Male Bisexuality

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by D_Brighton Early, Jun 5, 2009.

  1. D_Brighton Early

    D_Brighton Early New Member

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    I know that it mostly a straight guy's dream to at least sleep with or date bisexual women, but I'm curious to see the other way around?>I myself being bisexual and having had relationships with both men and women.


    Ladies, how would you feel dating or being in a relationship with a bisexual man?

    I understand the whole "it doesn't matter, love is whatever" angle, but I'm just wondering what the consenus is?
     
  2. Smyley

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    well, i am a man, but i am open to another guy also. good question you posted. i am also curious to see the responses. hope you didn't mind i responded.
     
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    I'm extremely curious to se what the women are going to feel. I'm beginning to think it's a curse. and sometimes wish I could just be straight.
     
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    I am curious too... specially being married... ladies post up
     
  5. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I've had a relationship with a bisexual man and it was fine. Thing is, tho, I don't share, and I'm not going to put myself in an open relationship just because I'm dating a bi guy that wants both men and women. If he wants ME, he can have me, but if he wants to have his cake and eat it too, he can go somewhere else. To me, it just feels like being cheated on. But, my ex and I were able to talk about guys we thought were cute and whatnot, and I was okay with that. Was kinda fun, actually. :tongue: I've run into too many bi guys tho that think that just because they're into both men and women, they should be allowed to have both regardless of their relationship status, and that kinda bothers me. I can't do that.
     
  6. Ambience

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    Hey how are you OP? :smile:

    My opinion is no where what I'd call typical judging from the stuff I've heard/read from other women. But for me if a man was bi or dabbled in some same sex encounters I would have a neutral to overall positive and accepting response to him. I find gay porn a major turn on, it's so tender and sweet, but at the same time animalistic and erotic. I prefer it over any other porn because I like the enthusiasm and the good looking dudes. Who couldn't find this hot: Big Boy - Gay sex video - Tube8.com or Buddies N Bed - Gay sex video - Tube8.com


    However, over the last few years of lurking on forums of all types, bi and straight women through there 20-50s seem to be virulently opposed to the idea. What is interesting about these women though is that although many of them are bi themselves or have had same sex encounters, they do not hold men that have had same sex encounters or identify as bi to the same standard as they do themselves.

    I personally find the arguments of why many women won't date a knowingly bi man immature, petty, bigoted and offensive for the most part. I mean its okay not to desire to date a man who is bi, but why must they add insult to injury by making derogatory comments towards bi males? :mad:

    For example, they say a man comprises his masculinity and becomes less of a man in their eyes, but that lesbianism is highly erotic and enhances a woman's femininity. I mean the comments that I've read by these women are absolutely cold blooded. A simple no or not my cup of tea would suffice, but adding "ick" "gross" "vomit enducing" "revolting" "vile" to describe man on man action is a little extra, seeing as most of them have never watched a gay porno in their life.

    Or they say bisexuality only exists in women and that men who are bi are on the road to gayville or some such nonsense. They see bi men as deceptive and lying to themselves and the women that they are with.

    In some cases they add they would rather have their partners cheat on them with other women, but not men...

    Some even go as far a saying if a man they were in a relationship with had even one same sex thought and they knew about it that would be the end of the relationship.

    Many go to extremes and say that if they unknowingly date a man who was bi, they'd run out and get tested for every STD in existance.

    It seems like some women would rather date a man that's been with 1000s of women even if they were prostitutes, as opposed to dating a man that's been with one man. Heck they even give off the impression that they would rather be in a relationship with someone who was a drug user or abusive as long as he was strictly heterosexual.

    ...But that's the vibe I get from the women on many other forums. I'm not speaking about this forum, because I really haven't lurked enough so I can't say, but I've only heard mostly negative. Absolutely very few positives about bi guys. It's so strange that these women would harbor such harsh judgements and negative stereotypes against bi men as if they are one hive mind apart of one collectoive consciousness, especially since they have never even given one a chance. So how are bi men so bad, yet none of these women would knowingly give them a chance? I'll never understand it. It really makes me depressed at times. I'm a bit of an empath so I often feel when negativity is unfairly projected towards others...

    There is no surprise why suicide rates amongst bisexual males from as early as age 10-40 is so high...

    However, despite my experience I firmly believe people who are ignorant and pessimistic speak loudest. I do believe that their are woman out there that have knowingly and willingly married/date bi men, but they probably are not very vocal about it and their relationships are probably very clandestine.

    I hope things change for the better for bisexual males...but I admit I'm not being too optimistic judging by the opinions I've heard expressed about them.

    Despite the negativity I refuse to give into it and although I'm 22 and haven't dated really been focused on my studies and traveling, but I'd have no issues with dating a man that is bi whatsoever. Through my travels some of the most amazing, handsome, intellectual, and unique men were bi or alluded to being interested in other men.
     
  7. Mikayla

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    I never was in a relationship with a bi guy so cant say exactly know how I'd react. But I find it a turn on when a guy is so open sexualy and curious. Would be more fun for me too if he let me be part of his bi fun :biggrin1:

    So I would not reject a guy just cause he was bisexual. As long as I came first as his partner, he could have all the fun he wanted :rolleyes:
     
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    100% straight for me.
     
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    100% for me as well. Ain't no shame in it either way. You have to be you.
     
  10. greatdickismydrug

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    Very well stated.
     
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    Quite a first post, Ambience...

    But well said. I'm not bi, but I'd love to date a bi girl. Yeah.
     
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    it is easier to find a guys who would like his girl to be bi than the other way around, but it definitely can happen.

    I had a gf who used to love watching bi porn. Some of the best head I ever got was while watching them.

    She got two different straight guys to come to bed with us. She got off on watching me give head and loved dp.

    Never went the other way as she was into big girls and that didn't turn me on.
     
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    Well it's probably not the answer you wanted, but it is my answer. I personally would not want to date a man that was bisexual. I prefer men who like just women.
     
  14. dolfette

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    bi guys...

    total turn off i'm afraid. just leaves me cold.
     
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    OKay, read a few things in this thread, but I'm a bit disappointed on the fact that bisexuality is related too having sex with a woman or a man.

    How I see bisexuality is that you could fall in love with a person, man or woman. And I hope that if a woman don't want to have a relationship with a bisexual man that that is because he also could fall in love with another man and not because he can cheat on her with a man or a woman. Looks like bisexual man can't be loyal when they choose their partner in some of the things written above.
     
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    I personally think it's HOT! But more so a man who enjoys sex with other men, but not into having a realtionship with one. My ex had tendencies and we were planning on exploring that before we broke up. He did have one experience but I wasn't there, unfortunately. I made him tell me every single detail and it drove me wild!!

    I would be very open to dating a man like that, absolutely!
     
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    My respect for You and your husband! Since I would have liked my ex- wife would think and feel like You ! :cool:
     
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    Fantastic post! :smile: A man's admission of his bisexuality while in a stable and happy heterosexual relationship could lead to an abyss of sexual and emotional pleasure.
     
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    Nah pieter, no more than those that can't stay loyal and are straight or gay. Some in all orientations choose not to be loyal, unless they are in an mutually agreed upon open relationship.

    How you described bi-sexuality is pretty close however, I wonder what sexual orientation would be applied to a guy who doesn't think he could ever fall in love with another guy, but is sexually turned on by them?
     
  20. greatdickismydrug

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    For me it has nothing to do with whom he might fall in love with. It has everything to do about sex and attraction.
     
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