Invisible Man - I guess what I'm saying is that I've dated plenty of self-professed bisexuals who claimed that they wanted to get with other dudes (with or without me), but always found lots of excuses not to get around to it. Where, pray tell, are the "right places"? It seems like the only women I know who are involved with actively bisexual guys are in the RPG/pagan/nerd community, and gamers/new-agey types don't really appeal to me at all.
I've been attracted to boys who like boys for as long as I can remember, but I've yet to find that elusive guy who actively sleeps with both sexes. They either seem to be mostly-straight boys who are liberated enough to be able to admit when another guy's good-looking (and who might given in to the occasional drunken public makeout, eager to tap in on the chic value of queerness) or mostly-gay boys who like being platonically affectionate with their gal pals and will give them an occasional tongue kiss just for kicks. I've been involved with both genders myself and I'm definitely not biphobic, but most of the guys I've met who claimed they were "50/50" seemed to default to the heterosexual privilege of a relationship with women, or made claims that they were attracted to men sexually but not emotionally. I would love to meet a guy who's genuinely attracted to and interested in sleeping with both me and other dudes, but I'm beginning to wonder if this only happens in my dreams. MMF is a big turn-on for me but I don't really have much desire to pursue it with guys who aren't going to get into it with each other, too, and who are only doing it for the pussy.
(I guess I should add that I live in the SF Bay Area, so if it ain't happenin' for me here, it's probably not happenin' anywhere.)
I disagree. From what I've seen, there are LOTS of guys who sleep with both sexes. The number of bisexuals is probably UNDERestimated because of all the man who are straight even though they engage in bisexual behavior.
When there's less stigma against male-on-male action, more bisexuals will come out of the closet and stop all that "straight but curious" bullshit.
I like chocolate. Period, I'm not "chocolate-curious", I don't hesitate to eat chocolate because I'm unashamed about it. If you call me a chocolate lover I won't argue that I'm a vanillia lover that just snacks on chocolate from time to time.
gamers/new-agey types don't really appeal to me at all.
I like chocolate. Period, I'm not "chocolate-curious", I don't hesitate to eat chocolate because I'm unashamed about it. If you call me a chocolate lover I won't argue that I'm a vanillia lover that just snacks on chocolate from time to time.
I _have_ had a problem finding it. Not much luck with most of the bisexual resources I've encountered to date; seems to be a disproportionate amount of over-40 folks.
killer - the idea of a dude hiding his bisexuality is so ironic to me; I would look at it as a total bonus. I realize many women feel differently
Not just women, some men. Get a hidden camera, sit 10 gay men and 10 straight men at a table and ask them how they feel about bisexuals. Atleast 4 will say some ugly, mean-spirited, bigoted things.
I have had my fair share of mean spirited people but they weren't limited to bisexuals. Actually, I have found mean spirited folks in my own family. I have found mean-spiritedness in people of various sexual orientations, creeds, political affiliations, walks of life and cultures.