Lying about my sexual status

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I'm precisely the same way. I'm always asked when I'm gonna bring home a girlfriend instead of being single and antisocial. I'm Bi curious but I've never told anyone really. Very difficult to be asked why you don't find a nice girl to settle down with when in realiy you jerked for several hours to gay or bi porn the day before.
 
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My folks told us early on, they didn't care if we fell in love with someone of a different race, religion, or with someone of the same sex. They just wanted us to love and be loved. Very progressive for people who were born in the '20s. I never felt a need to tell them who I was having sex with. Do straight children announce to their parents they are sleeping with someone of the opposite sex?
 

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Do straight children announce to their parents they are sleeping with someone of the opposite sex?

Umm, yes, they do, if they want their parents to be a part of their lives. Parents freak out to think of their children as sexual beings, period, before adding the whole issue of who with.

Nevertheless, I understand the point you were trying to make. I just don't think you made it clearly. I'm actually agreeing with you, although it porobably doesn't sound like it...
 

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Ok so, I'm only 21. I was dragged out of the closet at 17 when my dad interrogated me about some emails. That wasn't very much fun. My mother straight up asked me one day. That was tough, very serious and emotional conversation. But I have to say, however weird it was how my parents came to officially know about me, I'm very grateful that it's out in the open. ...............................Good luck brother. Remember that you have a world full of gay family that will accept you and love you if for some ungodly reason you don't get that from your parents.

Thanks for this story, greengrass. Although we all have them, it's important to tell them. We reinforce each other.

I'll make mine short: when I was 19 my mother found a picture of my bf and I in a very romantic kiss. She'd known and liked him very much previously (in fact, he and I would move home from college while she and my step-father were traveling to stay with my siblings) but she told me she would no longer "support my life-style" (ie: pay for college) and that he wasn't welcome in her home. I told her if he wasn't, I wasn't. I was pretty calm about it; I wasn't fighting for a cause per se, I was fighting for a person. The semester was paid for but I started to try to arrange for financial aid for the next year and had planned to work for the summer any way.

For the next 9 months, she would come into Boston every 3 weeks or so and we'd meet for "lunch", which we never made. We'd meet at the waterfront and one of us would begin talking. Eventually, I'd start yelling and she'd start crying. Then, she'd start yelling and I'd start crying. Then we'd give up and part.

We'd been far too close after my parent's divorce; I was her friend and confidant and helped raise my little brother and sister and I'm sure she wanted the "best" for me but she didn't see for a while that this was what was best. It took a long time for her to figure this out.

Nonetheless, there came a time when it was simply, done. I barely remember how. I think she just realized I was immovable on this and one day she called and invited us--us--to my little sister's birthday, and I knew it was over. And ever since, I could not have had a more supportive, loving family. They welcome my friends and the men I love as much (and this is funny) if not more than they would my straight siblings' mates. I am--and I dislike this word--blessed, but regardless of the outcome, could have done nothing but stick to my guns.

Again, greengrass, thanks.
 
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