Maintaining a hard cock when being fucked

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William, why does this matter to you? Sometimes I stay hard and other times not. I do not care about my dick at this moment, only his. He also doesn't seem to care if my dick is hard, soft, or even there for that matter. For those that don't stay hard it could be a lack of concentration. I'll stay hard with a guy that I'm familar with before I will a one night stand, usually. Either way it's no cause to run out and purchase Viagra.

Very good question. Thanks.
 

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I always wondered about this too. I’m versatile and I had one bf who stayed hard every time I fucked him. My next partner was a top and I was always hard when he fucked me. My current bf stays soft the whole time, and of course I stay hard when he does me. Maybe it’s the placement of the prostate?
 
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Anal is not my thing, but from what I can tell most bottoms have their own unique set of responses when being topped.

For the few times I have been on the bottom, my erection went down, then became very hard once I relaxed and focused on giving my partner a great ride. The graphic sort of says it all.

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William, why does this matter to you? Sometimes I stay hard and other times not. I do not care about my dick at this moment, only his. He also doesn't seem to care if my dick is hard, soft, or even there for that matter. For those that don't stay hard it could be a lack of concentration. I'll stay hard with a guy that I'm familar with before I will a one night stand, usually. Either way it's no cause to run out and purchase Viagra.

Very good question. Thanks.
As the proverbial curious guy I figured the gay or bi men would have some info... And ya'll do! Thanks. That said, the real reason for my question is I try fuck with either a plug or dildo, and I can't stay hard enough to fuck. But either way I adore it!
 

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As the proverbial curious guy I figured the gay or bi men would have some info... And ya'll do! Thanks. That said, the real reason for my question is I try fuck with either a plug or dildo, and I can't stay hard enough to fuck. But either way I adore it!

Could be that is because you're concentrating on working your ass with the plug or maybe you're not hitting the right spot. I don't know. I guess I'd prefer to be hard when being fucked and was pretty much alway in my 20s and 30s. Who knows, though. Lot's of great feedback here. ;)
 

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Same thing here. I was bothered a lot by it because my partner thought I wasn’t enjoying myself as I was soft. But for me it’s pain that makes my erection go away. Almost always the initial feeling when penetrated comes with pain and that really makes my erection go away instantly. Or if my partner pinches my nipples too hard, I lose my erection.
 
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for me it’s pain that makes my erection go away. Almost always the initial feeling when penetrated comes with pain and that really makes my erection go away instantly.
Yes, the initial insertion almost always hurts at least a little and that makes me go soft . . . but, at the same time, I want to KNOW that I have been taken and will be used for his pleasure. I like it when a guy pauses after popping my sphincter, before completing the insertion, so I can recover. And it's great when a guy will stroke my cock a few times, bringing back some of the hardness, before starting the fuck strokes.

(And I do NOT like to have my nipples pinched!)
 

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I stay rigid while getting fucked. Not sure dude. It just stays that way. My guy hits my prostate hard. Maybe that has something to do with it?
That's probably the same for me. I stay hard, because my partner and I act out some fantasies and I primarily keep my mind on the then and now.
 

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I’m always hard while getting fucked... the biggest turn on is feeling someone balls deep in you!
I am the same. Hard as a rock and almost ready to explode with a nice cock plunging into my ass. I need someone balls deep in me right now! :heart_eyes:
 

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I finally got to fuck this on-and-off-again suck and jerk buddy a few years back. I'd never seen his dick really hard and realized why when as I was fucking him hard, I reached down and felt that big fat dick rock fucking hard.
 

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What is the deal with keeping a hard-on while receiving anal? I'm bi-curious and not had a real cock... yet. When I sit on one of my toys or my wife does me either with strapon or handheld toy - I loose my erection. Now that's not to be confused with the still amazing pleasure I'm feeling. I even cum with a flaccid cock. Huge amounts - but soft. But most of the gay vids I watch the bottom many times has an amazing hard cock while being fucked.

So what's most common when receiving?
So I think most guys that are not used to the sensation of being fucked loose their boner. It's absolutely common. I always loose my hard on due to the pain and unpleasant sensation of the first couple of minutes of being fucked. I found the key is to be really horny, like long foreplay and edging before the dick goes in your butt and then keep wanking /edging for a while until you are really stretched and can fully enjoy the sensation of being fucked. Then I stay hard no matter what.
 

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So I think most guys that are not used to the sensation of being fucked loose their boner. It's absolutely common. I always loose my hard on due to the pain and unpleasant sensation of the first couple of minutes of being fucked. I found the key is to be really horny, like long foreplay and edging before the dick goes in your butt and then keep wanking /edging for a while until you are really stretched and can fully enjoy the sensation of being fucked. Then I stay hard no matter what.
I truly enjoy the anal pleasure (only dildos at this point). No pain. But like you say maybe edge for a bit more is key.
 

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It’s different for everybody! I really love getting fucked and rarely stay hard, but I purely enjoy the feeling of being stretched and a cock in my ass... so much so that even if not hard, I’m leaking precum everywhere ...
 
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The more I've talked with other guys and read about it, it is more an individual thing. Some people will say you're not used to getting fucked, or that the pain was too much so you went soft - but I have been fucked many times ... many ... and am always a bottom with guys. Not one time have I stayed hard, and not one time did it really bother me. Sometimes it bothered my partner at the time, as they were worried about my pleasure as well, but it was easy to assure them that I was indeed enjoying it.

Let me flop away while you fuck my ass. It's all good.
 

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The more I've talked with other guys and read about it, it is more an individual thing. Some people will say you're not used to getting fucked, or that the pain was too much so you went soft - but I have been fucked many times ... many ... and am always a bottom with guys. Not one time have I stayed hard, and not one time did it really bother me. Sometimes it bothered my partner at the time, as they were worried about my pleasure as well, but it was easy to assure them that I was indeed enjoying it.

Let me flop away while you fuck my ass. It's all good.
Totally agree! Just cos we are soft doesn’t mean we are uncomfortable or not loving every minute of it!
Also coming from a total bottom too


Actually, I think we are loving it even more as we are enjoying with our asses and not with our cocks :p