H8Monga: This is the second post I had thought of the other day before I forgot about it. Well it hit me today! Sorry, I didn't know exactly where to put this. As you may or may not know, I'm a 24 year old virgin black male. My workplace is super sexually charged and thanks to questions when I first started there I revealed I'm a virgin and a proud one at that. One of the guys who was there then couldn't believe it and asked me more questions which I answered. This guy commented that if his son wasn't having sex by my age then he'd suspect he's gay or something's wrong. Along with that, he told me about a 20 year old thug he knows who has women throwing themselves at him and he refuses. He said he couldn't understand his friend and could only say the guy is either gay or small and doesn't want to share. I stayed quiet on the last part of that. I tried to argue my side, that sex isn't everything and some people have more self-respect than to go have sex for sex's sake out and about and would rather wait for the right one and right time. He remained baffled by me until he left. His replacement also asked me questions to get to know me and again I admitted what I am. Again, he was taken aback and promised to take me to a strip club to which I rejected. He also echoed what the other guy said amazingly it was almost the exact same words. He left not long after that. Again, I was told something was wrong with me or any male who doesn't have sex after a certain age, this time by a supervisor who told me I reminded him of his deceased son. He told me that his son was 17 when he died and that he had tried to bring girls to his son but he didn't have sex with them. This worried him and I think he's saddened that his son died a virgin. The man said he didn't want that for me to which i replied I didn't care if I died a virgin, it doesn't bother me. Lastly, the other week one of the female co-workers who has 4 children found out kind of late about my virginity. She was totally shocked and asked me if I wanted to do it with her, which disgusted me... no offence to any women over 25, but I told her she was old... after all she's nearly my mother's age. She told me age is nothing but a number, ask the 28 year old co-worker we knew slept with her. I'm not him and I won't throw away my values for her. I refuse to settle and stop seeking what I have pictured for myself for so many years... it's all or nothing for me. She told me that her sons better have sex when they're older or else something's wrong with them if they don't. Once again, I hear something's wrong with the man who waits. I told this to a friend of mine who is a year older and is also a virgin waiting for the right woman. He said his co-workers made fun of him too but he reminded them that when their daughters date a guy, they would want a man like him as opposed to the dog. He says that gets them to thinking. All of those who thought negatively about male virginity were black. Is this a black culture or Western cultural belief that males have to start having sex early and have it for the sake of having sex? What is it that is so incredibly wrong about a male, particularly a black one, keeping his virginity? Ok this thread has strayed from what I originially thought a few days ago, sorry, I'm sure the topic for the above questions are on the board somewhere; however, I wanted to ask what women thought about male virginity(I had decided to put this topic in the Women's category but only one woman has made such a comment to me about male virginity). It surprised me that this female co-worker said basically the same thing the male ones had said regarding males and their male children and sex. Is this a common thought among women as well as men?