Lurker pmms

[Anon]

I contribute nothing to these boards

 

[D_Barbi_Queue]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Feb 5 2005, 05:24 PM
Here's what you don't understand (sigh), that I've explained 1,000 times. I have told my whole life story on here, so lurkers know me fairly well. For me to get to know each individual person that well would take so much time out of my life I literally couldn't work to support myself. I know this because it happened when I first joined this site. The man-to-woman ratio is far too huge, and I literally don't have the time (nor the interest) to devote that much of myself to someone about whom I know nothing. Period. Sometimes a newbie or lurker will post on a thread and ask for comments from certain members, and I find this fine, and even nice, but I don't want pmms from anyone with less than 25 to 30 posts, so I at least have a clue who they are, what brought them here, what they care about, how they treat others, etc. It's my right to spend my time how I choose, and I choose not to waste it playing "getting to know you" over and over (and over and over) with lurkers.

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I get sick of them too, although I don't think I get them as often as you MZ. I just ignor them unless they have a significant amount of posts or are a premie member. I figured that if they paid $15 but still only have a couple posts, then they plan on sticking around. ^_^ But if it is at all rude or too personal, my mouse heads straight to the delete button. Some just have no clue, even when you plainly spell it out to them.

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

Yeah, really. I'm glad that you feel outspoken enough to say something about it on here, Zora, but if lurkers already don't seem to care too much about your privacy, then it couldn't be reasonable them to start caring now. Just use your delete button in your inbox. As for me, if I find someone irritating on here, not only do I trash their messages but I also block their screen names so I don't read their rubbish either.

 

[D_Humper E Bogart]

Sadly, popularity is often from the wrong kind of people, huh?

 

[Kimahri]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Feb 5 2005, 03:22 PM
You see, this is why I put up the note about not wanting pmms from lurkers, but apparently this one is too stupid to read my signature. I got this today:


To which I respond now : fuck off and die!

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Well damn. Remind me to post a lot before PMing you.

 

[13788]

Sweet Caroline: WooHoo! This is post 26. Brace yorself Zora, here come the PM's!!

--Carrie

 

[13788]

hung_big: I have to agree and disagree myself. Considering I have a low post count, one might consider me a lurker, but I think it's just as wrong to judge a member by his or her post count or profile than it is to judge them by their sexuality, culture, race or any other personal traits.

Though Zora, I can understand what you mean. If you don't know the person, how can you even call it descrimination?

But from personal experience, I can't say that all lurkers aren't worth getting to know. From this site I have had a life-changing experience, very recently with another member. Though I am considered a "lurker" or "non-poster" the other member got to know me and now we have what seems to be a very unique and amazing relationship.

Granted, I can understand not wanting to get PM's from obsurd amounts of people, but I don't see why, if they show general interest, you can't give them a chance.

 

[madame_zora]

Okay, let me clarify- it just takes too damned long!! What's so hard to understand about that?? I've made my point so many times, it just gets annoying. I don't have several hours to devote to each individual "shy person" who doesn't want to speak out on the board, so I'm not saying they're not worth getting to know, just that I'm not going to invest the time to find out. If you had 20 people a week who were demending 2 or 3 hours apiece from you, each one seeming indifferent to your plight of being deluged to begin with, each one thinking they're the only person in the world you have to deal with, you'd be irritated too. (clue- that could easily add up to 40 or 60 hours a week). Sometimes I'm just so overjoyed to see a name I recognise on a pm, so I'll know who I'm talking to. Anyone who knows me will tell you I'm very nice to talk to, I just don't talk to strangers, ever, nomatter what.

 

[Pecker]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Feb 12 2005, 04:17 PM
Okay, let me clarify- it just takes too damned long!! What's so hard to understand about that?? I've made my point so many times, it just gets annoying. I don't have several hours to devote to each individual "shy person" who doesn't want to speak out on the board, so I'm not saying they're not worth getting to know, just that I'm not going to invest the time to find out. If you had 20 people a week who were demending 2 or 3 hours apiece from you, each one seeming indifferent to your plight of being deluged to begin with, each one thinking they're the only person in the world you have to deal with, you'd be irritated too. (clue- that could easily add up to 40 or 60 hours a week). Sometimes I'm just so overjoyed to see a name I recognise on a pm, so I'll know who I'm talking to. Anyone who knows me will tell you I'm very nice to talk to, I just don't talk to strangers, ever, nomatter what.

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*sighs*

Jana, unfortunately their mindset is "But you don't mean meeeeee!"

 

[jonb]

I have to agree with Jana. I've had email accounts where some 90% of my email was spam.

 

[Altairion]

Jana, good to see you're back. I was starting to get worried since you hadn't posted for a couple days.

 

[Freddie53]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Feb 5 2005, 02:22 PM
You see, this is why I put up the note about not wanting pmms from lurkers, but apparently this one is too stupid to read my signature. I got this today:

pinewoodie clitoris sucking......., Today, 02:27 AM





Group: Member
Posts: 0
Member No.: 21465
Joined: Yesterday, 11:49 PM



hi to all..and u question i would like to as k the ladies......

when u enjoy oral......su prefer ur man to suck ur clitoris...... and if so what is the best way to do it for u girls? so u get the most pleasure from it?



To which I respond now : fuck off and die!

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Folks,

You are losing focus. Read the shitty pm that Jana got from a lurker. It wouldn't matter if it came from her first cousin, it is shitty. And for Jana. I would wager that a majority of the lurkers send such crap as this.

When I joined this forum, I posted. Jana was one of the first to welcome me. I can still remember what she saId. Jana has welcomed me as a member of her family of friends. But no one and I mean no one deserves to put up with some of the pm's that Jana gets.

There is only one solution for any person in her positon and that is she only accepts pms from people she knows.

Jana, I appreciate the part about how much time it would take and yes I know that that is true. But I also know your very vocal and strong feelings come mostly because you have had to deal with so many pms like this.

Jana,

If someone reads the pm that you got from a lurker and doesn't understand, then there is realy no need for you to explain to them. They will never figure it out. But your explaining does help the rest of the crowd know the reason.

To all of you who get these pms, delete them and TRY to forget you got them. I said TRY. I know that to delete and not even remember that they came is the best thing to do. But I don't know if I could do that or not. Knowing that that is the best thing to do and actually being able to do that is totally different.

I know myself and know that I would be bothered as much as I would try not to be.

As much good as Jana has done for so many people on this site, she doesn't deserve this disrespect.

Jana,

You are a lady and a fine one at that. Honest, loving to those who can understand that concept, willing to help anyone that you can. You accept new friendships to people who will just let you know who they are. My hat is off to you. I have been a better person and feel better about myself just from knowing you. I wish you all the happiness in the world. You deserve it.

I may never meet you in person in this life. But I am sure that we will know each other for eternity in the presence of the Almighty God as we each understand the Creator.

Freddie

 

[hungthick]

unfortunately zora is in a chat room with alot of healthy testosterone men with large fucking cocks and they want a piece of the poontang in cyberspace...this is nothing new---if zora was in a bar filled with the same thing she would get hit on continusouly and she wouldnt announce to the bar that she was being hit on.

this is to be suspected in a chat group mainly for men and while i think she shouldnt be subjected to 'lurkers' i dont think it warrants a topic all by itself.

im editing my comments here: i havent read everyone's comments though i have tried and only a few said better what i am thinking but my above comments stand unedited.

 

[Freddie53]

Obviously, you don't like Zora. I think we all understand that now. Nor is your opinion likely to change. Tis a shame.

Originally posted by hungthick@Feb 12 2005, 11:44 PM
unfortunately zora is in a chat room with alot of healthy testosterone men with large fucking cocks and they want a piece of the poontang in cyberspace...this is nothing new---if zora was in a bar filled with the same thing she would get hit on continusouly and she wouldnt announce to the bar that she was being hit on.

this is to be suspected in a chat group mainly for men and while i think she shouldnt be subjected to 'lurkers' i dont think it warrants a topic all by itself.

im editing my comments here: i havent read everyone's comments though i have tried and only a few said better what i am thinking but my above comments stand unedited.

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[13788]

hung_big: And Freddy, it's obvious that you love her

But I have to agree. Just because you are a miniority (that would be women in this forum) that doesn't mean you have to subjected to stalking, inappropriate PMs and harassing forms of communication.

There is a large percentage of homosexual/bisexuals on this site, but with your mentality hungthick, because they are a minority in society the police or authorities shouldn't do anything if they recieve harassing or threatening emails. Though, granted, this isn't to the same extreme, it is just as valid.

And what's worse is that Madam Zora is one of the most constructive and vital members of this site. I think people should respect her wishes not send PMs if she has no idea who you are. I would hate getting a surplus of PMs too, if I was as popular as her

And this does deserve a topic of its own, because people haven't seemed to take heed to her signature, so this is the only next logical step. She can just renew this topic again if she needs to mention it again. There ya go, now it's settled...enough with this topic... :huh:

 

[NorthernSchlong]

I want to make friends too - But I don't want creepy people hitting on me - lol

 

[D_Barbi_Queue]

Come on guys....do you think we actually care to receive emails like this?

w------- could it be too big???, Today, 04:40 AM

Group: Member
Posts: 1
Member No.: 6197
Joined: 10-May 04

yesterday me and my gf saw a pornvideo with a very hung guy, i
asked her if a cock could be toooo big for her??? and while
unzippeng my pants sche said everything 4times bigger is nice
(iam 3 inches), 5times bigger would be a dream and 6times
would be perfect just to play with and to compare it to tiny
ones....what do you think abot this????

 

[Kimahri]

Personal preferences. While I found Jana to be a fascinating and insightful person and I've posted comments to what she has said and vice versa, I in no way think that's an invitation to bother her with PM. Especially since I have nothing vital to say. People can say alot of dumb things and maybe she's just had enough of that sorta thing.

Either way, it's her preference and I have no problems respecting it and anyone else's. If I were to PM her, I'd follow the other message board ettiquette I follow, I'd post in open forum allowing her the op to say ok or no don't.

Then again, I'm a gay male and don't buy into the excuse that

"zora is in a chat room with alot of healthy testosterone men with large fucking cocks and they want a piece of the poontang in cyberspace...this is nothing new"

We're all mature enough to be here, I would hope that being able to control one's hormones would have been a skill learned along the way.

 

[13788]

Sweet Caroline:

Originally posted by TexAssgirl@Feb 14 2005, 09:27 AM
Come on guys....do you think we actually care to receive emails like this?

w------- could it be too big???, Today, 04:40 AM

Group: Member
Posts: 1
Member No.: 6197
Joined: 10-May 04

yesterday me and my gf saw a pornvideo with a very hung guy, i
asked her if a cock could be toooo big for her??? and while
unzippeng my pants sche said everything 4times bigger is nice
(iam 3 inches), 5times bigger would be a dream and 6times
would be perfect just to play with and to compare it to tiny
ones....what do you think abot this????

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Yup, gotta chime in on this one. As a relatively new member the pm's are starting to trickle in. Most very similar to what TexAssgril posted above. At first I just rolled my eyes and deleted them but now that thier number are quickly increasing it's starting to annoy me more and more and I'm sure I don't have nearly the inbox traffic that Zora and TexAssgirl have. So, from one more woman on LPSG. If you want to keep us around and active, please keep it on the boards.

Carrie

 

[hungthick]

i agree with the ladies stating they dont want private messages---i totally am in agreement that barbaric comments are not appreciated nor warrranted or wanted (and, especially from strangers).

i have 4 sisters and i know from growing up with them that a woman gets these advances everywhere she goes (for the most part) where large group of horny men gather (like bars, online groups, etc).

emails are quick to delete and take no time at all to do so, but i am in agreement that this site should have a 'buddies only' contact list and that would stop the unwarranted emails. However, until then i think mentioning it over and over is solving nothing.

peace (oh, sweet caroline i like reading your posts and you have a great avatar).