Male/male sex question - what do other hung guys prefer?

[mordant]

Okay, this is something thats kinda bugged me since I was about 16.

Firstly, I'm not hugely hung (at my hardest, 8 x 5.5ish), but I guess I'm well above average - I've hd no complaints for girls or guys.

But this question is about me taking it up the ass from a dude whos as hubng, or more hung than me.

I'm really, REALLY into big dicks - the problem is, I'm also stupidly tight. While I can give a pretty damn good blowjob to a well hung dude, when it comes to penetration, sometimes I end up having to give up unless I'm a) drunk, b) stoned or c) in a position where I cant wimp out (read; bondage ).

So I've discussed this with a few guys before and after sex. Some guys have said "if you practise every day with dildos and buttplugs, you'll loosen up enough), but this is where I get a little torn (no pun intended) - See, when I'm fucking a guy, I kinda like it REALLY tight. Not like sticking my cock into a vice, but you know, a fair amount of firm resistance. A butt I can just stick it into with no problem is a bit of a turn-off for me.

So what do you guys think/recommend?

 

[HungUKProfessional]

I can't offer you any advice Mordant, but as I can relate very much to your posting, I'm very interested in responses to this too.

 

[jfrsndvs]

well if you want to bottom, start by getting yourself loose enough with your fingers, then work your way to a butt plug and/or dildo, use a smaller one and then work your way up, and as for a cock, find you a more experienced guy, I would not recommend anyone who is new to this because of his nerves, and he would not remain hard enough to do any penatration and it will be as much of a let down to not only you but the other guy as well, take your time, use lots of lube, and most importantly Use a Condom.

 

[joyboytoy79]

Mordant,

I, like you, am tight. Nobody gets into me without putting a little effort into it. I've found that for some guys this is a HUGE turn-on. For others it's off-putting enough that they get frustrated and go limp. I've learned to accept this as part of my anatomy. It is what it is, and there isn't a whole lot i can do about it. When i have anal sex, i make sure my partner is VERY turned on. The harder he is, the more he wants it, the more likely he'll get in. For a very large number of guys, this works very well. Also, on my end, as soon as he gets his head in, i start to bear down slighly, as if i'm gonna take a crap. This relaxes the sphinter muscle, and also provides a nice "gripping" sensation for the top. Once he's in though, i just let loose and enjoy the ride!

 

[mordant]

I, like you, am tight. Nobody gets into me without putting a little effort into it. I've found that for some guys this is a HUGE turn-on. For others it's off-putting enough that they get frustrated and go limp. I've learned to accept this as part of my anatomy. It is what it is, and there isn't a whole lot i can do about it. When i have anal sex, i make sure my partner is VERY turned on. The harder he is, the more he wants it, the more likely he'll get in. For a very large number of guys, this works very well. Also, on my end, as soon as he gets his head in, i start to bear down slighly, as if i'm gonna take a crap. This relaxes the sphinter muscle, and also provides a nice "gripping" sensation for the top. Once he's in though, i just let loose and enjoy the ride!

Now I've had more experience with larger guys fucking me, I've got a new appreciation for smaller built/younger girls (18/19 etc) and being a little more gentle with em - cept some of them like it a bit rough, or so they say :biggrin1:

Once a guy is in and I'm not in pain anymore, I've got a heap pof conrtol over my muscles down there - I've learned the art of 'mliking' their dicks, and I get complimented on it - it's gettng damn thing in which is the trickiest part!

Oh and that 'bearing down' thing? Doesn't work for me, just tends to push them out!

 

[BarebackJack]

I can say as a top, a super tight ass can be an extreme challenge. Thank god for viagra, lube, and patience. One key is to be as relaxed as possible, and some tight guys I have been with have relaxed enough for me to get in without too much trouble following a nice long ass-eating. It's amazing how a good long butt-munching session can do that!

 

[basque9]

Okay, this is something thats kinda bugged me since I was about 16.B See, when I'm fucking a guy, I kinda like it REALLY tight. Not like sticking my cock into a vice, but you know, a fair amount of firm resistance. A butt I can just stick it into with no problem is a bit of a turn-off for me.
So what do you guys think/recommend?

My recommendation is that you loosen up your asshole with a dildo! You are not the one fucking yourself , so what difference does it make that you like tight ass? You will enjoy the sex more and be able to take on all comers.. well almost all!:tongue:

 

[joyboytoy79]

I can say as a top, a super tight ass can be an extreme challenge. Thank god for viagra, lube, and patience. One key is to be as relaxed as possible, and some tight guys I have been with have relaxed enough for me to get in without too much trouble following a nice long ass-eating. It's amazing how a good long butt-munching session can do that!

Yes yes... a good long butt-muncing does loosen things up a bit... i agree completely!!!! Of course, it would still leave me tight enough to strangle a rooster, but hey... some guys like to choke their chickens, right?

 

[avalonjim]

ASTROGLIDE

I am telling you you can park a freight train in a 2 car garage with that stuff

 

[Ltn4Wht]

well, I've been told that my cock is nice. I'm above average. I may not have an 8". But I have had no complaints. As a TOP, tight is the best. Just like with women. aggressive bottoms are OK, at times. I like the chase and the fact that a guy wants something up his ass, that other wise shouldn't go there,and,it turns him on. But mainly, If your comfortable with the person your with it should be, OK. Also, everyone likes the idea of a big cock. my ex boyfriend, said the biggist he had was an 11". He felt limited not just in the positions he was able to get in. but it was not enjoyable. And he liked to get fucked. but everyone is different.

 

[chuck216]

As someone who's experienced this from both sides, I'm Versitile and so is my BF. We're both above average sized, me 7.5 long and 6.5 around, him 8.5 long and 5.5 around. The best course of action is lots of a good lube and preparation getting yourself loose enough by using fingers starting with just one then adding another at a time until you get up to 3. Once you can take 3 fingers comfortably then you should be able to take your partner, for that session, you may have to do this each time you bottom. Most guys aren't as thick as 3 fingers so you should be fine. The main thing is lube and keep relaxed.

 

[mj wagner]

I'm a top. The tighter the better. ASTROGLIDE> Use lots

 

[lgemember9]

I do not like it too tight. It is too difficult to get in and no fun. I try to find bottoms who like big dicks and are used to them. They appreciate me and my size, (and I like that kind of attention) and I fit in. It is the best solution for me. I thus purposefully "advertise" by showing a bulge and I talk to guys when I meet them about my size, especially my thickness, so I know beforehand whether anal sex is a good possibility or not.

 

[dags]

Hmm. You said the one guy suggested you practice with a dildo, just me but I'd be like "fuck that"! He isn't the only guy out there with a big dick!
For me its all about being really aroused. If you are horned up enough and are familiar with your body you can get it in. Like you say once you get it in and relax for a second or two its "party time". I've never "practiced" with a dildo and my partner used to poke me every day and he's got a 9er.
I always been tight too, but if your horny and relaxed you shouldn't have any problems. We've always used KY, once he gets the head in and then pushes a bit past that then I usually want him to just hold off for a few seconds so I can relax and get used to it, otherwise it can be a bit painfull. By then I'm really wanting a good hard fuck so he just starts slow at first and just seems to know when I'm good.
Those "porno sized" cocks are fun to play with but they can be a challenge sometimes. I'll be honest, I've always been a size queen but I will admit I have had a couple occasions in my younger days where I met my match.:mischievous:

 

[Pumperthumper]

Seriously, what's the big deal? Just keep getting your ass pounded and eventually you'll be able to fit in a basketball or be a goatse model. I started tight and I've done my share of screaming and now I can take GARGANTUAN COCKS. Sorry man, no pain, no gain. Lube up for sure but there's no easy way. My boyfriend literally cries after I'm done with him but he knows that eventually it'll pay off. Nothing in life is easy man.

 

[KrissyCD]

You just have to learn to relax, use tons of good quality lube and enjoy the ride.
Recently I was in NYC and this hung black guy was trying to fuck me but to no avail. He couldn't get rock hard to slide it in my tight bum no matter how much lube we used so I ended up sucking him off. Always have plan B.

 

[twogents]

The first time a guy suggested fucking me i was 15, he was about 40. I didnt know what to do and he said no problem he pulled down my pants told me to get on all fours. This was pre aids knowledge so no condom and he didnt use lube just spit it started to hurt. I asked him to stop and he didnt. basically he raped me. It took me some year before i trusted a guy to try again. Thankfully this one was great and spent an hour coaxing my arse with his tonge fingers and a couple of dildos. He also suggested he lay down and i lower my arse on to his dick. which was graet cause i fellt i had total control. Once it was going in fine i was able to change positions and relax more.

Even though i get fucked more regually now i still start off on top till i loosen up a bit it really helps

 

[trufitjock]

Silicone Based Lube .. Its The Way To Go.. Very Slippery...

 

[fetkuk]

Hey Mordant,

My dick is 9x7 - very thick - and I always get a kick out of when dudes can't take it without some pain. And I know there a lot of bros like me out there - well hung guys who love to fuck an ass or pussy that's too tight for their dick.

I think you should find a good, hung top that you can trust and let him tie you up tightly. That way you'll be forced to take his dick even if it hurts a little; you'll end up satisfied because you got to feel his big manhood inside you and he'll be happy 'coz he got to fuck your tight hole.

Everybody Wins!!!

 

[N2jocks]

Assa bottom, I agree with relaxing your ass. Breath deeply, use lots of lube, RELAX your sphincter and ask him to go slow. If it hurts ask him to take it out till the pain subsides, then ask him to lube his dick adn your ass some more and put it back in. Then he should go slow till you are ready for a good plowing!