male/female view of size

Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by winger5150, Dec 21, 2006.

  1. winger5150

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    Hi guys,

    I'm pretty new here so don't blast me out if I'm posting about something that has already been discussed.

    I've noticed that men and women seem to view what is big as completely different....well not entirely, allow me to try and explain.

    It seems to me from my own experience (somewhat limited, only slept with three women) that most women would view a penis of 7" x 5" to be big. I make this inferrence based on my own experiences, I'm 7.75 x 5.3 and each girls I've been with have voluntarily told me they think my penis is big (in two cases as a sigh of relief as I'm only 5' 8.5" and 150 lbs with small hands lol) and also a few female friends have also confirmed this when we've spoken about the matter.

    However when men discuss the matter it seems that for us big BIG-ins (sorry about that!) at 8" and girth somewhere above 5.5".

    Looking at the, in my view, limited and flawed stats available, the female view is correct (as of course is the male view as it is a larger size). If 90% of men are between 5 and 7 inches then anyone with a 7" penis is big by any definition I would think. After all (and please bear with my shaky maths here) if, for arguments sake, the 90% is split evenly and only whole numbers are used, 30% of men would be 5", 30% 6" and 30% 7". So as a guy with a 7 incher you would be bigger than 60% of all other men and only 10% of men would be bigger than you. Surely that makes you big? Obviously once subdivisions come in the percentages change but I bet statistically a 7 inch dick is probably bigger than like 60 - 70 per cent of penises.

    Ummm hang on I've lost myself here...I think my point is that, for straight guys, don't listen to what other guys say after all most of us have only seen our own penis erect and various porn stars. Listen to the ladies, I think they have a more accurate view of where big starts.

    Oh yeah and I just wanted to check if anyone else had noticed this difference between the sexes.

    Oh and a very merry christmas to you all x

    Here endeth the verbose post ;)
     
  2. Skull Mason

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    nice post. pretty much what you say would ring true.

    7 inches should be considered big, however, that would change when a 9x6er plows through a present or future girlfriend. For a girl who has never experienced one that big, 7 inches could, would, and probably should seem big to huge. However, that ceiling is raised when Dirk Diggler comes a knockin cock a swingin. At that point a woman's (and mans) perception of what is big is severely distorted. I think at 8x6 you can't go wrong. After that I don't think there would be much difference, however, the descrepency between a 9x6 and 7x5 is probably big.

    I would also think a man of 7x5's biggest fear would be a 9x6er taking or having took his woman, because already being bigger than most men, you've been put in the unfortunate position of being compared to Mr. Dirk.
     
  3. winger5150

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    Oh yeah I totally understand what you are saying. Obviously a 9 x 6 is a lot bigger than a 7 x 5 and then a person would think "Wow so that is BIG"...however I still think that even after that experience they would still consider 7 x 5 big...they'd just understand that it isn't as big as it gets.

    I don't think that, just from experiencing what is an exceptionally large penis that the view of when big starts changes that much IF what you considered big before was still statistically big. The only thing I can think of comparing it too is height.

    I'm 5' 8.5", pretty much worldwide average height for men, no one would consider me tall or short when taken as a single example. Obviously compared to a man who is 6' 2" I'm short, compared to a man who is 5' 4" I'm tall.
    So a girl goes out with me and all her other boyfriends are roughly my height. She sees loads of guys about the same sort of size everyday.
    She then goes out with a guy who is 6' tall (only 3% of men are 6' and over so 6' is tall as far as I, and most people are concerned). Now she thinks to herself "He's a big guy".
    Her next b/f is 6' 7", a medical giant. So she might think "Wow this guy is much bigger than my last b/f" but what she won't think is "Blimey any guy the size of my last b/f (6') is really tiny." And when her next b/f turns out to be 6' she won't think "What a dwarf" she'll just think he's shorter than her last b/f.

    I know this is convoluted and maybe the sizes aren;t proportional to what we are talking about but I hope you get what I mean....I seem to become very verbose when I type...when I talk I'm distinctly more laconic.
     
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    Very interesting view on this which I hope is correct. I am smaller than you and I hope women do not loose their sense of "average" when they see a much bigger guy. I am talking "package" size here not physical size.
    I am pretty big physically but average at best in the package department.

    From what some women say I am not too sure that seeing and having bigger does not distort their view of "average". I would like to think not but I am not totally convinced on this point. I know I would be very concerned if a wife or girl friend ever experienced a much larger penis after meeting me.
    I mean would she ever think I was average again or just plain small?

    What you other men and women on here think about this? I find this to be a very interesting question.
     
  6. viking1

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    Good info for sure. I have read so much on this I feel I have seen it all before. I know that depending on who compiled the data and how it was collected that I am average to a bit above. The OP is well above both in my opinion and statistically.

    I am interested in whether seeing and having a large guy changes the womans (or mans) view of what is average, large, or small.

    What is your opinion on that point?
     
  7. Wyldgusechaz

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    I think you have to understand this site can be a bit deceiving.

    Most women are way more forgiving of a mans physical qualities than men are to a womans. With a cock like yours most are gonna be quite happy from what most of the women here have said and these are big cock conniseurs.:biggrin1:

    Of course there are those gals who want...........
     
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    Well for sure you have a very good size Winger...

    In 99% of my experiences I meet 5" and 6" averages girth and 1 of them a bit fatter...I trully thought most penis would be like that and it for sure maybe.:wink:

    But then by chance of destiny, lol, I meet my ex-bf who for my surprise was a 9"x6"...

    Well, I just graduate from a 5"x4.5" to a 9"x6" just like that...not even meet or saw an 7" or 8" before that. It was a huge surprise to me, believe.

    Than it can happens you be the 2nd largest in a woman's experience...but anyways I would never think about telling my next guy that I had experienced a 9"...particularly if he is an 8" or 7"...
     
  9. transformer_99

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    I was going to post something else instead of this, but narrowed it down to this. The answers are pretty obvious and if there's any doubt, ask the sex partner, but be aware, you may or may not hear what you want to hear. It even depends upon your perception of the response, verbal or visual ?

    Obviously having biggest of the big is going to mold anyone's perception of the statistics of the population. There will always be a wonder if and where the next biggest one to raise the bar and the next smaller one is that lowers it. I think for women they probably have a range for preference and this is natural and logical. Males have to make do with what they were given in that regard, women can experiment to find this range of preference. Likewise men can choose what they prefer in women. The security/insecurity works both ways for size and preference.
     
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    Early on, all of my penis size experience was "hands on."

    We didn't have the internet then, and I certainly wasn't going to try and research it in the library. LOL

    The first penis I encountered was, I would say, about 7.5 x 5.5, so was larger than average. And I encountered that penis many times before I encountered any others (interestingly enough, the guy's name was "Rod.")

    But after Rod came many different shapes and sizes. As I encountered more and more different types of cocks, I got a more accurate view of what was average and what wasn't, and realized that Rod was large (which was proven again and again as I slept with him off and on throughout my teens).

    I did encounter a few that were bigger -- I've talked about one guy before who I think was probably 8.5 inches long (very rare) but wasn't all that thick. I found it painful to have sex with him, even when I was on top, which was a crying shame, because I'd wanted him for a really long time.

    Several months later at a party, I ended up refusing him for that reason, and sleeping with his friend instead (aren't teenage girls bitches)? The friend had a very attractive face and was quite popular. But his dick was totally average. Average really wasn't a problem for me, though. I remember him being a little thicker at the base, which was nice.

    By the time I got to the guy I have mentioned before, who had a smaller-than-average penis and a larger-than-life personality, I was well aware that his penis was on the small side. But if he'd been my first, I probably wouldn't have had a clue. He was still a great lover. Only one man -- my husband -- has uttered the phrase, "I want to make you come again," more times than that guy did.
     
  11. transformer_99

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    I disagree with that statement, I think it goes both ways in terms of perception, approval and disapproval. Both men and women focus on the appealing, there's generally some redeeming quality that makes anyone relatively a candidate for foregiveness and their flaws (if you could or would even want to call them flaws) being overlooked.
     
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    Yeah I know what you mean. Lots of guys on this website say they have like 9 or 10 inches and the women say they've been with guys that big. Mine is exactly 8 inches long and almost 6 around and almost every woman I've had sex with said I'm the biggest they've had. So who knows what the real deal is. Actually with one woman we met online and she said she prefered big ones, and I told her my size, then when we got together she was surprised because I'm actually how big I said I am. She said she assumed everyone added an inch. So maybe that's it. I wonder if some guys add an inch to sound bigger and then women believe they are as big as they say. I always just tell it straight because I got nothing to hide.
     
  13. viking1

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    Thank you Chrysalis. The last paragraph tells me what I wanted to know.
    Having seen and had a larger than average penis does change your opinon at least somewhat. Like you said until you ran into a large guy you had no idea. I have seen similar coments from other women.

    Altough you say average is okay for you many others say after a larger than average that is all they want now.

    Finding an inexperienced woman at my age will not be easy.
     
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    Well finding one half your age might change your perspective. LOL! All kidding aside, I don't think finding someone inexperienced will guarantee anything. I do think finding someone you really really dig, and who really really digs you, can go along way though sometimes.
     
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    Well, you can't account for the perceptions of everyone, but I feel that the majority of potential sexual partners out there (whether they be women or gay/bi men) have their perceptions around size based around the statistical average, at least roughly. In fact, I would bet the distribution of what people consider normal very closely mirrors the distribution of actual sizes out there...that is, a bell curve with a maximum at the statistical mean, with exponentially smaller amounts of people at the two extremes.

    There will always be a few outliers in BOTH directions...those who demand 9+ inches of satisfaction and those who think 4 and a half is plenty large, but they represent a statistically insignificant portion of the population. In general, you're going to find people thinking 5-6 is average, 6-7 is getting rather large, and anything above 7 is downright big (IMO). Girth also enters into it, but I'm not gonna get into that, that's a whole 'nother post's worth of rambling right there.

    And just because somebody has experienced a very large penis does not necessarily mean that that will skew their perception of what is "normal", they could just as easily see it for what it actually was...an extremely large penis, which is abnormal in the greater male population. If you're 7" long, that does not mean that somebody who's had 9 will be disappointed with you and think you're smaller than normal, they could just as easily (and probably will, I'll bet) see you as large in your own right.
     
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    Really???

    WOW. I'm 5' 11" and have never considered myself tall. Ever.

    See, this is just like with our dicks. I'm shocked guys 7" and larger come on here seriously questioning if they're bigger than average yet I consider that really big as I'm at the lower end of average.

    Relativity, it seems, isn't just something in the cosmos.
     
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    Thanks Kamakazisj that was exactly my point about that particular issue, an experience with an exceptional size (either very large or very small) won't change a persons perceptions of relative norms and a point where large/small begins.
     
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    I've been with a large number of men and women. I'm about 7" long by 3" wide, never measured the circumferance accurately. Most women thought I was fine, but my wife thinks I'm a little too big. (No full penetration, just working the head right inside her lips.) Most guys think I'm OK, but could be bigger. Most guys want bigger for the visual turn-on, whether or not they can handle it.

    I've seen guys fully throbbin' hard measure from 2" long to 15" long. (There was a guy in L.A. getting a 4-hand hand job, and his head was still exposed.) I consider bigger than mine to be big. Big gives me some sort of visual turn on - don't know why.
     
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    But what I can say about male view is the apparent 'obssesion' with lenght..

    To me a normal penis is working penis that can do a good job.

    And I not only want a normal penis but a natural penis with a large than average girth.
    Than a normal penis (average to large) will satisfy me, a natural (uncut foreskin on) will give me extra sensations, and a fat girth will give me good fricction that I need because of my 'bio and anatomic' unique make up.

    We made discoveries throu experiences and my personal experience going from average to extra large was a great thing to me bcause I find out how much I could strecht lenght wise and that a 6" girth was a true fit. As my foreskin one time experience was such a rush of sensations that I carry with me to this day: I want feel tha again!

    Even if those 2 guys were 1% among 99% of my total 'normal' sexual experiences, the unique particularity of those 2 penises enriched very much my mind files report. But lets not forget they were great lovers I was very found of than the memories is glued into my mind for a long long time...:wink:
     
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    I've read in several threads how women are largely inaccurate when sizing up a partners' cock without measuring. I don't know if this is true but speaking for myself, I measure objects all day long as part of my profession. I'm very adept at eyeballing measurements and what i've discovered is that most men take the time to measure themselves and know exactly how large they are, but there are a few out there who will add an inch or two when the subject of their size is addressed. One guy who did this with me insisted he was 7" long but he was about 5" tops. He would have been really embarrassed had I taken my tape measure out of my purse (yes, I always have one with me) and verified the truth.
     
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