Lying About Size - The Less Common Version

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TragicWhiteKnight: [WARNING: This email begins with a personal anecdote. If you cannot stomach me narrating tedious little pieces of my life, you can skip to the bottom and just answer the question; I'm nice like that.]

So, today I met up with a girl I once pretended to have a crush on (it's a long, long, long story), who I hadn't seen in over 2 years (due to effort on her part). In the middle of our understandably awkward banter, one of those mile-long limousines drove by, causing her to make a quip about "overcompensating." We joked about that for a while, until she suddenly said "I'm sure you've got no need for that..." then went on to tell me how she'd always seen a huge bulge in my pants and had been wondering all this time how big I really was [remember, back 2 years ago I was nowhere near fully grown and I had thought I'd covered it really well]. I tried to brush off the subject but she promised to reveal a 'secret' in return, which would come in useful in a vendetta someone has against me (it's another long, long story...). So, I agreed but instead of telling the truth I just said "about 7, 7.5 inches."

On that subject: have any of you ever lied about your penis size to say that it's smaller than it really is? And if so, why?

And whether or not you have, is it more or less ethical than lying about it to claim its bigger?

 

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Dag: Well, TWK

I have a similar story. It has nothing to do with size, but it has everything to do with the penis. About three years ago, just before I came out and was dating women. I met a girl who loved guys with foreskin. How we got to be talking about this is unknown... any ways, I told her that I did have a foreskin. I lied! :-[ I don't have my entire foreskin, just some remnants... ok, I'm partially covered. See what I mean... I'm still lying!! I wish I could get over the fact that I'm cut. I even went as far as foreskin restoration. Now, that will be another post. another day.

cheers - dag

 

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TWK,

You chose to address "the question" in an interesting way and admittedly (perhaps) quite the exception among some of the members here!

-- I'll wager we'll be hearing from some of them, too!

No doubt, many other guys would have run way with the opportunity you had to boast, gloat, and yes "over-compensate".

I tend to NOT feel comfortable, though in divulging such personal information. This forum is the ONLY place to my knowledge that I have EVER revealed this kind of statistical info! (Ironic isn't it? ...that I would choose the INTERNET to do just that! ;D )

The fact I will (most likely) never personally meet anyone here in this particular community probably made it easier for me to discuss size issues, of course. In real life situations, I'm just plain "ill at ease" and downright uncomfortable to get even near mentioning my actual size--despite any curiosity that I can't seem to help generate from time to time...
(i.e. close acquaintances who either know me, see "suggestions" (bulging!) in jeans, etc. or those who otherwise "suspect" the size factor and would love to know for sure.) I tend to like to keep those type folks guessing! (You know--let them enjoy a good mystery!) The way I see it, only CERTAIN people in "my circle" really need to know for sure.

I just believe revealing my true size is a moment I want to deliberately plan (and control) most carefully WHEN I choose to do it, and most particularly, with WHOM.

As to "down-playing" my true dimensions, the only time I believe I would logically do that is to spare the feelings of another guy who might be less endowed.

I (try) not to be the "bragging type" if I can help it.

Sometimes, this forum puts me dangerously close! ;D

I would avoid deliberately hurting another man's feelings over "his size" at any cost, I believe.

I recognize how sensitive an issue it truly can be for a man's ego.

 

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[quote author=TragicWhiteKnight link=board=meetgreet;num=1057178013;start=0#0 date=07/02/03 at 13:24:32]And whether or not you have, is it more or less ethical than lying about it to claim its bigger?
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Well, a lie is a lie anyway you look at it, so degrees of ethics is pretty pointless. However, it was rather unethical for her to ask such a question. When you tried to brush off the subject, it should have been plain to her that you'd rather not discuss it.

 

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AnonyMs: TWK:  Your tag line says you are 10.8 which I am assuming is your erect length.  What is your length soft?  If it is about 7, 7.5 inches, then you have not lied at all.  I do not see in the conversation as you related it that condition of penis was mentioned - only assumed.

 

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throb919: ...and Knight, what's the chance in this long, long, long story that involves yet-unamed others, Former-Crush-Girl, going off half-cocked (as it were), will share her less-than-accurate information with some of those yet-unamed others, who'll know the real deal and call her on it? Or suggest, as AnonyMs brings up: "Yeah right--soft, maybe!" or "Not since he was 12" or...

Wicked web, this lying-about-your-big-dick thing...wicked! (And when "Ripley's" picks up the story...) This could go on for awhile, huh, budrow...?

T

 

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bustyredhead: Given his size, if she hadn't been... experienced... with something like that, it's possible that she may have either called him a liar or wanted proof. Now, I don't think he'd have totally minded doing that for a crush, but I can see where he might wish to be a bit more covert than he had apparantly been thusfar. The truth is, sometimes, we play down our assets. IRL, I get asked about my breasts fairly often. I am usually honest, but I occassionally sense negative vibes from some inquisitive folks. To them, I tend to understate my size specifically because it minimizes the 'drama'. It amazes me how big many people think DD gets, and it's far easier to explain to these people than to explain how a girl of my size can come about without surgery. Usually, these people are bigotted and don't read the right kinds of porno mags to know about it. (shrug)

Yes, what you did was technically unethical, TWK. We should always try to be as honest as possible. However, I am aware of the occassional need to embellish facts of minor importance in order to stop potential drama. BTW, in the future, just say 9"... like breasts, at about that size, you can 'stretch' the truth as to what can be 'just' 9 inches, or at least from my limited observations.

- Nene (Plays It Down)

 

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TragicWhiteKnight: Hmmm...my comments thus far:

Dag - That reminds me of an episode of 'Caroline in the City' where Del pretends he's Jewish and has to get his foreskin removed to impress his date. That makes me one of the three people left who actually remembers 'Caroline in the City'...

Bender - I agree with everyone you said, but have got comments on all the other posts, so felt guilty leaving you out

DMW - Your "a lie is a lie" comment comes dangerously close to the Manlian decree that "a crime is a crime" - the role of purpose and consequence (real or otherwise) obviously makes some lies more ethical than others.

AnonyMs - She actually asked "how big does it get?" and probably said some more things to make it obvious she meant erect length. The answer I did give is closer to my flaccid length on a cold day though...

Throb - None of her friends would know the truth; I don't hang out in that circle any more since I went away to Uni; so, they can spread all the false gossip they like Secondly, she's Former-Pretend-Crush girl: get it right, y'all!

Redhead - I wouldn't suppose such a direct relation between truth and ethics, given we all have our own subjectivities we try to keep to ourselves...But that's another story. More important is that 9" wouldn't have downplayed my size at all - she'd still think I was really huge.

Sorry if any of these replies are a little critical; I'm somewhat frantic today...

 

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Dag: [quote author=DoubleMeatWhopper link=board=meetgreet;num=1057178013;start=0#3 date=07/02/03 at 17:08:39]

Well, a lie is a lie anyway you look at it, so degrees of ethics is pretty pointless. However, it was rather unethical for her to ask such a question. When you tried to brush off the subject, it should have been plain to her that you'd rather not discuss it.
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DMW, i agree with you 100% "a lie is a lie anyway you look at it".
Q's: Why do we feel that lying helps?
Where did this rational come from?

 

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Dag: [quote author=TragicWhiteKnight link=board=meetgreet;num=1057178013;start=0#7 date=07/03/03 at 10:25:20]

Dag - That reminds me of an episode of 'Caroline in the City' where Del pretends he's Jewish and has to get his foreskin removed to impress his date.  That makes me one of the three people left who actually remembers 'Caroline in the City'...
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TWK, have you seen 'Europa Europa'? ...a Jewish boy who tries to grow his foreskin back so he wont get caught by the Nazi's. It's a true  :'(  story.



edited cause i kant tipe shite!

 

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throb919: [quote author=TragicWhiteKnight link=board=meetgreet;num=1057178013;start=0#7 date=07/03/03 at 10:25:20]Secondly, she's Former-Pretend-Crush girl: get it right, y'all! [/quote] My bad and toufuckingché!

Sorry if any of these replies are a little critical; I'm somewhat frantic today...

This is apologizable critical...?! Would that everyone was so "frantic"!

 

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DieHard9x6: I've actually under-reported my size to a couple of male friends. One had overheard an ex-girlfriend of mine talking with her friend, and the other was actually in the room when my then-gf made a comment about me having "a whole lot to handle". They both asked me later about how big it was, and they seemed uncomfortable. One, in fact, sort of jokingly told me he hated me! So I told them both I was only around 7 inches...I'm still friends will both of them. I don't know for sure if being honest about the size would have bothered them, but it sure felt like it would!