Making out

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  1. fak_et

    fak_et New Member

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    Anyone got some tips or instructions on how to make out good? Ive done it a few times but ive always felt like i wasnt doing anything to impress the lady. Anyone got any tips that would definately help the situation out?
     
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    Dear fak_et .... Fiirst, off Don't fake it; just be yourself.
    (Do not mindlessly ape all the actions you see in porn,)

    As men, most of us would enjoy the rush and adulation of being perceived
    as alpha male world-class-lover studs. But it's more about expressing your passion and communicating openly with your lover, discovering her passion, and blending the two, than it is in mastering an arsenal of sexual techniques.

    By all means, read the forums here and elsewhere, offering advice on oral sex, how our bodies respond, etc. If you're having an exclusive relationship with an equally inexperienced lover, see if she'll do this with you.

    On the other hand, if you're fortunate enough to bed a woman who truly knows her body, and she's had good and bad lovers in the past -- take advantage of that situation. Get her to show you things. If you do it in the right way, she'll be flattered and she'll think more of you as a man, than if you behave with false bravado. Keep your eyes and ears open, and it will only get better for you and your lovers. We all stumbled badly at first-- that's what most sexual humour is based on: misaligned perceptions.
     
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    The best advice I can give you is to take it slow. Women like to be caressed all over their bodies. Gently stroke her arms, shoulders, thighs, and then slowly work to the the breasts. Women's breasts and nipples are more sensitive than those of men and just a light brushing with the finger tips at first is good.

    Remember, breasts are not balls of dough.

    Try kissing around the tops of the ears, behind them, and the nape of the neck. Again, save this for a little later after you see her respond to other touching.

    When women respond sexually they will get wider irises, a flushed color to the skin, reddening of the lips, and an increase in body temperature. Breathing begins to become deeper then later more rapid.

    It is essential that you know where the clitoris is.

    If you decide to go downstairs, don't hurry it. Tease her a big by occasionally brushing her vaginal area with your fingers as you work on her arms and breasts. When you finally decide to go down there, literally pet her pussy for a while, running your middle finger right along the slit to feel how wet she is. Massage the upper part of her pudenda (look it up) with the full hand, gentlely stroking up and down with a little pressure. If she responds to that, you'll know. Using your palm to rub in circles around her pudenda is also good. Direct contact with the clitoris can be too intense for women. By massaging the area around it, you indirectly stimulate the clitoris. Don't finger fuck, stroke the vagina with the whole hand, letting your middle finger ride just along the outer vaginal lips. Run your hand gently and delicately. You want to heighten her mood, tease her, make her beg for your cock.

    Something else to do is to keep her away from your pants for as long as possible. Work on her first, for quite a while. If she reaches below the belt, gently redirect her back to your upper body. Make her wait. Do this a few times to frustrate her so that by the time you let her get to the prize, that she can't resist.

    If you decide to go further than that and have intercourse, then use your hand to stimulate her further. Keep massaging the clitoris, but use your little finger to gently stroke the outer, and then inner labia. Let your pinky go inside her vagina, not far, just an inch or two, and keep doing that. What happens is that the vagina balloons out when a woman gets excited. This is to accomodate whatever penis might be heading its way. However once the penis is introduced, the vagina shrinks to fit it. Now, by using your pinky, you're fooling her vagina into thinking only a tiny pinky is heading its way so it will shrink around it. When you get ready to insert your cock, the vagina will go, "Whoa! What's this???" You'll feel bigger to her and her vagina will be tighter to you. It gives her a lot of friction and therefore, a lot of pleasure.
     
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    Wow jason, Nice post, I really appreciate it.
     
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    No problem. Like AW said, the overriding concern is getting her in the mood. Sadly, women aren't as visual as we are but they are more attuned to touch. A woman close to your age may not know what she likes any more than you know what you like women to do with you, but don't worry. If you don't like something, say so. I've found that some women don't know what to do with your balls. They know your balls are sensitive but don't know how to play with them without discomfort. Teach her how to massage your balls, tell her what parts of your cock are the most sensitive. Show her how you like to be jacked. Help her to go down on you.

    The same is true for her. Invite her to tell you what she likes and doesn't. Open communication is the key to a mutually satisfying time. Too frequently guys feel like they should automatically take charge and know (by some unexplained divine mystery) how to please a woman. That's crap. Do the standard moves as a prelude to heavier sex and remember, this isn't a timed contest. Go slowly, be considerate, be happy, and when you try a new move ask, "Do you like that?" Sometimes you'll know you've got it right by her bodily response, but if in doubt, ask. Don't be embarrassed about it. Women love guys who communicate.

    As Marilyn Monroe once said, "It's woman's spirit and mood a man has to stimulate in order to make sex interesting. The real lover is the man who can thrill you by touching your head or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space."

    See? It's not about a big dick, though that helps, it's about stimulating desire and showing affection. Do things right and by the time you're teasing her pussy with your cock head she'll be close to orgasm. Remember that the vagina doesn't feel much except for the inner 2 inches or so and the very last inch or so. Inbetween there's just the cervix which you, generally, have to avoid. Some women love to have a mushroom head brushing against the cervix but I know of no women who like it getting whacked with your cock.

    One other thing. Larger guys sometimes hit the cervix with their penis and it hurts most women like all hell. Try to avoid that by positioning yourself higher on her body. You want you cock to bend a bit to get entrance. This will point your penis in at a lower angle and avoid the cervix. Doing this may also allow your penis to hit the cul-de-sac of the vagina, basically the vagina's back wall. Now hit this right and a lot of women will get very deep vaginal orgasms with contractions. To do it right don't pound away like a jack hammer (though you'll want to). Try and move in and out minimally, kind of in a rocking motion to keep continued contact between your penis and that back wall. That "high" position will help with that AND get your penis in contact with her clitoris. Usually the combination of cock connecting with clit, vaginal opening, and the CDS..... well, it's kinda shocking.

    Enjoy!
     
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    Whether she is experienced or not, she will know if something feels good or not. Follow her for a little while. Then get her to follow you. Pay attention to non-verbal cues.

    In my experience, many first kisses with someone new, are just like the very first kiss: Nervous and tentative.
     
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