wranglersRbad: Sorry guys I am posting alot, But I just discovered this site! My wife and I have been together for about six years and here is the issue. I think the size of my penis was a turn on for her at first (I am 17&1/4 inches long and 11&1/2 inches around) but now it is actually a turn off in a sense. I think the thought of sex makes her nervous which makes it even more difficult to penetrate. Nowadays when we have sex I can only get it in about about 1 out of 5 times that we try and even then I can barely get the head in (It is about the size of a grapefruit so I don't envy her). I only try now when she REALLY wants to, but she says it hurts most of the time. I want to make sex fun for her but she insists on intercourse. She still really likes to look at it and hold it (she likes to say "it's really heavy") she even likes to grab it with both hands and kiss it. But as far as intercourse goes, I think fantasy is beating reality to death. Any suggestions? ???