I am 60, and find myself in basically a “no sex” marriage as well. We last had sex in October 2018, and no more than 6-10 times per year for about 5 years up til then. I remarried about 12 years ago after I moved back to California. I re-connected with a former long-term girl friend from after high school, who had divorced. As a young couple we lived together and had sex 2-3 times most every day for over 3 years; very satisfying and both into ensuring mutual pleasure. When we reconnected, the amount of sex and satisfaction resumed nearly to the same levels. The first few years of marriage, I began pushing boundaries...we went to nude/swinger resorts several times. I expressed my desire to have a MFM threesome... and kept pushing it. (She had one MFM in her previous marriage; she said she enjoyed it, but her husband had a change of heart after he watched his best friend mount up on her. It ended their friendship). We had a couple of “almosts” on our trips to swinger resorts. She seemed to enjoy the nudity and sexual energy. On our last trip, we had an erotic couples massage, her by a young man; and me by a female. She admitted to enjoy the feeling of the masseue’s hard cock pressing against her....the breath of his heavy breathing in her ear, her breasts massaged, and getting fingered. When we were both very aroused, the masseues left and we had a really good fuck. Afterward, she felt very guilty. I told her I felt no jealousy and it was an arousing experience from my perspective. I explained what she experienced with her husband and his best friend, was complicated by the fact there was a pre-existing relationship with the other guy...that in mutual consenting swinging experience it can be a new person to each of us... no baggage...with ground rules. When we came home, my wife entered a phase of questioning her morality, her commitment to her faith, guilt, etc. She has never been the same since. She has become absorbed in her faith and her Christianity... and in so doing the intimacy of a husband and wife as described in her faith is gone. She rejects counseling. I have stopped talking, pleading and expressing my desires for sex. Menopause has not helped either, and she refuses to take hormones. The last few times we attempted intercourses have been very painful for her. I love my wife. But we are almost like best friends living together, not lovers. I don’t want to hurt her, and I cannot bear the financial ruin of a divorce. So, it appears I must accept my situation. Finding a fuck buddy is risky... no strings attached does not always hold. The only thing I can say friend is you are not alone....Also, to those guys considering swinging, threesomes, etc...be very careful how you choose to approach it in your relationship.