to me. Id never say piss off to them, I politely say yes or no!

Damn good observation Monster. I did have a bi-sexual life for a time and I finally figured out it wasn't for me and I love tits and ass too much. That said, I am also very comfortable in my sexuality and can appreciate another males exceptional form.

Monster you are a damn good looking man.

I'm 100% straight, and yes i get comments from men, i'll take any kind words i can get because i'm comfortable in my own skin, in other words i'm not living a lie.
I'm never insulted because someone who is gay finds me attractive, if i did find it insulting the reason being is that i would have to be secretly gay and defensive in my ways to hide the truth.
I believe the ones who hate gays the most are the gayest, they are just in denial and afraid to come out, so they put on this big front.
chris

True and very simply put. Although I think they are reffering to the guys who are wanting cam shows and being more... How do I say this... aggressive and rude about their "compliments". Does that makes sense?