male of female physican

[dwm2001]

do you have a male or female physican? Do you have a preference?Have you had someone of the opposite sex give you a physical?

One time My physican, a male had not come in but I still kept my appointment for a physical.At the time they ask if I had a preference for a male or female physican. I said male. Even though I know it's purely professional I just know i would have a hard time (no pun intended) keeping it down after dropping trou in front of a woman. I have had str8 friends who say they get off on the idea of being naked in front of a woman other than their wife or gf, so they have a female check them out. I also know some gay men say they perfer a female as they have better control over themselves. And of course those who don't care either way.

 

[DC_DEEP]

In a clinical situation, like an exam room, those sorts of things are the last thing I'm thinking of. I get my medical care at the VA, so even though I have a primary care physician (always the same one, unless he is not in the office, then my secondary) who is male. But I have been referred to other clinics within the VA, and sometimes the doctors are female. It makes no difference to me. Trust me, if it is a female who is prepping you for an angiogram, you won't be thinking of her tits. For routine primary care, though, I don't really have a preference.

 

[Alley Blue]

I have to admit, I thought the whole doctor/patient relationship was always supposed to be kept platonic, until last year, when I had to see a specialist for a knee problem that I have. I almost live in the gym, and one of the first things you'll probably notice about me ( with my clothes on that is) is my chest. well I go into the exam room, and I describe my knee problem, and she tells me to take my cloths off, and said "if I feel the need to use the robe, I could" this struck me as odd, because most female doctors will tell there male patient to put on a robe.

When she came back in, ( by the way she wasn’t bad looking) she started asking me questions about my ailment, but what struck me as odd, was the strange eye contact she kept, it was different from what I was used to. She then asked me did I exercise my knee, and I mentioned that I work out and she said "yeah I can see that" and she smiled and just stared at me. It was so weird.

Anyway, she finally gave me the prescriptions, and I left. But I've always wondered if this sort of thing has ever happened to anyone else.

 

[headbang8]

I'm generally not fussed about the gender of a doctor for most routine visits. Unless you have a white-coat fetish, a doctor's office is pretty unerotic.

But I've taken the trouble to find a gay male primary care doctor in the past, and will do so again when I can work out my insurance. And when it comes to shrinks, I refuse to see anyone but a gay male.

Maybe I've had the wrong femal doctors in the past. I've found them astonishingly unsympathetic to male suffering. They leap to all kinds of conclusions about me, based on misguided male stereoptypes.

In the course of treatment for depression, two of the shrinks I consulted were female. Both tried to treat the depression as they would a female case, and became frustrated and annoyed when my disease history didn't match that of a typical woman.

Sexist? Maybe. But I'll stay a healthy sexist.

 

[ericbear]

As a gay man, I have always been a bit sensitive about my selection of doctors. When I moved to California, I was lucky enough to find a gay-friendly practice just two miles from my house. (Imagine that, in the heart of Orange County...) I had the choice of a gay male doctor, or a female doctor. For some reason, I chose the woman, probably becsuse she was also from New Jersey.

Despite the fact that (or perhaps because) I am a gay man, and she is a hetero woman, I soon learned that she was very uncomfortable about male sexual and reproductive issues. The first clue was when she gave me a DRE (Digital Rectal prostate Exam) during my initial physical. She siad something like: "Don't worry, I have really small fingers. You'll hardly notice anything." She then proceeded to do an exam so quick that I wonder how she could have felt anything. Later, when I had nonspecific urethritis, she was clearly very uncomfotable as well. Recently, when my prostate started giving me some trouble (Ah, the joys of getting older...), she had the male Physician's Assistant (who is rather cute, and I suspect gay) see me again, and didn't see me herself again until recovery was well under way, and I was under the care of a urologist. I'm not sure if she did this because she thought I might be more comfoatable talking to a man, or because she was so uncomfortable.

After my initial treatment, the prostate trouble flared up while I was in NYC on business, causing me to have to see a urologist on the upper west side on an emergency basis. I was somewhat concerned about having to disclose my sexuality to a presumably straight doctor that I was meeting for the first time. He started to ask a few questions about sexuality, and I cut him off and gave a very blunt answer, that saved him a lot of trouble in probing with delicate questions. I think he was a bit shocked by my bluntness when I said: "I am a gay man. I am very sexually active. I am always the insertive partner, and have never had receptive sex." Nevertheless, that got us down to business a lot faster. I was actually surprised at his attitude toward my sexual practices. While my own doctor tried to pin my misery on an my sexual practices (which unfortunately did include a couple of stupid and ill-advised encounters just before the trouble started), the male doctor was actually less judgemental about my sex acts, and rather believed that some bad stress I was going through was much more likely to be the cause.

When I returned from the trip, I started seeing a straight male urologist near home. I actually found that I was quite comfortable talking frankly to him about gay sexuality. Unfortunately, he isn't quite as comfortable as the doctor in NY was, but he is nevertheless far more comfortable than my female primary-care internist is.

So, my conclusion at the end of the day is that I probably would have been better off with a male doctor (barring an absolute homophobe).

 

[dcwrestlefan]

last time i was in the hospital, a female nurse assistant came in and started pulling off my underwear without even asking first. (becuz of what i had, my lower abdomen needed to be examined frequently) she was the only one who had done that though. and she asked repeatedly if i needed help in the bathroom when i was cleaning up.

the episode kinda tainted me, and i prefer male doctors as a result given a choice.

 

[hippyscum]

One time I had a female doctor giving me a general exam when I was in hospital... she was checking my stomach and then BAM! she just put her hands straight down my trousers to check my balls. It's only ever happened once but it freaked me right the hell out. I try to keep to male doctors now.

 

[madame_zora]

Here's a place where I'm racist and sexist- doctors! I see male Indian doctors almost exclusively when they are available. I have found them to have better communication ability (or willingness) and tend to be gentler than other doctors I have seen. The few female doctors I have seen have been rough and I don't like that feeling. Perhaps it is because I am Indian that Indians treat me better, but whatever works.

As for shrinks, I would never see any shrink who did not have vast understanding and experience in dealing with my particular situation, whatever that may be. For myself, I am a recovering alcoholic so I would only consider seeing a shrink who was also. It's not good enough for me that they read a book about it, I want them to KNOW. I am quite sure I'd feel the same if I were gay- I'd want them to be too.

 

[Steve26]

I've had male and female doctors over the years, and totally agree with DC_DEEP: Arousal is the last thing that enters my head (either one! ) in a clinical setting. My main concern is how thorough the doctor is in his/her examination. I've had a female doctor who was very thorough in her exams and a male who gave only a superficial once-over. As a person whose demographic makes testicular cancer something of a concern, I'll take the former ANY day!

Steve

 

[B_cricketsliar]

I've found that younger, or more inexperienced medical doctors' do not have the restraint that older or more seasoned professionals possess regarding sensitive genital exams. So in reference to which gender do I prefer, I prefer neither since my criteria for choosing a doctor weights age and experience more.

 

[B_Hung Muscle]

My primary doc is a gay man and a friend of mine.

I would only ever go to a gay doctor for primary health care.

My dermotologist is a straight woman. Twice a year, she checks my moles for cancer everywhere on my body -- including in my groin and in the crack of my butt -- but a skin cancer exam is about as erotic as putting my arm in a blender. I don't think I would spring wood if she had a 10 inch dick. On second thought...

 

[13788]

orionsword57: First and only time there was any nervousness on my part with a female medical practioner was when I was shaved prior to having my appendix removed. I was young and scared about having my first surgery, but the issue of my size, her reaction as a woman, etc.... didn't have a calming influence. However now, at almost 75, I had a biopsy done last week on my prostate which caused the female nurse in attendance to have to observe the procedure. As you get older, I think issues like this fade away. They have for me.

 

[jazzz14]

I have to say it may not matter if male or female, as long as they checked for everything including all male workings. Yesterday I ad to see a kidney specialist, a male. He was incredible checking everything. He said strip down, I did, fully nude and he examined everything. Face up he checked my testicles etc etc . Even the finger you know where for the prostrate. All is well. But it was a pleasure to be nude with no strange feelings from him, no fear, he had a job to do and did it great. I beleive he is straight but I will return due to how he handled himself and took care of me.

 

[B_cricketsliar]

In an exam type situation, it may be okay to fantasize about the doctor (male or female) having a sexual reaction to your genitalia. It is not,however, okay for the doctor to actually participate in the fantasy or encourage a sexual episode with the patient.

 

[jay_too]

Over the years, I have had both male and female. I never had a really bad experience. I do sweat a little when I hear, "Change into a gown, and the doctor will be with you in a few minutes." Why? Well, some gowns are really short; and the one-eyed monk is always up for a little peek.

My current one does the prostate check at least once a year. Yeckkk! I tried to get out of the exam by saying, "I am only 25." His response was, "Well, I suppose we could let it go this time."

My two favorite doctors were trained in Bulgayria. They were listened to what I had to say, performed the cough-cough exam with no comments, and always called the next day to see how I was. Now that is quality medicine! I did not feel that I was on an assembly line and that the doctor was falling behind.

 

[hung]

Male or Female Doctor

I have had both in the course of my long life. I have no problems with either sex. Maybe I have been fortunate, but each and every Doctor that has ever examined me did so in a professional manner. At my age I receive a digital exam each year and have for at least fifteen years. Both females and males take their profession very serious and I have nothing but respect for all who have ever examined me. Maybe I have been fortunate, but a Doctor has so much to loose if he/she is every found guilty of unprofessional conduct.

 

[DC_DEEP]

One side note, for those of us at that age where they should check the prostate more often...
Digital rectal exam can reveal some cancers, but is most effective at confirming benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH). If your doctor has not recommended a PSA test (prostate-specific antigen) then you should most definitely request one. It's a simple blood test, much more effective in early detection of prostate cancer.

Go in good health, friends.

 

[Ryandaoc]

To me once they put the white coat on they are a "Dr." and not a man or woman any more.

Anyone ever noticed that "Dr." doesn't change with regard to them being male/female? It also doesn't change if they are gay/straight?

There are bad Docs out there, but I've been lucky to never have one. My wife is a nurse and yes they do notice things when they are exceptional. However, the professional ones never say anything to the patient or another person. If you have had anyone make a comment to you or about you then you are not dealing with a "healthcare professional" and should reconsider the medical care you are receiving.

 

[twodogs]

I've never thought of medical examinations as erotic. I've never had a problem with the "One-eyed Monk" (I like that one&#33 snapping to attention in those circumstances. Even when a young, hot looking female technologist did an ultrasound on my testicles I felt nothing in the way of arousal.

Twodogs

 

[rogue_mj]

As a GP myself (Primary Care/Family Doctor) I am human too, yes of course I notice a very nice penis or a great set of breasts, and there have even been times where i felt my breathing get a little quicker and perhaps a stirring in the nether regions, however, as a professional person, with the patient putting the ultimate trust in me when he/she is naked (always in a gown or robe and lifted only as needed) , I respond NOT to those emotions or feelings, and maintain a decorum of respect and dignity so the patient will always feel at ease, no matter how personal the examination is.
The patient may have a 10 inch wanger, and I amy be inwardly drooling, but i just keep calm and ignore it, even if the patient has an arousal, which sometimes occurs, and occasionally comment "Happens often" if it does get hard and the patient seems distressed... which puts them at ease and I move on as if nothing happened.