Make Love Not Porn

[dalynxx]

That is a great site and yes some men are being mis-educated my porn. Some women too. I was exposed to porn too young and I felt that sex was mainly to please the man. How wrong I was!

 

[D_Jurgen Klitgaard]

great find ellie!

there's nothing worse than a guy who gets his moves from watching too much porn.

But honey, that's where I get my moves! :tongue:

 

[D_Petherick_Poundlouder]

I learned how to have sex from romantic movies and porn...and Prince.

 

[3664shaken]

BRAVO

The sad thing that I have seen is that women are being more affected by porn and thinking that these behaviors are the norm and needed to satisfy men.

I'm not talking to the women that LIKE things I'm talking to the ones that do it because they think they "need" to. My admonition comes from my heart, when I was young I did many things that I would never do now, to prove myself and to get attention and accolades. I never thought I was doing it for those reasons but looking back I know that I was.

Nice post, ladies and gentlemen please look through it and learn something from real life not fantasy.

 

[AlphaMale]

Haha, that website is awesome!! Still reading through them... :biggrin1:

 

[dolfette]

Although if your man is good at sex then you should still let him watch porn.

got no objections at all to men awtching porn AFTER they learn how to fuck. they take it with a pinch of salt then.

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

One time, me and my mate watched a porno. Was some hardcore German stuff. Recently, he confessed that he was scared cos he thought that's what real sex was like (fucking really hard, slapping about, using German profanities, etc).

It's strange because I never related porn to sex in the real world so I was never worried.

Not all porn is bad for you and some is actually educational. Although the best education is always hands on. Learn by doing.

I guess I can see how this could be why a lot of women are so opposed to men watching porn. Although if your man is good at sex then you should still let him watch porn.

I didn't know porn was the leading cause of poor sexual performance in men.

Have to agree! Prior to watching the Ideepthroat vids, I never considered really gaining a skill in bjs to bring into the bedroom (my early relationships were with women). The same goes for anal - while I was always into ass play (toys, fingers) it wasn't until my partner and I watched Tristan Taormino's porn that we got the 'logistics' :biggrin1: together to explore cocks and tongues (giving and receiving :naughty.

I am definitely pro-pornography, but always thought of it as an invaluable resource of information.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

But honey, that's where I get my moves! :tongue:

oh hush, you know i taught you those moves! hahaha :wink:

 

[Incocknito]

I fucked a girl like they do in porn once. She called me a bastard and was almost crying. She liked it but said it was too "intense".

Also, you can only fuck so hard for so long. It was only a few minutes at the most. You may think pornstars fuck for ages but the scenes are cut and edited.

 

[EllieP]

I hope you don't think I'm trying to censor porn by posting about this website. I just want guys to think of porn as entertainment and not real life. Cap doesn't get into porn, which is good for me. I don't know how I'd feel if he would, though. Still, from what I've seen I don't see to much of a basis in real life for me. Of course, it's a big world, and people have lots of different tastes. So different strokes for different folks, no pun intended.

 

[likitisplit]

i enjoy watching porn of different kinds but some i could care less if it existed. i can see where this thread would be born from. i've known guys who watched scenes and actually thought they would go into a bar and pick up a girl like in the vid and do what they did. i'd tell them...grown men, you'll be lucky to find one drunk enough to talk to you and she won't look like that one nor do what she does. i'm a romantic, a slow hand. i wish they'd make more porn for lovers showing couples as they usually are...uh...well, as they want it to be. showing as they usually are would be the woman giving a bj for 5 minutes and then the guy licking her 2 1/2 times and wanting to mount. to show it as couple want it to be, would be more fun to me. i don't understand why porn guys jackoff on a good looking face. been there done that with my ex and i might as well be jacking off...wait...i am. now as a lady mentioned, she likes that. well i will accommodate a lady's wishes, but i'd rather her be stroking me. you can clearly see in some shots, the women are not into it at all and to me it's a turn off right there. i want to see the woman doing what she is turned on doing with a sexy, sly grin on her face because she's enjoying it. not a sour face that says "that smells like shit!". another thing is why guys grab a woman's head or hair and drive 10 inches of dick down her throat until her mascara is dripping on her tits? if she wants that ok, but i don't think most do. as for romance...porn stars are allowed to kiss like once during a film. it creates intimacy and can cause feelings for one another. they can't have miss hotty ho fallin in love with dick big and vice versa. i prefer to do everything a woman wants to cause her orgasms until she can't. barring pain, my body is hers to use as she wants. i love women who do the same. for me it's not getting off being sucked or fucking...i do...but my getting off comes from the woman having all the orgasms she can and is totally sexually fullfilled when through. i personally don't want a woman doing anything she isn't turned on by, the worst bj's ever came from those who didn't want to do it.

 

[hud01]

I don't think men should watch any porn until they have lost their virginity. The first time should be about using your instincts. Then, if they want, they can go watch porn and turn themselves into bad lovers.

How many times have you read that my first time was horrible because we didn't know what we were doing. Almost every one. If the guy or the girl knew what they were doing the experience was much better.

I am not talking about taking a cue from a Rocco porn, but there is instructional porn, most from the 70's and early 80's.

 

[Patchos]

How many times have you read that my first time was horrible because we didn't know what we were doing. Almost every one. If the guy or the girl knew what they were doing the experience was much better.

I am not talking about taking a cue from a Rocco porn, but there is instructional porn, most from the 70's and early 80's.

Who ever said the first time was going to be perfect? Of course it takes a bit of practice. You don't need porn to instruct you though. Did people not have good sex before bang bros existed? Use your imagination then when you run out of ideas go look at some porn. Create you own style before you go simply copying everything you see.

 

[hud01]

Who ever said the first time was going to be perfect? Of course it takes a bit of practice. You don't need porn to instruct you though. Did people not have good sex before bang bros existed? Use your imagination then when you run out of ideas go look at some porn. Create you own style before you go simply copying everything you see.

In the old days many times the young man was taken to a brothel and taught by a pro, so he knew what to do when he was with his real woman.

This is so stupid to me. Before you have a clue don't go look for ideas, after you know what you are doing go look for ideas, ridiculous.

Learn how to read on your own, then go to school afterwards.

 

[D_Jurgen Klitgaard]

oh hush, you know i taught you those moves! hahaha :wink:

My moves may be limited, but I know you can take whatever I throw at you and then some, as hard as I want and balls deeeeeeeep!!! :wink:

 

[helgaleena]

I just started a thread that explains it all.

http://www.lpsg.org/160117-what-men-learn-watching-porn.html#post2466977

I was just reading this Pitbull and it's a hoot.

Even if I start out enjoying a porn, the minute I notice a lack of love I lose that enjoyment. It's not sexy when people are obviously pretending to feel pleasure.

 

[Patchos]

In the old days many times the young man was taken to a brothel and taught by a pro, so he knew what to do when he was with his real woman.

This is so stupid to me. Before you have a clue don't go look for ideas, after you know what you are doing go look for ideas, ridiculous.

Learn how to read on your own, then go to school afterwards.

Learning to read has no relevance whatsoever to sex. Sex is a human instinct, it doesn't need to be taught.

Its stupid to you, because you are stupid.

 

[justasimpleguy]

All porn is not created equal. Just saying. I like Italian porn much better than American porn generally. It's better all round.

 

[Pitbull]

I was just reading this Pitbull and it's a hoot.

Even if I start out enjoying a porn, the minute I notice a lack of love I lose that enjoyment. It's not sexy when people are obviously pretending to feel pleasure.

Glad I could give you some giggles.

The "What Men Learn From Watching Porn" post is funny but it is true that so much porn is pure bullshit that follows a formula.
I don't know who determined what should be in porn.
I could never understand the point of the cumshot.
Feels much better to be cumming when inside.
Why is that fool pulling out?

Not only does almost all porn have a lack of love (it is about sex not love - and not even good sex at that)
but there is a lack of enthusiasm.
Are they even enjoying themselves?

Amateur porn is often more exciting because the participants are enjoying themselves.
They are not just working at their "job".

What would be most exciting and stimulating instead of porn might be what I would call "Visual artistic sexual erotica"
I may have seen some scenes which fit the description but nothing comes to mind.

Good writing, I was taught has a build up to a climax.
Good sex should be the same. (Add romance & love and it most likely will be great sex)

Porn does not do that.
It is mostly hum drum going through the motions we have seen before and ends in an orgasm. But there is not a build up or climax.

 

[deleted356736]

Who ever said the first time was going to be perfect? Of course it takes a bit of practice. You don't need porn to instruct you though. Did people not have good sex before bang bros existed? Use your imagination then when you run out of ideas go look at some porn. Create you own style before you go simply copying everything you see.

We take sexual knowledge for granted, but in the generation before me, there was no porn, no Internet, no books on sex, nothing. For research on a thesis I interviewed couples who had been married for decades, and discovered their sex started as mediocre, and was still mediocre forty years later! This included my parents, and my mother had never, ever experienced an orgasm. This was not unusual for women of her generation.

In primitive times, there were various initiation rites at early adolesence, which included advanced sex education. Men were trained, often by older women, on how to pleasure women during sex. Women were trained in different techniques, and then the young couples were considered to be prepared for good sex. An example of this would be Tahiti and the islands of the South Pacific, but this type of training was also found in Africa, amongst native Americans, amongst Australian aboriginals and so on.

Contemporary porn is not good training for sex, but we can gain something from ancient peoples and consider that learning about good sex is a very good idea. As things turned out, my first time was with an older woman, who obviously had a lot of sexual experience and was able to impart this to me.

There are other ways for an inexperienced couple to learn and develop, including reputable books on sex, some good websites, and some good couples DVDs. If a couple don't seek to learn and explore, they would end up sexually stagnant like my parent's generation, and the generations before them.