Oh that's exactly what it is. It's not much different from classic religious homophobia. They can't "understand" it. Therefore it isn't actually real. A symptom of a narrow mind.
Male Bisexuality Acceptance
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Secular version lol
Even funnier is that straight men have far less problem with accepting male bisexuality than gay men lol. Of course they are those who believe that sucking one dick makes u gay but most when they find particular guy f.e enjoy gay sex or jo to gay porn is like " you are bi and there is nothing wrong with it".
When many gay men "gatekeep" heterosexuality of particular guys. Look at promise of Corbin fisher: STRAIGHT college guys who ENJOY gay sex, or interpretations like being turned on by gay porn or craving dick in your mouth or ass is still compatible with being 100% straight...In this case I am like "ok lets use label straight but reality doesnt care about this bs- that guy is still gonna hookup with other guys and those guys won't give a shit if that guy id as "straight" or unicorn or whatever. Such guy is indistinguishable from bisexual guy.
I've got a ranking of people who accept male bisexuality (based on experience) and at the bottom are gold Star gay guys and straight women.
So true. And also. When you “come out” as bi, often women don’t want you. They don’t like competing with men for your time plus some think men who have sex with men will have STIs so I have seen many bi men end up just having sex with men and effectively becoming “gay” anyway.
I get the impression younger blokes now are much cooler with being heteroflexible or straightish.
but lots of older men vigorously maintain a sense of black and white brightline dual either gay or str8. They seem to defend that position so passionately that it seems to me their whole world depends on it. No grey. Only clear division like gay is some different species.
psychologically there has to be some reason for their world view depending on that binary clarity.
but lots of older men vigorously maintain a sense of black and white brightline dual either gay or str8. They seem to defend that position so passionately that it seems to me their whole world depends on it. No grey. Only clear division like gay is some different species.
psychologically there has to be some reason for their world view depending on that binary clarity.
Straight women are a fucking nightmare sometimes.
I don't disclose being bi before hooking with women tbh. It's just not worth the hassle and they honestly don't even need to know. I've had 2 past girlfriends and neither know I'm bi to this day.
If you hookup with a bi or queer girl however. They usually don't kind, they might be even more into you in fact. Never experienced a bi woman myself but that's what I've heard.
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I'm bi. My wife knows but doesn't really understand. I'm faithful to her so we don't have any marriage issues and she doesn't mind that I have some bi and gay friends that I hang out with. I have a lot of great straight male friends that I cherish. I've tried discussing bisexuality with them but for the most part, they just don't understand and because of that, they don't know that I'm bi. My bi and my gay friends do understand so it's great to hang out with them when I can be myself.
Magnum: good points ... I am bi (65 yrs old) and very happily married, wife kinda bi too. Neither of us are out or active. When I drift the notion of bi to my male friends, they largely react with surprise ("really?") and such. Female friends, way more open. I have told maybe 4 women (plus wife)... and 2 male friends. women are positive, men are a little incredulous or not comprehending. Funny how that is unbalanced, but moving in the right direction. I will say, and have said elsewhere, that my 'being bi' had made me a better, more rounded person....
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I have similar experiences with my wife especially the mismatched sex drive. I think it's fairly common. My wife and I have an agreement that I can get some very limited play with men but I wish she would understand it's more about sex and not wanting to replace the intimacy she and I have.
I'm in a current new stage of bisexuality, hornier for guys but I can't stand them for much time, I don't know what it's going on anymore, lol.
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I love bi guys! Often less judgmental than the gay community I’ve found
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As someone who is gay, I also have a low tolerance for men
Spot on. Women don’t u set stand men’s sex drive and he fairly functional way we view getting off.
I am agree with what most of people have written: Sadly it is accepted (and seing something hot) than a women be bisexual while on Men it doesn't exist: most people tend to think they are gay who fears go out.
Also sadly it is related with promiscuity.
If we mix with the view about sex than toon of women have had : 1)something fun when young but after having kids or become older they tend to be sexless.
2)A way to take the control of the relationship : they choose when and where.
3)A chore
...
(I believe this is something which is very important to talk about when the relationship is beginning)
Anyway, of course it is my view and I am no judging anyone, I find than having sex with other person (without care the gender) is cheating which I hates (as I would feel horrible if my patner cheat me and probably I could no forgive it, I think if I do is the same).
Of course I am taking about me, my experience : if my patner try to use sex to control me and/or the relationship, I would stop it the first time: a second will make the relationship ends.
If it begins to be a chore, we would talk about it and trying to find a solution.
I can't support feeling than sex is as a business or forced.
On both cases I prefer to take care of my needs (a wank is a lot better than that)
I believe a couple should be able to talk about everything, which includes fears, kinks, things as bisexuality, what kind of relationship (close, open) and set the boundaries (of course we change constantly and the boundaries can be changed consensuated), but if one boundarie is broken, the trust is lost.
And yes, I bet most of you think than thinking this way it is very hard I find a women and begining a relationship which last,ok : I prefer be alone than feel on a jail.
Nowadays I have some feelings about a guy, I don't know where it will led but whatever happens I am no going to act as people things than it must be : everyone lives their life as they choose, I don't critize them (of course they are a few exceptions as it is a power relationship where one only lost, is beated), I don't allow be critized :
-if they are people important of my life I had no issues to talk with them, explain, clear their doubts..but if they choose I am no good for them: I am sorry but bye.
-if they are people who had no relationship with me, I ignore
Also sadly it is related with promiscuity.
If we mix with the view about sex than toon of women have had : 1)something fun when young but after having kids or become older they tend to be sexless.
2)A way to take the control of the relationship : they choose when and where.
3)A chore
...
(I believe this is something which is very important to talk about when the relationship is beginning)
Anyway, of course it is my view and I am no judging anyone, I find than having sex with other person (without care the gender) is cheating which I hates (as I would feel horrible if my patner cheat me and probably I could no forgive it, I think if I do is the same).
Of course I am taking about me, my experience : if my patner try to use sex to control me and/or the relationship, I would stop it the first time: a second will make the relationship ends.
If it begins to be a chore, we would talk about it and trying to find a solution.
I can't support feeling than sex is as a business or forced.
On both cases I prefer to take care of my needs (a wank is a lot better than that)
I believe a couple should be able to talk about everything, which includes fears, kinks, things as bisexuality, what kind of relationship (close, open) and set the boundaries (of course we change constantly and the boundaries can be changed consensuated), but if one boundarie is broken, the trust is lost.
And yes, I bet most of you think than thinking this way it is very hard I find a women and begining a relationship which last,ok : I prefer be alone than feel on a jail.
Nowadays I have some feelings about a guy, I don't know where it will led but whatever happens I am no going to act as people things than it must be : everyone lives their life as they choose, I don't critize them (of course they are a few exceptions as it is a power relationship where one only lost, is beated), I don't allow be critized :
-if they are people important of my life I had no issues to talk with them, explain, clear their doubts..but if they choose I am no good for them: I am sorry but bye.
-if they are people who had no relationship with me, I ignore
its a sad estimate that ppl dont accept bi men as much as bi women.
- bi2,
My fuckbuddy is very like you, similar circumstance. I am very happy being an outlet for him as he is a top, neither of us want an emotional or intimate relationship so our hookups suit us both perfectly. To put it simply, he enjoys fucking and I enjoy being fucked, outside of that we go our seperate ways.
