LPSG - style or substance?

[D_Gunther Snotpole]

Does anyone have an opinion on the general demeanor of my posts? Am I a thread killer?

But my dear JA, your are the soul of reason ... always patient, always aware of just what information the person you're responding to needs to hear, and if you close out some threads, it's only because your interest never flags.
Yo' duh bomb, JA!

 

[Manbap]

lab lab lab... same happens everywhere: an old member pops us and claim that the site is going low, and all the fingers points at the new members. ok, we the new members are just craps... shall we leave to keep the family together?

I personaly don't know how it was before becuase I never went beyond page 3. English in not may native language, so I tend to read more than to participate. Wirtting in english is like a homework to me. I recently started a thread called "how do you spend your evenings". You Call it whatever you want: a serious talk, a silly thread, but the fact that I did not know in which category I should post my thread! non seemed suitable, and the conclusion I got is that there is no place for talks other than "dick" talks. Not that I am complaining about it, I am here for dicks, I love dicks!

I did not do spell check; too many mistakes I guess :biggrin1:

 

[JustAsking]

Whoah! Thanks so much everyone for the kind words. I wasn't out looking for such praise, (but I will take it anywhere I can get it.).

 

[D_Gunther Snotpole]

lab lab lab... same happens everywhere: an old member pops us and claim that the site is going low, and all the fingers points at the new members. ok, we the new members are just craps... shall we leave to keep the family together?

I think a lot of old members wonder if we're in a kind of slump, Manbap ... not just one.
And I don't think anyone says that the new members as a group are a problem. But there are some asshats among them (of course, as there would be in any group, including among the group veterans). And the very large number of them has, inevitably, made some of the old connections looser.
No one suggests that anyone leave.

 

[Osiris]

I agree with the statement and there is only one way to combat the nastiness. Don't fuel it. Most of the idiots that are spewing the hate are doing it to get the "forum lions" on them.

Here is what I see. They know what will piss people of and there are a few that I can name who will very nobly defend the forum.

SpoiledPrincess, hotmilf, Think_Kink, NJQT, Snoozan, wldhoney, naughty, and 36DD.

The men tend to get sarcastic, but the aforementioned ladies are very open and up front on what they feel about a hate spewing twit and they will tell them. These guys are doing it to try and make the lions look stupid and if any of said twits are reading this, lean close to the screen, I have a little newsflash for you:

IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN SO JUST QUIT!

Many a troll has tried to pull out the lions and make them look bad or get them to "trip up". They don't and I love that about them. So to combat the rising hatred postings, just ignore them and hopefully the trolls wil go back under their bridges where they belong.

 

[DC_DEEP]

And age /= wisdom. All the over 40's used to do is have fleshpiles. Is that the intellectual element that is missing? Je ne pense pas! Zut alors!

*ahem* I don't recall that all I ever did was join in the fleshpiles... :biggrin1:

Does anyone have an opinion on the general demeanor of my posts? Am I a thread killer?

Only when a mercy killing is in order, my man.

I have a total boner for all of your posts, and, by extension, you. So, no. The only things I've ever heard about you is how intelligent and wonderful people think you are. Don't change a thing.

You shameless strumpet, you beat me to it. Damn you!

 

[rob_just_rob]

Discussed this with another member and she mentioned what a "meatmarket" this site has become as of late. I've noticed the rampant nastiness towards others, lack of compassion, and general negativity. I've read/heard comments about the dearth of interesting or compelling threads in Et Cetera Et Cetera. What do you think?

I think your perceptions are accurate.

There seem to be a lot of threads created just for the sake of creating threads. Now, more threads give the membership more to read, and an excuse to check in daily (or more often). Unfortunately, a lot of the additional content seems to be the product of boredom on the part of the thread creator. There's often not a lot of context for threads anymore - more like "I'll throw this out there and see who responds to it; maybe it'll be amusing". At least that's how it seems to me. Often, other members see the thread for what it is - a time waster or self-indulgent - call out the OP on it, and voila, nastiness ensues.

By all means, if some issue or conundrum has been occupying your thoughts, and you want to share it or solicit feedback, a new thread is a great idea. I don't see that happening (as) much anymore, though. It may be because of the hostility/negativity here - perhaps people aren't willing to post about issues that are important to them or sensitive, because they're concerned about the responses they might get.

This thread is not meant to point the finger at certain posters but to faciliate discussion. Have you noticed any of these or other things and what should be done?

Yes, I have.

I'm not sure what can be done. I'm getting a strong sense of deja vu from the "what should be done?" question. It would be nice if there was more of a community culture here - the way it once was - but I'm not sure how that can be recaptured. There's too many people here now, and too many people who don't know or don't remember what LPSG used to be like.

 

[Osiris]

I'm not sure what can be done. I'm getting a strong sense of deja vu from the "what should be done?" question. It would be nice if there was more of a community culture here - the way it once was - but I'm not sure how that can be recaptured. There's too many people here now, and too many people who don't know or don't remember what LPSG used to be like.

I think you are right Rob and you are probably asking why is a noob saying this? Because I went back and read some of the old threads. I didn't come out here and attack. If there was something I didn't understand or something I needed more info on, I went to a long time member (Thanks to all of you who have steered me in the right direction on some issues).

There is no excuse for someone not getting what a sense of community this site had in the past. All it takes is a will to go back and read some older posts. What we have are members who come here with their own agendas and are to tunnel visioned to even remotely try to be a part of the community.

 

[nudeyorker]

I've met some really nice people here and some not...just like real life you choose your friends and treat them as such, but you can still be polite to people you don't like!

 

[playainda336]

Well, to be honest, the LPSG hasn't had substance in a LONG time. There was a time when all of the conversations seemed to have a little more substance, but looking back...it was also the time of people pretending to be who they were not.

There have been times where the threads piqued the intellect and times where it didn't. But mostly nothing has ever come close to what it used to be a long time ago. So I'll say a little bit of both. There are people trying to make it like it used to be and people who could give a lesser hoot.

I could care less either way. I'll probably still be around regardless.

why is it okay to treat people like shit online and not in real life? because you don't have to be held personally accountable? that's pretty lame.

People suddenly get all kinds of confidence to do things when they don't have to look into a face while they do it. Cowards. All of you. Lol

 

[Osiris]

I've met some really nice people here and some not...just like real life you choose your friends and treat them as such, but you can still be polite to people you don't like!

If you were here right now, I'd offer you some coffee, but would prefer to share one of my bottles of wine with you.

Your a good man nudeyorker. I like your posts a lot.

 

[nudeyorker]

Thank you...the feeling is mutual. I like Turkish Coffee or Pinot Noir!

If you were here right now, I'd offer you some coffee, but would prefer to share one of my bottles of wine with you.

Your a good man nudeyorker. I like your posts a lot.

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[Osiris]

Thank you...the feeling is mutual. I like Turkish Coffee or Pinot Noir!

Pinot is the nectar of the Gods. Try either Pinot Evil (amazing for a French Pinot under $10), Bogle, Older Cloudline (the new vintage is way too young), the best? Rex Hill Pinot.

OK, sorry to hijack, but Nudeyorker said the magic word. :biggrin1:

 

[naughty]

I've met some really nice people here and some not...just like real life you choose your friends and treat them as such, but you can still be polite to people you don't like!

NY,

Your posts wit and positive attitude are one of the gems in LPSG's crown. I do agree 100%. Nastiness disguised as wit does not define one as a person of quality . Responding to difficult questions and situations with style and grace does. You, my friend, do that every time.

 

[snoozan]

You shameless strumpet, you beat me to it. Damn you!

I'm more than willing to share JustAsking with you. All you have to do is ask nicely. :naughty:

perhaps people aren't willing to post about issues that are important to them or sensitive, because they're concerned about the responses they might get.

This is something I didn't think of, but it's very true. LPSG used to be a sort of confessional for some, a place to talk about deeply personal things where one wasn't judged or criticized. I know I am no longer comfortable posting things like that because of where the forum has gone and because of some responses I've gotten somewhat recently from threads I've started or participated in.

One thing that's happened specifically is that it used to be, if you were a woman, you could post pics even if you're not built like a porn star and still get compliments. I don't even mean me-- I am far from being pretty or sexy right now and have no desire to post pics. However, other members who I think are absolutely hot by any standards get the shaft when they didn't before because, like every other porn site, it's only the porn star types, regardless of whether they are fake or whatever, who get comments and compliments. It seems like intelligence and wit matter even less now for women than they did a year ago. Where this once was a place on the 'net where real women with substance could get some attention and flattery, it's now the same as everywhere else.

 

[Mr. Snakey]

NY,

Your posts wit and positive attitude are one of the gems in LPSG's crown. I do agree 100%. Nastiness disguised as wit does not define one as a person of quality . Responding to difficult questions and situations with style and grace does. You, my friend, do that every time.

Oh my dear if we could only clone you a thousand times. Im dreaming again i know. What a nice dream it is.:smile:

 

[Osiris]

I'm more than willing to share JustAsking with you. All you have to do is ask nicely. :naughty:



This is something I didn't think of, but it's very true. LPSG used to be a sort of confessional for some, a place to talk about deeply personal things where one wasn't judged or criticized. I know I am no longer comfortable posting things like that because of where the forum has gone and because of some responses I've gotten somewhat recently from threads I've started or participated in.

One thing that's happened specifically is that it used to be, if you were a woman, you could post pics even if you're not built like a porn star and still get compliments. I don't even mean me-- I am far from being pretty or sexy right now and have no desire to post pics. However, other members who I think are absolutely hot by any standards get the shaft when they didn't before because, like every other porn site, it's only the porn star types, regardless of whether they are fake or whatever, who get comments and compliments. It seems like intelligence and wit matter even less now for women than they did a year ago. Where this once was a place on the 'net where real women with substance could get some attention and flattery, it's now the same as everywhere else.

Bloody hell! Snoozan? Look closely because I am going to say this for yet the third, or fourth, or fifth time...

YOU HAVE A FLIPPING AWESOME RACK!!!!!

That is all.

 

[ClaireTalon]

Discussed this with another member and she mentioned what a "meatmarket" this site has become as of late. I've noticed the rampant nastiness towards others, lack of compassion, and general negativity. I've read/heard comments about the dearth of interesting or compelling threads in Et Cetera Et Cetera. What do you think?

I have recently found it to become more and more difficult for me to reply to posts. My average count dropped from somewhere around 5 in the beginning to under 2.5 now, which is only partially due to offline days now being taken into consideration to evaluate the average post count.

That aside, I must say that threads either start to repeat themselves, subject-wise, or the subjects are petty and of little importance only. Recently I have had a short PM exchange with another member who agrees on that. Where's the point if I'm being asked for the fifth time or so what my first sex with a big dick was like (unimpressive, since it was my very first sex and I did not know he was above average), or what I have broken during sex, etc.

Instead of creating new threads on old subjects, why can't the old ones be refurbished? I have recently cruised through some of the threads I have started in my earlier days here, and found a lot of members who have replied there have gone missing meanwhile: Madame Zora, BronxBombshell and various others.

 

[naughty]

Oh my dear if we could only clone you a thousand times. Im dreaming again i know. What a nice dream it is.:smile:

THank you, sweetheart . You know the feeling is mutual. Now, its off to the movies! LOL! :biggrin1:

 

[snoozan]

Bloody hell! Snoozan? Look closely because I am going to say this for yet the third, or fourth, or fifth time...

YOU HAVE A FLIPPING AWESOME RACK!!!!!

That is all.

Did you type something? For the life of me, it seems like there's something up there that you posted that I just quoted, but I can't quite read it... Weird... :biggrin1: