Man-to-man sex: It's all about the power! Right?

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I Would Love To Suck You Down, And Swallow That Big Load.
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I'm pretty sure that you just became every nelly bottom on this site's newest and best wet dream. Its not twisted, its just a power thing like you said. You like being in control, and, in my opinion, you like going after a man's, and I use this term because I can't think of a better one, innocence. A man that never considered bottoming or anything like that before agrees to bottom for you and that just drives you wild, you like the challenge of getting a top to bottom and you love the fact that you will always be the first one to have fucked him and he will always remember that. At least that is my take on it :)


That's about it, buddy. Your assessment of my thread is right on target!
 

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Actually the times I've been with guys have been kind of mellow and sensual. There's this tender quality about some regular guys that's erotic as fuck, with some undercurrent of strength and passion. It helps if I love or like the person.
 

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Is strength about control? Do you neccesarily need to overpower somebody to manipulate them? Is dominance more arousing to you than , or the desire to "top" somebody as a stamp of your own masculinity, that you were manly enough to turn somebody...of in a sense force, them?

Or are you into harder sex with a man, because you are unable to be tender and emotionally connected sensually with a man- is the intimacy an obstacle to the same kind of lovemaking that you might have with a woman?

And if the woman was sexually aggressive? Would the sex with an asssertive strong woman not suit you? Would she be classed as the submissive male, beyond the pale?
 

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For me, it wouldn't be entirely about raw power. It's more intimacy plus knowing that I have the power to make someone else feel good and ultimately cum. I guess being a romantic makes me feel that way. I would rather give someone a nice, slow long fuck while looking in their eyes than to just shove it and eventually get off.
 

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Actually the times I've been with guys have been kind of mellow and sensual. There's this tender quality about some regular guys that's erotic as fuck, with some undercurrent of strength and passion. It helps if I love or like the person.
That's me too. I've always been more sensual than sexual. I'm not usually sexually attracted to people unless I already know and like them. Trust, intimacy and shared experience are desired more than getting pounded. Each to his or her own.
 

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A black woman I used to work with had a black gay male roommate. He had several sleepover guest a month, but one morning the two of them were in the kitchen when she came out of her bedroom.

The overnight guest (also black) was embarrassed that a woman knew he was
gay. After a couple minutes, the roommate twigged why his date had become so quiet. With a big smile on his face and a wink for my co-worker, he grabbed the guy by his wrist and pulled him back into his bedroom.

A couple minutes later, she heard the bed squeaking, but she was puzzled because she normally heard her roommate squealing (he was a bottom).

She goes to his bedroom door and listens, but still doesn't hear him, just the squeaking bed. She opens the door and goes in. Her roommate is on top of the guy. The guy looks up, sees her and tries to disengage. Her roommate puts him in a wrestling hold and keeps on pumping while she watches.

This anecdote may not seem related to the topic, but it is. A gay bottom turns into a top to dominate an embarrassed-to-be-outed gay top.
 

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ive never been with a dude, i think im just more curious than anything. i think im more worried about things going wrong, wich will probably turn me off on dudes forever, and makes me overly cautious
 

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A black woman I used to work with had a black gay male roommate. He had several sleepover guest a month, but one morning the two of them were in the kitchen when she came out of her bedroom.

The overnight guest (also black) was embarrassed that a woman knew he was
gay. After a couple minutes, the roommate twigged why his date had become so quiet. With a big smile on his face and a wink for my co-worker, he grabbed the guy by his wrist and pulled him back into his bedroom.

A couple minutes later, she heard the bed squeaking, but she was puzzled because she normally heard her roommate squealing (he was a bottom).

She goes to his bedroom door and listens, but still doesn't hear him, just the squeaking bed. She opens the door and goes in. Her roommate is on top of the guy. The guy looks up, sees her and tries to disengage. Her roommate puts him in a wrestling hold and keeps on pumping while she watches.

This anecdote may not seem related to the topic, but it is. A gay bottom turns into a top to dominate an embarrassed-to-be-outed gay top.

but were they black?
 

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Is strength about control? Do you neccesarily need to overpower somebody to manipulate them? Is dominance more arousing to you than , or the desire to "top" somebody as a stamp of your own masculinity, that you were manly enough to turn somebody...of in a sense force, them?

Or are you into harder sex with a man, because you are unable to be tender and emotionally connected sensually with a man- is the intimacy an obstacle to the same kind of lovemaking that you might have with a woman?

And if the woman was sexually aggressive? Would the sex with an asssertive strong woman not suit you? Would she be classed as the submissive male, beyond the pale?

These are good questions. I have asked myself many of them over the years. I have only been with one guy. While we certainly had strong feelings for one another, and cared for each other greatly, neither of us felt the same way towards each other as we did with women, even though, in many respects our connection was deeper. I always wondered if it was just a mental hangup.

One of the turn on with guys for me is the ability to be more aggressive. Right or wrong, I have found women to be more fragile and thus I tend to hold back. When I experimented with the one male partner, neither of us held back any.

Secondly, I have absolutely no problem with a sexually aggressive woman. In fact, it can be a HUGE turn on.
 

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For me it's only a little bit about dominance but it's definitely a lot more rough which is what is nice. I don't feel like i have to worry about hurting him, it's basically just like wrestling with more pleasure
 

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I have had many experiences like the original post. And I have to admit yeah I like when I have someone's head spinning loving my cock and hating themselves at the same time.
I too have had someone where I knew their family & friends and made them basically be my bitch for an hour. I must admit I loved it all.
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As a prefrence I'm on top, It's very much so a power thing for me,
Something gets me off about the whole reversal of gender roles,
I always loved a "straight acting" gay/bi guy or better yet a bearish guy to fuck.
Dominant power trip? Probably. It's also good considerate and open minded. ;)
 

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I can TOTALLY relate to this. I've always tried to figure out how I can have sex with both and what the differences are. With bottom men I just sit back and do nothing. With top/versatile butch men it's definitely a turn on like you said "taking some of his masculinity". I've reached this very same theory myself and I'm really glad someone else out there has posted this. I thought it was because I envy other men's str8-ness, because I'm obviously not purely str8 to some people, and to be able to get other men into that same feminizing situation probably meets some psychological need. Who knows? Generally speaking though I enjoy having sex with men because it's sooo much easier in terms of hooking up and the kinds of activities we end up doing. I can cook up an orgy just like that, cum up to 5 times in a few hours, be engaged with up to 5 men at one time, and not be panting like dog, but to get into mixed orgies I would have to go to a swingers club, socialise a bit, and THEN...maybe, get some action. Men's sexual energies are just different I guess. However, when I do get a woman into bed, I feel a lot more satisfied afterwards. I don't know, it's just apples and oranges I guess.
 

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i used to fuck this guy from the states based here in london. exmilitary type. he LOVED talking about his ass as his pussy, cunt, or whatever. in fact, he'd be yelling about his pussy, not talking about it, while he was getting pounded. I thought it was hilarious - wonderful. totally different from the silent grunting you get from so many of my fellow brits in the sack. i told my friends: 'the great thing about fucking americans is that it's just like you're starring in a porn movie!' i don't know why people are so censorious.
 

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I am a full-fledged bi-sexual. I honestly enjoy having sex with men and women, but for different reasons. When I'm with a woman, it's more about pleasing her. I get more aroused watching her react to my techniques.

:rolleyes:

When it comes to sex with a dude, for me, it's all about the power struggle--stripping his masculinity for a little while.

I think that with that frame of mind I can understand why some straight men may be a little apprehensive about gay men. Rape is about power, too.

I started messing around with guys when I was a junior in college. He was a good friend and my roommate. Watching porn together, squirting contests and tag-teaming a girl is how we started out. Then it was wrestliing, jerking off, bjs, but that was just "okay" for me. I probably would have left guys alone if he and I had not gone any further.

But then I fucked him, and his hole was like a Pandora's Box for me!

AND IT WAS you that unleashed all of the misery unto the world and unto the gay community by pulling out. :rolleyes:

I liked the way it felt, and my mind was having a total power trip! I still remember it: Him on his knees, grabbing onto the desk legs and chair, head in the cushion and my big dick halfway up his ass! I knew this guy's girlfriend, his teammates, even his family. But I was the only one in the world who saw him (6'3, 235# wrestler) in that position, getting power-fucked by another dude-- ME!!

Question: Did the guy you were with enjoy that? That seems scary. Seems like rape to me.

I don't get off on fucking a guy who already knows that he's a bottom. That's too easy.

Huh?

I like fucking a guy (an almost "str8" guy) who would never consider himself a bottom until I showed him. He's reluctant, very nervous. Thinking "Don't tell anyone!" And for the longest time, he's totally paranoid about what happened and about me having that power-- owning some private part of his masculinity (as it once was).

Again, I think that is the reason why straight men are apprehensive about gay men. This seems like rape to me.

For me, there's nothing better than showing a guy that he's got a "man-pussy" !

Oh, no he din't say...manpussy . :redface:

Too twisted? Anyone guys understand?

Yeah, that would appear to be twisted in real life. I just hope that the sex was consensual. You don't turn out guys who aren't into anal sex. You don't have any man's permission to "introduce" them to anal. Those situations sound good in fantasy but sound like a PANDORA'S BOX in real life. I wouldn't want to strip any man's masculinity whatever that may be. I don't desire to dominate any man. I sure do not want him dominating me.
 

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This power dynamic isn't as simple as it sounds.

The top only has as much power as the bottom is willing to consent to and allow.The bottom sets the limits. A top may push the limits, but disrespecting them is rape, not sex.

The best example i can think of, though it's certain to turn some people off, is fisting. The fistbottom dictates the speed, duration and extent of the play. Anything else could literally be fatal. And the top's chief source of pleasure is in participating in the ecstasy of the bottom as an observer and facilitator.

Penile sex involves much more direct physical pleasure, but the same dynamic holds true. And I speak as a 100% top. I have no talent for bottoming whatsoever.
 

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This power dynamic isn't as simple as it sounds...The top only has as much power as the bottom is willing to consent to and allow. The bottom sets the limits...The best example i can think of...is fisting. The fistbottom dictates the speed, duration and extent of the play...the top's chief source of pleasure is in participating in the ecstasy of the bottom as an observer and facilitator.

I think this is an excellent example. Thank you.